What is your 'Sliding Doors' moment?

[bridgerbelle]

Defined as a seemingly inconsequential moment or decision that goes on to dramatically affects the trajectory of your life.

So what's something small that, if you went back and changed now, would result in you being a different person/living a different life?

Adding here that I'm sure this has been done before, but I can't find a recent thread and I'm nosy!

Chose one job over the other and met my husband.

I wouldn't have nearly the amazing life I have now if that didn't happen

Not buying the box of wine in France which led to me drinking at home all those years ago!

Cycled to work one day.
Got run over (illegal driver)
Missed new work opportunity which was about to start, while having surgeries etc
Had to take different job after recovered, completely different area.

Met husband, had kids, moved to the country.

I think I'd be living in Germany in a city with a parrot companion who goes everywhere with me and a beautiful lover for booty calls, if I hadn't cycled to work that day. 🤣

I went to an acquaintance’s wedding reception even though my miserable fiancé refused to go because he wanted to watch stay in and watch Match of the Day. An hour later, I fell completely in love at first sight with the wonderful man I’ve been married to for twenty years.

I went to a gig in a different city and decided to live there. The move accelerated my career, massively improved my self esteem, gave me an amazing set of friends and meant I met my fiance.

I was renting a flat above a literal crack den scraping by and now I’m a 40% taxpayer, home owner and have a comfortable happy life.

When I was 21 me and my bf were a bit on and off. Then we broke up for good. We were going to meet and talk about it but decided not to. I then was going to be single but went to the pub to see my mate who worked there. Got chatting to her 18 year old colleague. We swapped numbers and we’ve now been together for 22 years and married for nearly 3 and have DD 11

My son was bullied at a youth group he went to, so he stopped going. He decided he wanted to start again, but at a different group. That one was run by my now DP. So if DS hadn't been bullied (and then hadn't decided to move groups rather than give up altogether) I wouldn't have met my very lovely DP. Which is very bittersweet!

Got headhunted to a job which turned out to be a huge mistake from which my mental health may never fully recover.

I didn’t want to go out on a Saturday night, adamant that I was staying in, my friends coaxed me out, met DH

I hope you're getting the support you deserve 💐

In 1994 I was 18 years old and walking to my summer pub job in south Kensington. I used to always walk the same route via Kensignton Palace Gardens but on one occasion at the last second I decided to walk down the parallel Kensington church street as I remembered there was a clothing shop that I wanted to pop into. Just as I was stepping into the shop there was a massive boom and all the windows got blown in and I was thrown to the ground. Feeling a bit stupid I picked myself up to see half the other shop windows broken, car alarms going off, screams and the distant sound of police sirens. Turned out a car bomb had exploded by the Israeli embassy on Kensington Palace Gardens, exactly where I would have been walking it I had not elected to visit the shop.

Didn't have my size anyway.😐

Way home from music practice with then boyfriend and another friend. Chose to take the shortcut ho.e rather than going home with him.
Unfortunately was attacked.
PTSD after that made me act in a very risky fashion for a few months... such as a One Night Stand with a soldier.
Whove I've been married to for 14 years now!

Went for a coffee after work with my boyfriend instead of going for a drink with a lovely male colleague who was keen to start something. My boyfriend proposed to me that evening. 25 years later we're still married, though I must admit to sometimes wondering 'what if?'.

Gosh, so glad you are safe

Not dating at least two guys that were lovely who went on to be incredibly successful and probably would have treated me like a queen, but something held me back. I've never been great at picking who to date!
Always avoided working in a certain area and I do wonder how much better off and how different my life would be if I hadn't purposely chosen not to go there.

Making the decision to not attend for termination of pregnancy with my first child. She is wonderful. If I had gone, I would not have stayed with my husband who is the best man ever

Cadogan were you going to Amazon, as it was then? 😀
I was working off High Street Ken on that day. Vividly remember the explosion making the windows kind of bulge in without breaking. Then the street filled with pedestrians.

I don't think I found out what had actually happened until I saw the paper on the way home.

Haven't thought about that in years!

I've had a great career in the same sector which started with me getting a graduate scheme job in 2001. I remember feeling really unwell on the day of the 'big' interview almost to the point I was about to go home. I remember sitting outside the room and standing up to leave and someone else said 'you just need to be brilliant for an hour'. I was. I threw up immediately that I got out the room and was in bed with pneumonia for weeks after. But I got the job. Stayed with the company for 12 years and it's shaped my future.

My sister’s friend borrowed his friend’s phone to text my sister. She replied asking who it was that texted her and the friend’s friend replied. They got chatting, randomly bumped into one another, started dating and he introduced my sister to his family. He had a brother who my sister thought I may like. My sister ended up dumping him and I started dating the man’s brother! He is now my husband and we’ve been together over 20 years! Had my sister’s friend now borrowed the friend’s mobile all them years ago, I would never have met / married my husband .

Gosh, so many…making a last minute decision to go abroad for boyfriends job at age 23, was due to start a career with Virgin as an air stewardess and move to London from the North. Instead we have lived abroad for 23 years and I’m now a teacher
I often wonder how different my life would have been had I taken the other path

One of my closest friends walked out of a university lecture (not in the UK) because he was bored and everyone was crammed in, sitting on the steps because there weren’t enough seats. As he left the building, the doors flew open behind him as a bomb went off in the lecture hall.

9/11, he should have been at a meeting in the World Trade Centre but it was cancelled. 7/7 he didn’t buy a coffee before getting the tube to work as usual because the queue was too long. The bomb went off just as he walked out of Aldgate station.

Not using a condom on New Year's Eve 2016 👶

Wow, one of those moments that makes you realise how fragile life is!

I’ve had a couple.

I wasn’t meant to be home from uni, I had plans to go to a party on the Friday night but I decided to go home. My dad died on the Saturday, suddenly with no prior illness. If I had gone to the party I wouldn’t have been there.

Then my husband. This time I wasn’t meant to be going to a party at uni. I had zero interest in going but at the last minute I decided to go and cobbled together a fancy dress outfit. Met my now husband that night but we didn’t get together until years later, with a FWB situation. Then we had to go and fall in love