Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Neighbour blocking access and being threatening

58 replies

FinallyFinalGirl · 26/05/2024 19:18

Hi I wonder if someone can help? A couple of weeks ago, my uncle, who is an elderly farmer, told me that one of the gates he uses to access my field, which he rents, was being blocked by two women living in the house on the other side of the lane. They had put a boulder down. So my husband went over and one of the women explained she didn't want the farmer to drive a trailer into her drive, but there was still access for a tractor.

My uncle moved the boulder out the way, as the lane had been used by him for over twenty years and that was his preferred gate (there are other gates to the fields he can use).

That evening, the woman told us she and another man had put the boulder back, and this man had also put a car alongside the gate, blocking full access now. He also damaged my gate.

This man owns field the lane ends in, so he uses it to access his field, the women use it to access their house and my uncle, until now, had used it to access my field. This lane had once been part of an old public road.

This man is maintaining he owns the lane - it has always been used by different people with NO mention of anyone owning it. My u cow talked to him but the man threatened to beat him up, leaving my uncle very shaken.

He pulled a gun on his own brother once and is considered violent - I've heard a lot of scary stories about him so further discussion with him is out of the question. He lives a little further down the main road so it feels like he is doing this to my uncle for fun.

Does anyone have any advice? We are in NI - would a solicitor be able to check deeds and the registry to see if he is, as we suspect, lying about owning the lane?

Hopefully the diagram will appear. Yellow marks are the gates. Sorry this is so long!!!

Neighbour blocking access and being threatening
OP posts:
Weenurse · 22/06/2024 07:40

I think I would continue with your plan to plant along that fence.
Does that have any implications if you want to sell?

FinallyFinalGirl · 22/06/2024 07:45

Sleepy no. They have done nothing. He has smashed windows, threatened neighbours, hit his brother with a rifle butt and threatened to shoot him, threatened my uncle, was abusive to me - and they couldn't care less.

Jaboody yeah, I have to agree, even though it stings that he can pretty much do anything he likes when it isn't his land. He's so crazy though that I have to put my family's safety first. No one needs that kind of shit in their lives.

OP posts:
Fifthtimelucky · 22/06/2024 07:46

What a horrible situation.

I think in your shoes I'd send him the proof of your shared ownership of the lane and offer to sell your half to him.

FinallyFinalGirl · 22/06/2024 07:48

Weenurse no I don't think so. The land has been in my family for so long...it will be passed down to my children in time. I don't think we will ever sell it. At least I won't.

I didn't even know the lane was half mine....I always assumed the boundary was the hedge that the gate is in. My dad and my uncle put that gate in around 25 years ago but I just assumed they had right of access as it used to be an old road.

OP posts:
FinallyFinalGirl · 22/06/2024 07:49

Fifth yes that's a possibility. He will probably try to intimidate me into giving it to him for free.

OP posts:
Scruffily · 22/06/2024 08:37

It might be worth going to someone more senior at the police. It seems to me clear that welding someone else's gate shut is definitely criminal damage, and that you couldn't possibly be found guilty of damage for repairing your own gate.

FinallyFinalGirl · 22/06/2024 09:00

Scruffily it's just a ridiculous situation and feels so unfair as the policeman said he had been "very cute" in ensuring he didn't do anything to the gate itself by welding the loop round it to keep it shut. He seems to know exactly how far to go to keep on the right side of the law.

OP posts:
lljkk · 13/01/2026 21:29

This is a ZOMBIE thread.

I just wondered, 18months on, how things turned out for @FinallyFinalGirl ?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page