Today I was asked when my baby was due

[BonnieBo]

Reader, my baby is two years old.

I am not pregnant.

Good start to wearing my summer wardrobe. I’m tall and a size 12, I was wearing a floaty dress but… ffs.

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I get offered a seat on the tube / bus several times a year. I am fat but have very small hips so I think I can look pregnant (and I often wear floaty dresses). I always refuse the seat (even if I really want it 😁). I am 55 so presumably at some point people will decide I am too old to be pregnant. I don't mind taking the offered seat if it's because I'm old!

Someone I hardly knew and hadn't seen for a long time pointed to my stomach and asked if I was expecting - whilst I was standing with my newborn DD in the pram.
Another time a school mum rushed across the playground to quietly ask in my ear if I was pregnant again. I had just had my youngest a few weeks prior, which she knew as she had bought me a gift
Try not to take it heart, some people just don't think before they speak.

I also got offered a seat on the train - but I was on my own and my youngest was at school by then 😬. I was in two minds as to whether that dress every day!

Thanks, it was a bit of a weird one! I guess people speak without thinking

I once had nursery congratulate me on my pregnancy.

I wasn't pregnant

Turned out 3 year old Ds1 had told them I was, and when questioned said "you're fat enough to be"

I shall forever remain mortified that I asked a woman this question, and she was not. In fairness I was a young teenager, but whenever I see a thread like this, the memory of that comes flooding back. It is safer not to ask.

I am taking it with humour, but I have also had a green salad for lunch today.

Glad to hear some of you are in the same boat. I think I'd have to see the baby crowning at this point before I'd willing ask if another woman was pregnant.

I am half wondering if I should just have another baby to avoid further potential embarrassment, at least for the next nine months or so.

Before I gave up dairy I used to get very bloated. I'm a size 8 and probably did look pregnant sometimes, and on a few occasions I had people offering me a seat on the train.

Yes some dresses do look bulgy but i would never ask someone when they were due unless they actually told me they were pregnant.

I had a similar situation once a few days after I gave birth to my DD. My stomach was still really large and bulging due to having her by C-section. She was born a few weeks early so it was all quite unexpected and none of the clothes/ baby grows etc fitted her so I quickly popped into the Asda to buy some premature baby clothing. The lady who served me said “Oh looks like you don’t have much time left now, when are you due?” I was mortified but probably not as mortified as her when I explained that I’d already had my baby but that I’d had an emergency c-section hence why my stomach is not back in shape yet.

People really should think before they open their mouths!

I love that you went along with it for the old man’s sake… so kind of you

I also had the opposite. I was standing outside the primary school collecting the older two with the two younger ones running about yelling and one of the mums said 'I bet you'll be glad when those two start school.' I opened my (admittedly all-enveloping) big riding mac to reveal my 8.5 month bulge and the poor woman just went 'oooooh'. Nobody had noticed because I'd only been showing over the winter months and had been well wrapped up!

My son did something like this years ago, I had one of the school mums round for a cup of tea in my garden while the kids (reception age) played on the trampoline.
My son proceeded to ask the mum if she was having a sleepover.. No she replied I'm going home. Your not he said whilst poking her thigh, your going to have to stay, your wedged in (upped the poking of her thighs) there's no way you're getting out of that chair!! Mortified to put it mildly.

I’m 55, so obviously too old, 6/8 & was asked this at the weekend

The dress went in the charity bag

I'm sorry that happened OP. I fear this everyday, I genuinely look 6 months pregnant but I'm (hopefully) not!! I've even considered taking a test to see if I actually am. Since my csection's all the weight clings to my tummy when it never did before. Sigh!

People are so thick. You should never ask a woman that unless you know for sure she's pregnant before.

@peopleonthebusgoupanddown omg please tell me you shamed them!! That’s crazy behaviour from your client.

I had this an my DD was about 7 at the time! I had read reviews of the dress that I was wearing where people had said it made them look pregnant but still. I’ve lost weight since then. I got rid of the dress straightaway! And it was funny because she said when’s your baby due and I said im not pregnant and she said of course you’re not 😂

An estate agent said this to me once, I didn’t mind as honestly I’m apple shaped and have stick legs and arms and all my weight goes on the middle. It’s hard to find anything that flatters me. She was so nice and clearly felt incredibly awkward about it, even though I laughed it off.

My little boy (age 5) doesn’t help matters by telling teachers and randoms I’m having a baby, he desperately wants another sibling and thinks if I eat enough one will appear! I probably need to have a cat about how babies are made (not from kettle chips and red wine).

I have gained weight since then - there’s a tipping point when you’re obviously fat, not just possible pregnant, I discovered

I am asked this all the time and I am in my fifties!

I am small and slim but with a bit of middle-aged weight around my middle. I was in a hotel sauna and another woman asked me if I was pregnant. I was 60.

This happened to me on the bus before - I was just severely bloated and had stomach issues, wearing a tshirt and work pants.

I just smiled and said thanks and took the seat, I’ve never been able to tell my partner or friends etc, too embarrassing!

Welcome to the club. A friend and I had that said to us when our kids were younger. Luckily we are too old now for people to think it

This reminds me of a friend, who has always had a slim body, but chunky legs, and in particular thick ankles.

She once injured her ankle at the gym and went to the doctor who commented that it looked very swollen. She rather embarrassedly told him that he was looking at the wrong leg!

I’d die!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 kids are so funny

While in the airport queue I was pulled aside by the woman at the fasttrack counter with my 5 year old as the woman assumed I was expecting! I should have gone along with it to try for extra legroom. She asked when I was due! Ie maybe thought I was a flight risk? My DC thought it was hilarious. I’ve never worn that bias cut Ghost dress again. Btw I’m size 10/12 but tum always bloated. Oh but in my late 40s so was flattered