Mid 40s, what is it we are all missing/need??

[2point4kiddies]

I've followed a couple of 'coaching' calls recently for women of a similar age and there are so many women saying they don't feel enough/don't feel fulfilled, are fed up, stuck in a rut and it got me wondering what it is that these women/we all need at this stage in our lives? I get we are all potentially struggling with parenting/our own parents/perimenopause/jobs (and possible dissatisfaction) but as most of these things cannot be changed, what do we need/can we realistically do to help these feelings??

What @camelfinger said

Time. Rest. Money.

This. I'm just so fucking tired. I have lots of ideas for things I'd like to do that would make my everyday a bit more meaningful but I am too tired. I am going to bed. Night night.

Not being the sandwich generation.
I work more than full time in a demanding job. I can't afford long term to take a job that would no doubt be as hard but maybe less as I'm a single/ co parent (my kids see their dad and I do get some maintenance but it doesn't cover even 50% of childcare; but I'd rather him be able to afford to live in a decent place).
My dad passed away in October and the caring I did for him has now been replaced with support for my mum.
My kids are amazing and I have a wonderful supportive partner who is in different but challenging circumstances.
I feel trapped by not being able to being the best for anyone in my life.

If you are a sex realist (gender critical) then I highly recommend connecting with women in the movement. They are clever and funny and keep you on your toes!
@Leafstamp how might one find these women please? As a local group I mean, not on FWR

Time.
Spontaneity/ anticipation.
Friends.
When I get a little bit of any of them, it makes me realise how much I miss these.

@AndSoFinally I’ve PMd you

I cannot even remember my 40's! That is not due to drugs or alcohol either! I had no kids and did not start looking after my mum and to a lesser extent, her sister until I was in my 60's . They have both passed and I am 64 now.