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What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

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Conniebygaslight · 15/05/2024 17:46

There have been many but reading on another thread about the CFery of a school mum reminded me of a time when my DC were at primary.
A mum asked if I’d mind picking her DC up from school and taking them to another school a few miles away where they were competing in an intersports thing. My DC were competing too so I agreed assuming she was working.
When we got there, said mum was already there in the front row with her DH & DPs. I asked what was going on, she replied that they wanted a good seat and parking so didn’t want to wait until their DC finished school so they could get their first. I was absolutely stunned…I still laugh at the audacity of this years later🤣🤣

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VeraForever · 18/05/2024 21:26

35mph · 17/05/2024 15:47

Me and dh sitting in a busy cafe, in a sort of ante room - the only part of the cafe where dogs were allowed. It was the only table free when we arrived so we took it. There were still no tables free when a couple with a dog arrived and asked us to move as this was the room for people with dogs and we didn't have a dog with us. I explained that you didn't 'have' to have a dog to sit there, just that you couldn't sit in the main room with them. This is where you had to sit if you had a dog. Not having a dog with us meant we could sit anywhere but there were no other tables anywhere so here we sat.

They totally disagreed with us and couldn't see any logic. They even asked a young waitress to ask us to move. "These people are sitting here and they don't have a dog"! She sort of nodded and moved on.

Having said all that, I have a feeling that some people are going to think that we were the CFs

This really pisses me off , in cafes, and I'm a dog owner ( who never takes a did to a cafe .)

godmum56 · 18/05/2024 21:39

Lilacdew · 18/05/2024 21:21

Because she is kind and generous in lots of ways and is the cement in a friendship group I value.

so she CF's all of you?

Marcipex · 18/05/2024 21:55

A friend of my DD sadly lost her first baby at 23 weeks.
A year later she lost her second baby at 24 weeks.
My DD did everything she could to support her through these traumatic times.

The friend then moved a couple of hours away. Naturally they saw each other less, but they were still in touch. We were absolutely delighted for her when she had a successful pregnancy after these two tragedies.

Then she asked my DD for a favour. They were going on their honeymoon for a fortnight and didn’t want to take the month-old baby. Would my DD look after the baby for a fortnight?
we couldn’t believe it. You want to leave your newborn baby for a fortnight?! With someone the baby doesn’t know.
You’ll be in Thailand, what if the baby is ill, for example…DD was in shock really but suggested that if they were serious, it would be better if her mother cared for the baby.
They explained that her mother couldn’t look after the baby as she was coming on the honeymoon with them!

DD declined and the friendship declined too.

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godmum56 · 18/05/2024 22:03

Marcipex · 18/05/2024 21:55

A friend of my DD sadly lost her first baby at 23 weeks.
A year later she lost her second baby at 24 weeks.
My DD did everything she could to support her through these traumatic times.

The friend then moved a couple of hours away. Naturally they saw each other less, but they were still in touch. We were absolutely delighted for her when she had a successful pregnancy after these two tragedies.

Then she asked my DD for a favour. They were going on their honeymoon for a fortnight and didn’t want to take the month-old baby. Would my DD look after the baby for a fortnight?
we couldn’t believe it. You want to leave your newborn baby for a fortnight?! With someone the baby doesn’t know.
You’ll be in Thailand, what if the baby is ill, for example…DD was in shock really but suggested that if they were serious, it would be better if her mother cared for the baby.
They explained that her mother couldn’t look after the baby as she was coming on the honeymoon with them!

DD declined and the friendship declined too.

omg. speechless

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Cherrysoup · 18/05/2024 22:17

Think it was the child’s nanny, turned up to the yard one day with an 8 year old boy, asking if he could just have a ride on one of the horses. We were all a bit amazed, it wasn’t a riding school and was quite clearly private. A lot of the owner’s horses were pretty high level show jumpers imported from abroad. When she was told no, she tried to insist, because it was the school holidays and the child was bored, like that would change our minds! Who does that?!

godmum56 · 18/05/2024 22:28

Cherrysoup · 18/05/2024 22:17

Think it was the child’s nanny, turned up to the yard one day with an 8 year old boy, asking if he could just have a ride on one of the horses. We were all a bit amazed, it wasn’t a riding school and was quite clearly private. A lot of the owner’s horses were pretty high level show jumpers imported from abroad. When she was told no, she tried to insist, because it was the school holidays and the child was bored, like that would change our minds! Who does that?!

I have heard of this before. I live in an area with many riders (not me although I used to). People get stopped and asked can little johnny/mary have a ride please or sit on the horse for a photo.

Cherrysoup · 18/05/2024 22:37

godmum56 · 18/05/2024 22:28

I have heard of this before. I live in an area with many riders (not me although I used to). People get stopped and asked can little johnny/mary have a ride please or sit on the horse for a photo.

Can you imagine? Mine was very funny about small children (clearly they eat horses on a daily basis!). We had adults bringing their children to feed the horses too and when asked to please stop feeding kilos of carrots (3rd person that day), they started an argument with me about why they should be allowed! I told them I wouldn’t dream of leaning over their gate to feed their dog the equivalent endless sausages, but they were like ‘But they’re horses’ as I waded through the herd to retrieve the youngster who was getting shit kicked out of her by the others. Jeez.

PatienceTried · 18/05/2024 23:01

When I had a newborn, friends of DH asked if we could drive to them so that they could meet the baby. Because it was too far for them to drive and it would be easier for us (No disability preventing them from driving)

Conniecoconut · 18/05/2024 23:04

After a 12 hr night shift on a busy hospital ward a colleague asked me to walk her to her car, 5 mins walk in the opposite direction. It was raining hard and she didn't have an umbrella (or a coat). I agreed, sharing my umbrella, when we got to her car she got in and drove off, driving past my road to get to her house. I had been offered a lift but she jumped in and asked me to walk with her instead, stupidly assumed her offer also included a lift. I had to walk back to work and then on home, I was so exhausted I cried most of the way home.

Akamai · 18/05/2024 23:13

thisoldcity · 17/05/2024 16:43

I have told this story before, so apologies if it's familiar. I need to keep telling it until it's out of my system properly. When I was at school, a friend asked me if I would like to cover her sister's shift at the tearooms of the local stately home place they both worked at on a Sunday. She said they didn't get paid, it was just for tips. I quite enjoyed it in a way, but it was hard work. The tips were very few. I did it for a few weeks until I got sick of it for so little pay (I already had a Saturday job). It was basically a big favour for a friend / her sister.

I didn't think of it again really until years later, probably about 20 years later, when we were talking about the place. I said actually in retrospect wasn't it the most awful cheek of the Lady of he Manor woman to not pay us at all for that work? My friend said quick as a flash 'oh they paid us, what are you talking about?' then realised what she had said. It turned out that she and her sister both got paid, I didn't. So presumably her sister got the pay for the shift I covered! What also narked me was that her parents had set up the whole job thing and took us there in the car and back, knew the people we worked for, so they must have known I was being a total mug.

If I'd known at the time, I don't know what I would have done, but once I knew it seemed petty to go on about it as it was so long ago. It's now more like 50 years ago and I'm still friends (of sorts) with her, but I am still quietly fuming about it!

You’re never going to get it out of your system until you tell her you’re not alright with what she, her sister and her parents did.

Bethany83 · 18/05/2024 23:28

MrsClatterbuck · 18/05/2024 12:45

Just want to say just watched two kids approx 10 and 8 come into the cafe where I am having lunch. Cafe is self serve. They sat at a table and opened a carrier bag and produced two sandwich packs obviously bought elsewhere 2 packets of crisps not a brand sold in this cafe and 2 drinks and proceeded to have their lunch. Packed all back into bag and left. Staff didn't seem to notice and yes it wasn't busy as usual but was definitely very cheeky. I mean if I tried that I would definitely be caught and asked to leave.

But they are kids bless them. They either were told to go there by their parents or perhaps were using their initiative.

OutOfTheHouse · 18/05/2024 23:54

Nowhere near finished reading yet, but all the childcare ones remind me of this.

There is a lovely mum who lives over the road from us with her two daughters. We don’t know her all that well, but she tended to be leaving to take her girls to school at the same time we were leaving for work, so we would say good morning, comment on the weather etc. The girls were 4 and 6.

DH and I both work in education. It was the first day of half term and we were still in bed with a cup of tea. There was a knock at the door and DH assumed it was the postman so put in a dressing gown and answered it.

Stood there was a man he’d never seen before with the two girls from over the road. She explained he was their dad and he was dropping them back but their mum wasn’t in. She’d be back in a minute or two and could he leave them with us. Bear in mind here that DH was wearing NOTHING but a dressing gown and this bloke was happy to leave his two young girls with us. DH refused and the man left with the girls. I heard this and then watched out of the window as he asked the girls what other neighbours they knew. We decided that we were worried about the safety of the girls, if he was willing to leave them with an undressed man he’d never met then who knows where they could end up. Although I’m sure all our neighbours were lovely I wanted to know they were safe.

So we called him over and said we’d take them in. He said that their mum would be back in a moment. DH had to be quite forceful to get their mum’s number off him.

Talking to the girls they hadn’t had any breakfast so we got them toast, put on the tv and I called their mum. No answer. I left a message saying that they were with me and safe but would she be back soon. We sat chatting and watching cartoons.

An hour passed and the mum rang me in a blind panic. She had no idea that the dad was going to be dropping them home. He was meant to have them all week! She was at college and had checked her phone during a break in lectures.

She raced back to collect them and was extremely grateful.
A couple of weeks later she explained that he was meant to have them all week but his girlfriend didn’t want them so he brought them home early. There had been a lot going on with the court and this added to the situation. He ended up not being allowed unsupervised contact with them.

(as an aside the two girls are lovely. This was ten years ago and they are teenagers now, but they still say hello whenever we see them. I’m glad they turned out ok in spite of their father.)

Akamai · 18/05/2024 23:56

SinnerBoy · 17/05/2024 17:25

After I graduated (1999) I was looking for interviews and got one with Schlumberger, in Aberdeen. They do oil / gas / renewables survey, engineering and infrastructure installation. They paid my travel expenses and I was quite hopeful, as I had over a year of industrial placement experience.

There were 7 other graduates there, all from Oxbridge and Durham and they quickly decided that they weren't interested in talking to a peasant like me. We had a series of tests, some written, some practical. One was assembling a pump, in the dark; I was the only one to do it. One lad asked for a pair of gloves and another broke down crying.

The final step was to meet a panel, a woman flanked by two men. She began by saying, "We don't take people from your institution." I asked if they'd realised I was a graduate of that university and was told yes. I asked why they had interviewed me and if they were making an exception in my case.

"No, we just like to give people like you valuable interview experience."

I was fucking raging and let them have it. I told them they were fucking arrogant arses, wasting my time when I could have been going for a real interview. I told them I wouldn't work for fucking Slumberger (the don't like you calling them that) if they begged me, then stormed out. I was absolutely raging.

Well done! 👏

Akamai · 19/05/2024 00:11

Blaidd · 17/05/2024 18:48

Skint and miserable recently having become a single mother after relationship breakdown (DV) living in a rental property, (I half owned a Mansion flat in Kensington SW5 but it hadn't been sold) a friend said she had free tickets for Alton Towers, would myself and my daughter 8 like to come with her and her son 5. Oh yes please!
We get to the entrance and she has two free tickets from The Sun with the proviso that there would be accompanying people who paid in full. That person was me. It was almost the full amount of my benefits for that week (I only had cashed that day). I almost fainted. I just had to cough up as I was miles from home and couldn't bear disappointing my child.
We had agreed to bring picnic and drinks but her son wanted McDonald's so I had to pay for a sodding burger as well.
She was going to ask me for petrol money and contribute for a drive thru car wash for her BRAND NEW CAR but she said she thought 'It might be too much'. She was a SAH house owner with high earning husband.
Thirty years later I can still feel the moment my jaw dropped.
Thanks Cheryl, you dim bint. 😐

What a bitch she was. Did you not ask her to go 50/50 on the tickets?

Did you ever see her again?

Turtonator · 19/05/2024 00:36

I'm not a gardener. Neighbours both sides in their 80's and 90's are. This is a couple of years ago - did the first lawn cut of the spring - grass is pretty long but it's the first proper dry day. Neighbour 1 came over to ask if the lawnmower was broken. No, I said, puzzled. "Well, you haven't done a very good job" ...
Neighbour 2 told me he couldn't put pansies in his garden as the slugs from my side would eat them all. And there's me thinking slugs were, like, free roaming.

Turtonator · 19/05/2024 00:39

Oh, house behind mine in the next street. Owner came over to ask me to take down the tree in my garden - planted when the house was built in the 1930's, a mature apple tree - because it caused shade in his garden in the summer.

Needathickskin · 19/05/2024 04:19

We own land over which a public footpath passes. It’s clearly marked as private land and both the footpath and surrounding land are well maintained.
The sense of entitlement from locals is astonishing - lots of requests to ‘use’ the land for events but never any mention of hire fee. They don’t have public liability insurance either.
Dog poo and litter left all along the footpath although there are bins at either end.

Carlou · 19/05/2024 04:39

My son became friends with a kid from school and came over to play for the first time. That night, I got a phone call from his father asking if we could take his boy over the weekend!!! I had never met him nor him me. I was astonished and said no. The father then wheedled that his son's mother had died a year ago and that he hadn't had many friends!!!! I got the feeling dad was wanting the "weekend off" his child!!! Terrible - we could have been axe murderers for all he knew!!!

Isthisreasonable · 19/05/2024 05:34

Akamai · 18/05/2024 18:23

That’s awful. Did the undertaker put the church plate money in the wake collection box?

@Akamai I believe so. I suspect the undertaker was very careful about monitoring the collection box after that. It did make you wonder how many times they'd done it in the past and got away with it as they never missed a funeral.

Superduper02 · 19/05/2024 06:01

Simonjt · 15/05/2024 19:54

No we didn’t, so he didn’t go to school either.

Surely that's just child abuse! What low level parenting!

SuuzeeeQ · 19/05/2024 06:57

Friend had moved to a different city. We went to visit but stayed in a nearby Hotel as they (friend and partner) just had a baby and a small apartment. We said we would have breakfast at the Hotel and come around afterwards. Friend insisted we should have breakfast at theirs.
just before leaving Hotel we were senr a shopping list of what they need which basically included everything (butter, milk, crossaints, jam even smoked salmon!). Because I didn’t want an argument before we had even seen then, I decided to just buy the stuff and thought maybe they were overwhelmed with baby.

Took a little while to find the shop (foreign city/pre google maps), spent €30 and when I arrived friend was annoyed what took us so long, put half the stuff in the fridge (never ro be seen on table or offered to us) and didn’t offer any money. It would have been cheaper for us to eat at the Hotel! Plus as I said some things went straight into the fridge so I felt I was asked to fill up their fridge. Still annoys me 10 years later.

SuuzeeeQ · 19/05/2024 06:58

The shop btw was much closer to their house than it was to the Hotel.

WaltzingWaters · 19/05/2024 07:22

FUBAR77 · 15/05/2024 19:19

It’s always the same type of person isn’t it, always act like ‘it’s not big deal’ - yeh it’s not to you mate, it’s the ones who you put in uncomfortable situations by being CF’s that it’s a big deal to!

I was once out with a group of 4 friends 2 of us had kids with us, the 2 singletons were going off from the park to the pub, so the other mother friend asked if I’d mind her two as she’d like to go along with them for a couple (4 yr old and 6 week old baby)…this was about 2pm…she didn’t come back to get them until early the next day, suffice to say I was MAD having been up all night and having to go out to get milk powder & more nappies for the baby! Apparently it was fine as I was taking my DC home anyway, she knew they’d be safe with me, her battery went, and she was too drunk soooo…she is widely known for taking the PISS out of people who agree to have her DC. Lesson learnt!

Another I heard just today, someone else’s future CFuckery!! My beautician is going to America next month to stay with family (cos it saves money on accommodation she said), Aunty in New York and brother in Vancouver. I asked was she flying between the two? Nope! She said her Aunty has a car so she’ll be asking her to drive them them, takes about 7 hours - she has a car so it should be fine, she’s not paying £190 for a flight as that’s ridiculous. I’m now hoping for an upcoming AIBU; Neice who we’ve put up for 7 nights expects me to drive a 14 hour round trip to save her £190…

New York to Vancouver is SIGNIFICANTLY more than a 7 hour drive. More like 44 hours one way. I bloody hope auntie laughs hysterically and drops her niece at the airport!

Isabella70 · 19/05/2024 07:28

AgnesX · 18/05/2024 21:25

Unfortunately that's always been the way and in this era the state should intervene where children are at risk.

There are adults though who need to take responsibility for their actions and not expect the state to pick up the pieces because they have all the sense of responsibility of a gnat.

Some peoples sense of entitlement leaves something to be desired

My first thought too was 'social services', but then I began to wonder what I would actually do and whether this would have been me anting to - justifiably - punish the parent. I don't know, in this situation, whether it would have been better for the child - maybe yes, maybe no.

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