What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

[Conniebygaslight]

There have been many but reading on another thread about the CFery of a school mum reminded me of a time when my DC were at primary.
A mum asked if I’d mind picking her DC up from school and taking them to another school a few miles away where they were competing in an intersports thing. My DC were competing too so I agreed assuming she was working.
When we got there, said mum was already there in the front row with her DH & DPs. I asked what was going on, she replied that they wanted a good seat and parking so didn’t want to wait until their DC finished school so they could get their first. I was absolutely stunned…I still laugh at the audacity of this years later🤣🤣

My (not so “D”) older brother who was known for being a cheapskate. When his wife had to spend some time in hospital on bed rest due to problems during pregnancy, he asked me to look after their toddler whilst he was at work. No problem, I’d just left school and was waiting to start a job. Caught the train across the country ( no offer from him to pay although I hadn’t started earning yet). Every day he left me with a list of jobs to do as well as looking after my DN and cooking, walk the dog, mow the lawn, iron his shirts etc. About a week in I having a brief rest whilst he was home and I overheard him talking to his wife on the phone and complaining that I had asked him to pick something up from the supermarket and I hadn’t paid him for it yet. It was a bottle of soda water which at the time was about 30p! Not only had I been saving him all the money of getting someone else in to do all the chores ( or having to use up his AL to do it himself), I later found out that he was spending his free time cheating on his hospitalised, very pregnant wife. We are now NC

About 25 years ago, when my 74yo old physician/GP decided to retire, he suggested that I use a younger GP in the practice into the future.

About a month later, I saw her for the first time and had her upgrade two prescriptions for medications and to review a weird skim blemish. All okay. All sorted.

Then, a further 3-4 months on, I returned to see her for my annual work-related health assessment/check-up that the older retired doctor had been doing for two decades.

About 4-5 minutes into this visit, she said, "I'm sorry to inform you of this but I am going to refer you to another GP from this practice or allow you to choose another GP from a different practice."

I felt a little weird that I may have said something offensive or joked about her desk's contents or something off-hand.

"No," she said. "I checked with Rita [practice receptionist] and she told me all about you. I was intending to contact you later today by 'phone to ask if we could see one another."

She did meet up with me later that week after a couple of phone calls to explain her thoughts and feelings. We had a couple of restaurant meals together then proceeded to about 2.5 years of regularly "seeing" one another.

So, I'd say it's not only weird but 'different' and definitely "cheeky" to be propostioned or head-hunted for relationship purposes in a doctor's surgery.

My ExDP would often get asked to do favours, mainly by my friends to be honest - he was very strong and good at doing DIY. He stopped helping out after doing a tree stump removal for one of my friends, he stumbled pulling part of it out and knocked into her fence which it turned out was rotten in places and and shifted to lean outwards. He helped get it back into place and banged in some extra nails but “friend” thought we should go further and replace the rotten fence for her as he had damaged it, even though it wasn’t our fault it was rotten and he did a massive favour for her getting the tree stump out already which is not cheap to pay a professional to do.

But the most CF thing is that even though we are not together anymore, a couple of my friends will still ask me to ask him to help them out (we have kids so are obviously still in contact). It just boggles my mind why they think it would be appropriate to ask my ex to do them a favour!

Just last night, my neighbour's daughter - whom I'd met once, for five minutes, when she was moving my neighbour's belongings out - rang to ask for access to her mother's unit via mine, and threw in "You can have my son for an hour." I am childfree and had to tell her straight out that I don't like children and am absolutely not available as a child minder. She then proceeded to grill me on why I don't like children!

@BustyLee what was the need for your comment?

Unnecessary snarkiness 🤷🏽‍♀️

You’re probably right. I misread your comment as snarkiness but then realised it wasn’t. I sometimes get it wrong on social media because I tend not to use it much. Just ignore my comment.

This is utterly weird. It's not CF behaviour, it's unprofessional and inappropriate.

Did you want to 'see' her for 2.5 years? 🤔

@JonHammFan

I completely get that, it's really upsetting & such poor behaviour all round, from the art teacher to the horrible woman who bought it.

A neighbour kept calling for blank cds from me

Eventually I saw red when he stated " why should I go to the shop when I can get them for free off you"

I have him a coaster and he got the message

Ah yes.. an awful last time together holiday in Morocco with kids dad..there was a visit to some market he wanted to go to, i wanted to sunbathe/play with kids..
on the way out he asked me for some money as he wanted to buy his parents a gift (I was NC with them becausetheywereutterly vile pe) I told him to exchange his money and buy it himself (having paid for most of the holiday myself) and he complained that he knew I had Dirhams so why couldn't I just hand them over.
We separated a week after we got back to the UK
His CF continued for many years..culminating with the month before our youngest turned 18 to be excused from paying maintenance... as he was a bit short!
he wasn't let off but has never contributed a penny towards either kids university expenses. Nothing from him once they turned 18.

We are now NC

Good for you. Does the rest of the family know why you're NC? 🌹

@JohnnyLuLus

CF son even said to my son "it's okay, my mum has asked your parents to deal with it!"

I hope your son is learning from you how to deal with CF people. His "friend" is well on the way to be one himself. 🌹

Some here! I've both attended 'events' like this and hosted them. They're fab! Just don't expect too much of people is they key I think. I've always framed it as 'Hey, I really need some help clearing out/clearing up the garden/garage/sorting X out, should take about X long. If you and X would like to help on X day, I'll put on a BBQ and provide wine/beer/cocktails and we can just decide when enough is enough'.

I'd say a few drinks and clear expectations mean most people are happy to chip in. Make sure that you keep an eye on your friends though. When people start looking fed up/tired then It's time to say 'another 15 mins then enough, everyone alright with that?'

I've had house clear outs before moving, gardens cleared out once in a new house, tenant's houses cleared etc etc and my friends I've chipped in and done the same. We've all saved money and had satisfying days doing it, helping one another. I struggle to do things like this by myself (ADHD) and companies who'd do things like that are expensive and often not worth it from what I've seen/heard. People tend to just get stuck in and have fun with it and once a certain point is reached, wind down and get the drinks flowing and food fired up.

I will say though, I have noticed that some folk will turn up, crack open the wine straightaway, and do the bare minimum while others are much more helpful and determined
to get as much done as possible before they'll relax!

I hope you mentally boxed his ears for him instead!! 🌹

Yes, the reason I came to regret it.

1. mil - not to make her a young grandma
2. gmil- to give her a baby before she dies and then we can move out and leave baby with her
3. fil - to give him lots of babies Quickly.

maybe not so much cheeky, more absurd and weird.

This is my dad!!
Whenever he wants something ordering online he asks me. He doesn't really know how to do it so I happily order for him and ask for his card details. "I'm not giving them my card details, they might steal my money!" But it's ok for them to steal ours. I got him set up on PayPal eventually and he opened a new basic debit card where we can just transfer the amount of money he needs to pay so he feels more at ease.

I got in touch with a young mum following her request on our local community Facebook page for some help with food for her baby as she didn’t get paid for 2 weeks. She wanted some baby wipes, milk, baby yoghurts etc. Others had offered nappies. Messaged to say I’d get the items and drop them on her doorstep.

Shortly after she messaged me again asking if I could also get some crisps, frozen items, chicken, amongst other things. She then messaged me again 2 weeks later asking for more help and I saw the same message again on Facebook saying she’d be paid in 2 weeks. (When I arrived at the house, a guy was coming out of it so she didnt look like she was struggling on her own)

@Newestname002

Off topic but why do you end every post with 🌹?

@JonHammFan I ve never hear of people wanting to by kids drawings before!! Unless they are budding Picasso of course 😆 children's artwork is cute and lovely but usually only of interest to their doting parents/grandparents.
I kept a few special ones that my kids brought home but the rest got discreetly put in the bin 😉

Not me, but a relative whose elderly widowed mother died.
After some time, the family were told that the house was going to be cleared, so they were welcome to take anything they particularly liked.

Almost immediately, the wife of a grandson (so not a blood relative) zoomed in and helped herself to all the jewellery.
I’m pleased to say that they made her give it all back.
She came from a very wealthy family, too.

That's not CFuckery.

She is a nasty shitty friend.

Hope you've dumped her.

There were lots of other reasons why I am NC with him too but yes, most of the family found out (not through me) and haven’t spoken to him in years. He has managed to alienate so many people

My partner gotcstungvwith this one too 🤣

Not for the first time, these threads make me realise how often the word ‘friend’ is used on MN, when the poster really means ‘acquaintance’.