Whats your worst personality trait / character flaw?

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Im too sensitive and can be quite insecure in certain situations 🥲

Care to share yours?

Not being interested in anyone unless they are really interesting. I find it hard to socialise because I'm not convincing when I fake interest in people's kids or ordinary lives.

Anxious and overthink, stubborn too. Also procrastinate quite a bit

I just can't seem to forgive, forgot and move on. If someone has wronged me in some way, that's it, they are basically dead to me. I'm not a revenge-seeker, I just don't want to have anything to do with them ever again.

Think I might be your line manager!!! 🙄

Anxious, overthink and have no self belief.
And I hold a grudge.

This is such an illuminating thread. I recognise so many others' worst traits in myself, but it's also useful to see the bad traits you know you definitely don't have. We're not all bad!

I think my worst trait is that I like to have the moral high ground and can be a bit of a matryr.

So many of us grudge-holders. Are you aware of anyone holding a grudge against you? I only know one person who cut me dead, and I have no idea why (my SIL). I wonder if I’ve offended her, can’t think how.

Also to all the people who are long suffering people pleasers…… yeah you are great to wind up, coz you do all the extra shit, sigh about it a lot, do it anyway and ….. this is the best bit….. you obv blame yourselves that you end up doing it in tie first place ! As you are ‘so needed’ and ‘no one else can be trusted to do it’.

Note these people are never paid any extra for this work. And the managers pretend to love them but never promote them.

I am mostly a very calm person but when I get mad I get really mad .A really bad temper when sparks fly and then I calm down again and feel really bad .

Excessive worrier /catastrophiser, awkwardness (small talk etc), cynical and closed off.

Stubborn as fuck.

I think I've also been her line manager 😬

Same!! Hahaha

This is such an interesting thread!
I will fixate on something and worry about it, I can find myself getting into a spiral going over and over and over the same thing… have to tell myself to stop, think it’s an anxiety thing.
i can also hold a decent grudge

I make a joke of everything, which I know people can find irritating.
I genuinely don't care about lots of things other people seem to think are important.
I have no discrimination about who I make friends with and befriend almost everyone I make eye contact with. I have made some amazing friends over the years, some good friends I might not have given a second chance and a lot of dead wood!

I carry a fuck you to the far side of fuck card in my head. The nice you are on it, you won't be coming back.

You may think I like you. In fact, I'm hoping your electric breaks down at about 11pm on Christmas Eve.

Once

im only attracted to a certain “look” so I have been long term single most of my life

I also have a low tolerance threshold and get annoyed being around people for long periods of time

im also lazy, envious, stubborn, not very resilient, play it too safe, a people pleaser (esp with my DM) and have low self esteem

im a mess 😂

@RosaRoja we are talking a grown man who was married but meeting young men for sex. I did warn him to tell his wife and in retaliation he tried to push her to kill herself as he knew his bullying wouldn’t work with me. He was bragging about his double life to a few people and they told me as he was dhs brother

@Boydd what appalling behaviour from that man. I hope your friend is rebuilding her life.