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What would you say to a friend's husband who said you had good legs?

59 replies

PCcrisps · 14/06/2024 16:53

Part of a mixed friendship group. I am in no way close to him, but we share a similar "intellect" and often chat about current affairs. That's about the extent of my relationship with him. I enjoy chatting with him because he challenges me, I respect his views and he mine and we have a good debate.

Recently we'd been to a sporting thing and were having a few (many) drinks afterwards. I've no idea how the topic came up, but some of the men were discussing legs. There's no way to make that sound good, but I don't think it's quite as bad as it sounds, these are decent enough men who respect women by their actions, even if they can occasionally be a bit laddish after a drink.

Anyway friend's husband said "You've got good legs, haven't you?" A question.

I think my legs are OK, but it had never occurred to me he'd look, notice or care, much less comment on it. Verybout of character, I've never heard him remark on any woman's appearance until then. I stood there like a goldfish for a moment and said "thank you".

I don't for a minute think he was making a pass at me, it was in front of everyone, including his wife who appeared to find it funny.

What should I have said?

OP posts:
TomatoSandwiches · 14/06/2024 16:56

I'd have said you had an even better left hook with a raised eyebrow and then left.

OriginalUsername2 · 14/06/2024 16:58

I’d probably say “They get me about, yeah..” then swiftly change the subject.

Muffin101 · 14/06/2024 16:59

It’s a bit weird but unless I had weird vibes previously, I think I’d probably just overlook it this once and write it off as a slightly odd, drunken comment.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/06/2024 17:00

I'd say thanks and my OH loves them!!

WorkCleanRepeat · 14/06/2024 17:01

I'd have probably just said thank you and moved the conversation swiftly on too.

Treestumpp · 14/06/2024 17:03

Thanks?!

Why read so much into it? It wasnt out of context if legs were being discussed at a sport event.

Demelzatheredhaired · 14/06/2024 17:03

The best comeback would have been ´and you are legless, Mike, how many (drinks have you had now?’

twentysevendresses · 14/06/2024 17:28

My stock response to remarks like this is, "Thanks, I grew them all by myself!"

SiobhanSharpe · 14/06/2024 17:31

'Don't be a dick, chum. Would your wife would like to know you've been perving on my body?'

pinkdelight · 14/06/2024 17:31

I'd comment on a guy having good legs if he did and it wouldn't mean anything more. I'd just say thanks! Different if he's sending you pervy messages but I wouldn't read anything into what you describe.

AuntieJoyce · 14/06/2024 17:31

all the better to run away from you with

HelpAGirlOut1234 · 14/06/2024 17:53

I don't know, without more context I'd be inclined to think it was just a compliment from what you have written. Men can and often do compliment each other on their appearance too, the men I know anyway. So unless you felt there was any sleaziness involved, I'd have just said thanks.

Screamingabdabz · 14/06/2024 17:59

How disappointing that married men, out with their wives and friends, are still objectifying other women. Next time you’re vibing with him on what you think is a cognitive level, he’s just seeing you as meat. Vile.

tiggergoesbounce · 14/06/2024 18:05

I wouldn't have given it a second thought Confused.

MissMoneyFairy · 14/06/2024 18:07

If someone said it to me they need new glasses

MartyFunkhouser · 14/06/2024 18:09

I’d have said, ‘I have, yes’ and taken it as a compliment.

My male colleague told me yesterday I have amazing hair (I have 🤷‍♀️). I’m really not going to be offended by such things.

Aallvtirin · 14/06/2024 18:10

I'd say "thanks I grew them myself" 🤣

If he's not being particularly pervy I wouldn't find it weird. I have a friend with fantastic legs - long, slim, toned - she gets random compliments on them from friends and strangers all the time

determinedtomakethiswork · 14/06/2024 18:19

MartyFunkhouser · 14/06/2024 18:09

I’d have said, ‘I have, yes’ and taken it as a compliment.

My male colleague told me yesterday I have amazing hair (I have 🤷‍♀️). I’m really not going to be offended by such things.

Are you Penny Mordaunt?

MartyFunkhouser · 14/06/2024 18:21

determinedtomakethiswork · 14/06/2024 18:19

Are you Penny Mordaunt?

That is not good hair 😂

ObliviousCoalmine · 14/06/2024 18:21

I'd have said "thanks", and if I was stood up at the time I'd have probably done a weird SpongeBob style leg wiggle 🤷🏼‍♀️

Marblessolveeverything · 14/06/2024 18:22

This may be Irish context but "thanks Hun, Penny's"

mondaytosunday · 14/06/2024 18:23

'Thanks' is an appropriate response. End of.

AmelieTaylor · 14/06/2024 18:25

SiobhanSharpe · 14/06/2024 17:31

'Don't be a dick, chum. Would your wife would like to know you've been perving on my body?'

🙄🙄🙄🙄

@PCcrisps When I was younger...

Thanks, 😊

or

Thanks they do the job!!

these days I'd ask him when he was due at Spec Savers! 🤣🤣

It's not that deep.

annieloulou · 14/06/2024 18:27

Do you have good legs?

Only asking because I have 33 inch legs (5 ft 9) and get comments on this from both men and women. I usually say ‘ if I had a pound for every time I’ve heard that…..’

Just so they know their comment isn’t anything special and they haven’t made me feel awkward.

LaMadameCholet · 14/06/2024 18:29

Treestumpp · 14/06/2024 17:03

Thanks?!

Why read so much into it? It wasnt out of context if legs were being discussed at a sport event.

That’s right. Men habitually stand about complementing each on the attractiveness of their legs at sporting events. 🙄

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