Quixk decision. Do I take the risk or stay at home doing chores?

[RiverF]

I've been at parkrun this morning, chatting with the usual crowd over coffee. There's a man who occasionally sends me slightly flirtatious messages, but has never followed up IRL.

We were both heading home to do chores today, but it's a beautiful day here and I'd rather spend it doing pretty much anything else.

I was thinking of sending a message asking if he feels the same way and shall we go to the seaside for a couple of hours. An easy 30 min journey for us. We both have a very early start tomorrow, so it can be clear it's afternoon only, which is good, I think?

Or, if he wanted to he'd ask and I should just stay at home and get on with the jobs?

He's nice enough, I don't for a minute think he'll be the love of my life, but I'm not looking for that anyway.

I tossed a coin and that told me to do it, but I'm still being a chicken!

You're not losing anything by asking!

There's not much harm in the message if you only see him at park run and could avoid him if you wanted to.

I'm a you-only-live-once type, I'd rather live with the temporary pain of rejection than forever wonder what could have been!

Turn on voting. But everyone here is going to say don’t be silly, go home and do your chores, what makes you think he would want to go with you?

Oh hang on a minute.. that was my mum speaking.

CALL HIM NOW AND GO TO THE SEASIDE AND HAVE SOME FUN!

Go for it!

Seaside might be a bit much for a casual meet up but perhaps suggest a coffee?

Do it

No harm at all, as long as you give them a get-out like ‘short notice, so no worries if you’ve already got plans’ and as long as you keep us updated!

@RiverF Nothing ventured....😎

I do see him and people he knows a lot, so there's quite a lot of face to be lost....Also if he wanted to he's had plenty of opportunity

Do it!!

But agree with another poster, perhaps ask if he wants to go for a coffee so it's short and sweet & less pressure.

Get on with it OP, feel the sand between your toes.

I thought the seaside because "as it's such a nice day" . There's nowhere locally to have coffee outside.

A day at the seaside seems a bit like something you would do further on...more like a third or fourth date.

What about a glass of wine or beer at a pub that has a nice outdoor space instead?

I was thinking a walk along the seafront and coffee/ice cream. I'd say if you're good I'll buy you an ice cream and make a bit of a joke of it?

Do it! You’re not inviting him on a holiday… it’s nearby, as you say makes sense in context, you can just spend a few hours… I think coffee feels more contrived

We've both got things that mean we can't drink today and I thought the pub was more of "date".

Popping to the seafront is something people here do often, as it's really close. It's not a big day out thing for us.

You don't have to drink at the pub, you could just have a lemo and most pubs do hot drinks. Plus the seaside takes a bit of planning.

Just do it OP, you can easily style it out if he says no, just blame it on an attack of the 'fuck it's' because the sun was out and you wanted to avoid the aforementioned housework. It's what you want to do so you may as well give it a shot, nothing to lose really 🤷🏻‍♀️

Noo, coffee is more intimate than a bit of fresh sea air!

Do it! I'd position it as "I'm doing this, would you like to come?"

Definitely message him.

Yea do it. Could be as friends with potential for something more. If you would ask a female friend then it's fine to ask a male friend and see what happens

If you live near the coast its the equivalent of going somewhere for coffee, not a big deal at all, have you done it OP

He said no, he needs to do the bloody chores!

Well done OP. Boo to chores.