What would you say to a friend's husband who said you had good legs?

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Part of a mixed friendship group. I am in no way close to him, but we share a similar "intellect" and often chat about current affairs. That's about the extent of my relationship with him. I enjoy chatting with him because he challenges me, I respect his views and he mine and we have a good debate.

Recently we'd been to a sporting thing and were having a few (many) drinks afterwards. I've no idea how the topic came up, but some of the men were discussing legs. There's no way to make that sound good, but I don't think it's quite as bad as it sounds, these are decent enough men who respect women by their actions, even if they can occasionally be a bit laddish after a drink.

Anyway friend's husband said "You've got good legs, haven't you?" A question.

I think my legs are OK, but it had never occurred to me he'd look, notice or care, much less comment on it. Verybout of character, I've never heard him remark on any woman's appearance until then. I stood there like a goldfish for a moment and said "thank you".

I don't for a minute think he was making a pass at me, it was in front of everyone, including his wife who appeared to find it funny.

What should I have said?

"thanks! I can walk with them and everything!"

In the context you describe I would have said thank you and moved on.
Is it so far away from anyone saying you look nice?
If a male friend of mine who happens to be happily married made such a comment I wouldn't immediately jump to him perving or objectifying me.

Dunno, lots of people see my body in swim and running kit - I'm just a person.

'all the better to kick you in the balls with if you make another comment like that'

Tbf, one of the men in the group has amazing thighs, I'm not sure exactly why they're so attractive but they're muscular without being too much and possibly because they're a bit incongruous with the rest of him, which is quite ordinary. We women have told him how much we like his legs, often.

I wouldn’t find it offensive. Yesterday a colleague was wearing shorts as she was cycling home. I said “you’ve got good legs” because she does. And as she left the office another colleague came in & said to me “she has really good legs”. Yes, we are all females but one of DGs friends has fantastic arms, they are perfect. Toned with definition but not big muscles, nice even skin etc I don’t fancy him though!

And my BIL has fantastic teeth, all natural, great size, not too white etc but again I don’t fancy him.

You didn’t often see people with great legs or arms, teeth so it stands out 😆

Nice update and adds balance to this bizarre thread. You guys just love talking legs!

That’s right. Men habitually stand about complementing each on the attractiveness of their legs at sporting events.

DHs & his friends admire said friends arms I mentioned above.

Legs, arms and teeth are OK then? Tits, arse and feet I'm guessing are off limits?!

Well people often comment on DHs feet, he’s a 13. I get comments on my feet because they are small for my height.

Tits & arse difficult as less likely to be related to sports performance but I’ve certainly commented on my friends great bum etc.
I’m not really into men’s bums & don’t like men’s tits so not had the opportunity to remark on those.

Why would feet be in the same category as tits?

It's very big business on OF and other sites like that, so I'm told!

What creep.
I would have pulled a face and said "what a creepy thing to say, fuck off with ya perving." If I was younger and shyer I would have just pulled a face and walked away.

I'd have just said thank you and rolled my eyes. I wonder how often, during your intellectual chats, he's been fantasising about your legs wrapped around him? 😩

I would feel a bit weird about it and say - thanks I grew them myself.

@Treestumpp surely it’s still fairly niche though? Feet don’t tend to turn heads 😆

I'd have just said thank you and rolled my eyes. I wonder how often, during your intellectual chats, he's been fantasising about your legs wrapped around him?

I can categorically say I’ve never thought of my male friend in a sexual way because of his great arms.

They're not bad for their age, quite athletic, but they are 54 so.....

Let's not pretend it's different when it's a man commenting on women. He has definitely had sexual thoughts about them. Creep AF

Well isn't it just the same as you telling the other man he has good thighs?

Let's not pretend it's different when it's a man commenting on women. He has definitely had sexual thoughts about them. Creep AF

Context matters

No it's different cos all men are predators. sarcasm

Don't you ever notice a man's biceps? After a few drinks pay a compliment?

I've had a nice comment on my legs from a colleague. I must admit I was secretly quite chuffed as he was a lot younger than me, single and hot - but I didn't want to encourage. I just said 'thanks, they reach the ground' and moved swiftly on.

You say your male friends act respectful apart from when they are drinking. So was this generally a disrespectful conversation? Was the it about legs in general or specifically about women's legs? What was the " good legs" referring to : muscled legs good for sport or good legs to look at?
My feeling is if your group including yourself, indulges in conversations like this - you say you regularly tell one of the men he has good thighs- then it's double standards to act all uptight because of this guy's comment.