I have no idea what to ask DH for, for my 40th.

[FourTea]

Big birthday, biggish budget but

• Don't want to go anywhere, holiday, weekend away etc
• Don't wear/ have any interest in jewellery
• No interest in bags, make up, perfume, shoes.
• Don't enjoy meals out.

I don't want money as I will just end up spending it on the kids.

I really, honestly can't think of what to ask for!

I got a bike from DP for my 40th. It's a beautiful looking bike and saved me lots of money over the years as less spent on buses etc

Don't then? Never understand these threads. "I don't want anything, can't think of anything but I have to make up something that sounds like a present someone might want because of an arbitrary date".

I don't get it. If you can't think of anything you want then surely that means you don't want anything. Why do you have to force yourself to find something if you're not bothered?

Because I'm asking for ideas!

He's going to get me something and I'd rather think of something then him panic and spend money on something else.

Deliveroo vouchers!

Defo a piece of art. Commissioned of your pets is a great idea. You will have it as long as you would jewellery unlike many other suggestions.

Donation to a cause you like - an animal charity for example

Ideas because in 40 years you haven't figured what you like?

Fair enough, hope someone find the magical idea for you. I just find the concept funny that you don't want anything but because of a calendar date feel you have to invent wanting something.

I tend to agree. It always makes me think how wealthy someone must be, as I have a fucking massive list of stuff I'd love, but can't afford I can't imagine being in a situation where I already have absolutely everything I would like, in terms of material possessions or experiences.

That probably sounds a bit jealous and tbh I probably am I'm not going to suggest giving all the gift money to charity as I will sound even more bitter and misanthropic, but what about a sponsorship or similar? A charity I sponsor sends monthly emails of where donations are spent and it's heart warming to keep updated throughout the year.

Also, do you never take your DC away or out for meals?

I understand your social anxiety makes you reluctant to go out, but you also say any money you received you'd spend on your DC, so if you don't normally take them out or away, it may give you pleasure seeing their pleasure, if that makes sense?

It's not a wealth issue. I could buy myself pretty much what I wanted within reason (not sports car level but just about everything in this thread) but I just don't really want anything. I don't particularly like stuff and I have far more than I need of the things I do like.

And if I did want something, I'd need to choose it to find the right one. I wouldn't want anyone else choosing anything I have to use, wear or display. And if I have to tell them what to buy, it's not a present.

So I don't want big presents, am not particularly bothered about presents and I also don't understand 'I don't want anything but I need ideas of what to ask for so we can exchange gifts so we can say we've done it'.

For my last big birthday I had a meal out and a short break, both of which I chose and while neither were the sorts of things DP would choose, he genuinely enjoyed both, as did I, so to me that was a success.

Ask him for some flowers and to save up the money to do something bigger for your 50th. That’ll give you another 10 years to think of something rather than waste money for the sake of it now

Do you need a present then? Why don't you not bother and save the money for when there is something you would like to buy or do?

You can get an afternoon tea delivered.
Rent a hot tub for the weekend.
Some really nice silk flowers.

Art is good. I have a framed limited edition print by my favourite artist which I chose for my 40th, I see it every day and it is of a location which is really special for us as a family.

I also love ceramics and have a few lovely pieces from birthdays over the years.

It's nice to mark a "milestone" birthday with something special.

Some therapy sessions to help with your social anxiety.

Two of the recent presents I received have been real favourites.
A Robert’s radio & best of all a professional photo session of my dogs after which I got to choose my favourite two & they were framed, big frames not tiny photo frames.
or do you have a garden or even outdoor space for a tub? A David Austin rose of your choice. Or something in cashmere, a hoody, jumper or even a blanket to snuggle under on the sofa

@Darklane beat me to it. I'd ask for a cashmere jumper.

I ask for vouchers for the cinema and theatre

Do you have any interests like that?

I'm on disability benefits in a council house so you have the complete wrong end of the stick!

It's my birthday soon and I can't think of anything I want. I have enough stuff! And I don't want something just for the sake of getting something. I know where you are coming from OP!

For my 40th I got some Lego and became an AFOL (Adult Fan of Lego).
I loved Lego as a child so was very excited to get back into it.
What did you enjoy as a child? Is there something you used to enjoy doing at home that you could start up again - sewing, jigsaws, reading?
You could get a selection of crafty sets from Hobbycraft to try different things out and see if one leads to a hobby you can do at home.

Other idea -
If you like reading then suggest a copy of a popular book from the year you were born (1974).

What type of pets?

if you have a dog how about a really decent waterproof jacket, wellies etc

It sounds as if you want some fuss, but don't fancy being the centre of attention. You sound like a happy homebody:
How about a garden makeover/new plants/new furniture?
40 IOU cards from each member of the family to make them do chores you don't fancy?
New vases/mugs/china/glasses?

Happy birthday, BTW

Apple Watch? Hot tub? Air pods?