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Never leave your home country again - or never be able to go to your home country again. Which would you choose?

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anotherusernameforthis · 12/05/2024 22:50

I agonise over this; really struggle to decide which I’d do.

Rules: visas etc no object, you could live anywhere else in the world. starting with same standard of living/set up that you currently have.
Those you live with come with you.
Others can visit you, but you can’t ever return to your home country.

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awaynboilyurheid · 14/05/2024 09:39

Stay in my home country
I love my holidays , love seeing new places and had chance of living in US but then realised if I couldn’t live in Scotland again I’d be so very sad.

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 14/05/2024 10:06

mondaytosunday · 14/05/2024 09:33

Home country seems the obvious choice. It's where my family roots are, wider network of friends, a society I know and belong to. A language I speak.
If one was so desperate to move have they actually tried to?

I had to leave at very short notice due to a family emergency the other side of the world. Ended up staying there a year. I was surprised to not miss anything from home (except for younger extended family who were growing up fast). I had to return to the UK due to ill health, not meaning to stay, but gradually got stuck here due to aging family.

Tophelleborine · 14/05/2024 10:14

Whole of the UK - I'd stay. If I'd be stuck in England forever I'd leave.

InterIgnis · 14/05/2024 10:23

mondaytosunday · 14/05/2024 09:33

Home country seems the obvious choice. It's where my family roots are, wider network of friends, a society I know and belong to. A language I speak.
If one was so desperate to move have they actually tried to?

My parents come from two different countries (both of which split to become a number of smaller countries), so I grew up speaking two languages, with family and friends spread over different countries. We then moved to another country and I learned English. I emigrated again to yet another, largely English speaking, country. I feel like I belong in many places, but I then for me the sense of belonging comes from being confident and at ease in myself. It doesn’t come from any one place, and tbh I wouldn’t want it to. I dislike the thought of being tied geographically in that way.

showmethegin · 14/05/2024 11:57

Never be able to leave the UK ever again? I'd be running towards that plane as fast as my feet could carry me

TheFatRat · 14/05/2024 14:20

Never be able to leave the UK ever again? I'd be running towards that plane as fast as my feet could carry me

100% agree. The UK has become incredibly woke, overrun with protesting dogooders and dismissive of women's rights - please buy me a ticket and I'll join you.

anotherusernameforthis · 14/05/2024 20:01

Enko · 14/05/2024 06:58

Well I don't live in my birth country and I haven't for 34 years. Home is here in the UK. So I would choose to never return to my birth country.

I deliberately do not use home country as it suggests your birth country is home. For me its not. Home is where I build my life. The UK.

So your decision would be between leaving the UK forever (your home) or never leave the UK again…...

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Enko · 14/05/2024 20:04

anotherusernameforthis · 14/05/2024 20:01

So your decision would be between leaving the UK forever (your home) or never leave the UK again…...

Your question however intended the country that people were born in.

I would remain in the UK. Going by your 2nd option.

anotherusernameforthis · 14/05/2024 20:04

Hapagirl48 · 14/05/2024 09:36

Also, I lived in Singapore as an expat and on paper it sounds great. Sunny everyday etc. but in reality I missed the seasons so badly.

Ha! A relative of mine also lived in Singapore as an expat and said EXACTLY the same thing. She used to cry when the BBC showed snowy scenes…...

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anotherusernameforthis · 14/05/2024 20:11

Enko · 14/05/2024 20:04

Your question however intended the country that people were born in.

I would remain in the UK. Going by your 2nd option.

There is some (understandable) variation of interpretation of ‘Home Country’.

I deliberately didn’t use ‘Birth Country’ in the original post, because they can be two separate places.

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CrushingOnRubies · 14/05/2024 20:48

Oooohbh good question and a tough one at that

I think I'd stay in the uk.

There's so much to explore here.

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