People making rude comments about your DC

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How do you react if people (adults I mean) are back biting about your DC? By this I mean "friends" , family members or like acquaintances

Do you ever straight up confront them? Had this with me and I blurted out "Shut The Fuck Up"

Who said it?

A fellow school mum from our local area.

100% don’t tell her! It’s a backhanded compliment at best and she won’t benefit from hearing it.

I have never heard anyone say something so rude/horrible about my DC but telling them to shut the fuck up seems perfect. I’ll store that in case I ever need it. How did they react to it?

Definitely just jealous then.

You are definitely right not to tell her. I remember my friend when I was 16 and we had just done our O Levels as they were then - I don't think my friend really considered what she was saying or she wouldn't have repeated it. She was trying to make me (and my Mum who was present too) understand how disappointed her Mum was with her results. She said "If Fridgegrazer can get 8 O Levels, then you certainly should have." OP, I took my O levels in 1971 and I have never forgotten that all along, Alice's mother privately thought I was a bit thick. So please don't tell your daughter.

Never really had the experience that you describe, but yes of course, completely right to tell the twatty mum to fuck off in that situation. How embarrassing for her to have said something so incredibly rude and ignorant.

Well done to your dd. Liverpool is a fantastic city and I hope that she is enjoying it.

Oh, and definitely don't tell your dd what she said. She doesn't need to hear shit like that, it adds nothing to her life.

FWIW, Liverpool is a WAY better place to be a Uni student and find your feet as a young adult than London. It's a beautiful, vibrant city and one of the friendliest, most welcoming places I've ever visited in the UK. Everything happens for a reason.

It's hilly and windy as fuck though! She'll need a bloody good winter coat 😂

Why would a fellow school mum be jealous of a random daughter going to Liverpool? Did she want to go there and didn't get it?

If course you dont tell her OP, why would you even need to ask?

Maybe her own child is neither brains nor beauty. 🤷‍♀️

There were snides remarks before about how "sorry" she was that my DD wasn't going to go ahead with applying for medicine. (DD was finding the prep really really stressful and decided it wasn't worth it). We obviously supported DD's choice.

That's a horrible thing to say. I hope they weren't close family or friends

"Oh don't be sorry Snideypants, DD is doing what she wants to do."

Say better than all mouth no trousers.