People making rude comments about your DC

[airtowaterheat]

How do you react if people (adults I mean) are back biting about your DC? By this I mean "friends" , family members or like acquaintances

Do you ever straight up confront them? Had this with me and I blurted out "Shut The Fuck Up"

Kudos.

Not sure how I'd handle it - no children...but I wish my mum had done that when I was a child.

I don't recall hearing any tbh. Can you give an example of how they've insulted them? Do you think you may have been oversensitive?

Depends what they were saying and whether they had a point even if phrased badly, and of course whether or not my kid heard.

What sort of rude comments, are they commenting on your child's behaviour or something else?

They said my DD was "all looks no brain" as she missed her A-level grades and went to her insurance of Liverpool. This is for biochem

Oh well they can just piss off with that shit.
Ignore them.

My response to that would not have been polite.

In that case your response was fully justified.

Hope your DD is having a great time at uni.

I think you covered it with, “Shut the fuck up”, really.

More information needed. Are they saying ‘Little Freddie’s not ‘spirited’, he’s a pain’?

Sorry, missed your second post. That’s profoundly nasty and says nothing at all about your daughter and everything about the commenter. I hope you strung them up.

They called your daughter 'All looks, no brain?' They sound jealous. (And spiteful.)

You shoulda laughed at them.

'Shut the fuck up!' works too.

These people are twats @airtowaterheat but what does this mean...

"she missed her A-level grades and went to her insurance of Liverpool. This is for biochem."

Well they sound like they haven't got brains (or looks) - just a big nasty mouth. STFU is exactly right, and don't bother with them any more or inflict them on your DD.

I think she means that her DD didn't get quite high enough A Level grades to get into her first choice of university, so went to her second (insurance) choice, but I think Biochem is a very difficult subject, so she must still be very bright.

This was because DD missed out on her firm of UCL.

I think you said the right thing.

I wish I'd thought of that when someone related to MIL told me little DD1 looked "as Irish as Paddy's pig". Grrrrrrr.

I wish I’d had your response to hand when someone was rude to me/my Dc recently. What was the response from the person to STFU?

My neighbour shouted at me recently as DS(9) and I were leaving home “what have you been feeding him?” I said ‘what?’ and he repeated it again. Then he came and stood gaping at DC and said “he’s put on so much weight.’ I said he is absolutely normal weight thank you, and he’s just seen a paediatrician 2 weeks ago and all health checks were normal including height/weight percentiles (consultant actually said this so it’s not me assuming). He then said it again! I said curtly that he is absolutely perfect thank you very much and walked off with DS. DS has had a growth spurt and shot up over 2cm in about two months, however he said weight not getting so tall etc. I’m furious and wish I’d told him to STFU but I was caught totally off guard.

I wouldn't have that at all and three years in Liverpool will mean that your daughter won't put up with that either!

Liverpool university is an excellent uni. Are these people snobbish because they went to Oxbridge?

How come your daughter has got her A-level results anyway if she's only just got into uni?

My DD is in year 1 at Liverpool.

Liverpool is a decent University.
These people were both mean and poorly educated.
Even if she had gone on a bad university their comment would still have been unacceptably rude.

I went to Liverpool too - mind you, it was a long, long time ago, so I'm sure it's got over it now. 😆

Ah ha, thank you. That makes sense now.

@airtowaterheat

This was because DD missed out on her firm of UCL.

Your DD will be fine @airtowaterheat I love Liverpool, and it would be a great place to be at University!

I assume I've done the right thing by NOT telling DD what was said about her.

Absolutely.