Gift for my DD who has just found out that she achieved a first

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So bloody proud.
Our DD got the result today, she achieved a first. Unbelievable considering her subject was maths and she caught Covid 4 times in her first year.
What be a suitable gift/reward?

After my daughters A levels I paid for us to go away somewhere warm for a few days. She is autistic too and having a few days one to one was a really memorable treat. Especially because she really relaxed.
I bought this for my daughter's 16th and she never takes it off https://www.astleyclarke.com/celestial-radial-locket-necklace-in-sterling-silver I put a photo in and an engraving on the back. I liked that it represents a voyage of discovery at a key point in her life.

Well done to your brilliant daughter! I'd think jewellery but she gets to choose, or the tattoo if that's what she wants. A first in maths is not to be under estimated.

Huge congratulations! You must be very proud of her.

I have no idea what we bought DS when he graduated but I know we bought him something. He's really hard to buy for so it was probably some practical stuff. It wasn't for a particular grade though, it was just for graduating. He got a 2:1, which was excellent, given Covid etc.

DD is graduating this year and has a first and a couple of gold medals. She is much easier to buy for so we will be getting her some jewellery, but again, it's just for graduating, not the award level. Sorry, I know I'm repeating that but I just think graduating is super in and of itself and I don't want to put pressure on the youngest by rewarding a specific grade.

A tattoo sounds like a great idea. Alternatively, what about some goth type silver jewellery? Or there was a thread I was looking at in S&B where the op was looking for a goth style handbag.

Congrats to you and you dd.

Congratulations to your brilliant daughter. A tattoo of her choice will be a touching personal reminder.

DS is graduating on Tuesday and we’ll know his final mark then.
So far we’ve bought or ordered
suit, shoes, belt and shirt
dress watch
cocktail reception for 20 with canapés and a cake
bound copies of his thesis
50x 5 red sugared almonds in bags(!) with a keepsake key ring on each
and a crown of laurels which many students hang up to dry and keep.

Grandparents (RIP) spoke about buying a Gladstone bag, but he’s more interested in a classic Barbour jacket. We’ll see…

We bought our daughters necklaces for their graduation. Not sure what we will get ds. 3rd July we find out if he got his 1st. Well done to your dd op

Dh got a watch from his parents wheb he graduated.

Yeah, I didn’t get any parental presents for any of these, either, and it was a starred double first, plus I have two masters degrees.

I feel very hard done by now.😀

I'm not saying it had to be something big though. To not mark 3 big successes at all, not even a card with £20 in it if times are hard just seems so strange to me

A meal out IS marking a graduation/a gift, it doesnt have to be an elaborate or expensive 'thing', just something to mark a v important step in life

I didn’t get a first, but I did treat myself to a new handbag for my degree and a necklace for my Masters.

It's been a thing for years. I have read a number of memoirs from the 19th century where the guy (it is always a guy) mentions that he got a gold watch or a new shotgun or something similar from a proud father when he got his degree.

Well done to your DD. The resukts are early. DD didn't find out until 1st July.

I would have liked to buy DD some earrings, but as she has so many I didn't want to get something she already had. As she has a July birthday I treated her to a 10 course tasting menu at her favourite chef's Michelin starred restaurant instead.

While she doesn't have anything physical to remind her of the day except for photos. It will stay in her memory. It was absolutely brilliant.

Congratulations!
My two didn't go to uni but if they had, I would have treated them, especially achieving a first.
They both got cars for their 18th on completing A Levels.
My neice got a first and my sister funded a holiday for neice and her friend.
Your daughter obv loves her tattoos so paying for another one, to mark her achievement, sounds like a lovely gesture.

Fuck me, imagine wanting to celebrate the incredible achievement of your child who must have worked so so hard 🙄 people really do like to rain on anyone else’s parade!

Agree @Pompleandprim - I was going to suggest that @RaininSummer tweaks her username!
All of our family achievements are celebrated. My mum still gets me a gift when I've achieved something. Recently a lovely house warming gift and beautiful card (my first property purchase as a single woman) and I'm 53!

Wow
Some of these posters are so miserable and judgmental.Everyone can parent how they want and recognising your child's achievements and hard work are normal in our world and thankfully many others.

Really well done to your dd and a tattoo to mark the occasion sounds like a thoughtful idea from proud parents who know their child well.

OP is posting how proud she is of her DD and is asking for ideas on how to celebrate her massive achievement, yet posters are tripping over themselves to announce their own results and the fact that their parents chose not to celebrate them?

@Topseyt123 if she likes tattoos, find out who her favourite artist is and treat her to a session with them well done to her!

Well done 👏 a lovely gold ring of her choice would be nice

This was the story of thing my friends from university got for their graduation. I was green with envy tbh

To put things into perspective, when I graduated in 1988 I got a meal at the nearest BHS cafe, a scenic walk and a Mars Bar ice cream (just invented). I was given an angle-poise study lamp for getting into university.

My parents on the other hand got a guided walk around the campus, a fancy ceremony to watch and some professional photos to put on the mantelpiece. They regularly told me it was one of their happiest days. First generation of University graduates and all it meant to them.

DBro refused to have the official ceremony IMO to make a political stand and spite his parents.

Ignore the kill joys pretending to be surprised. They are either jealous or stealth boasting about their/ their kids first.

Well done to your daughter and I’d go for jewellery if she’s into that sort of thing.

Give her that big squeeze and tell her how proud you are! She might feel awkward at the time but no-one ever wished their parents showed them less love ❤️

She should be so proud of herself 🎉

Not pretending to be surprised actually. Generally surprised. Had no idea this was a thing.

Well done your DD

Tattoo is such a great idea if she loves them. (To me it's like a gift of permanent jewellery!) If she has her preferred artist, I'd reserve a slot asap as the waiting list can be months long. A lot do gift vouchers now, or bank transfers so your DD can book her own. You may already know this of course. Or if she has a particular style, sometimes amazing well known internationals do guest slots at conventions or other studios (I got one of mine this way and fuck me it cost a lot, and was a long wait, but it was for something very very special). If your DD could have something like that it would probably mean the world to her.

Well done to all the graduates this year and all the celebrations of their achievements, monetary gifts or not. (I really want to say "and fuck off" to the smug boastful twats but that would kind of ruin the vibe of my post )

I'm sure you're not intending to come across as chippy and unpleasant but you really, really are.

How other families celebrate their achievements is of absolutely no relevance to how you celebrate yours, nobody is judging you and there's no need for you to judge them. "Spendy" 🤨. Unclench. Relax. Let people enjoy things.

I say that as a working class woman who was the first in my family to go to university and didn't get any kind of gift or meal out to celebrate. I knew my family were enormously proud of me, but it doesn't stop me thinking it is really sweet that this family want to celebrate their daughter's degree.