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Words of advice you remember when learning to drive

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heartsinvisiblefury · 09/05/2024 17:16

What's the best advice/words of wisdom you were given when learning to drive that helped you?

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EllieQ · 09/05/2024 21:53

Only a fool breaks the two second rule.

Tyres and tarmac - when you stop in a line of traffic, make sure there is enough of a gap between you and the car in front for you to see their tyres and a patch of tarmac. This means that you have space to manoeuvre around them if they can’t start their car, and if someone crashes into the back of your car, there’s less chance of you shunting into the car in front.

emmetgirl · 09/05/2024 21:57

My dad was a professional driver.
He told me to always assume that every other driver was about to do something really stupid.

CadoAvo · 09/05/2024 22:00

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merrymelodies · 09/05/2024 22:04

Keep your eyes focused on the direction you are headed; no wandering eyes. (Obviously you have to check mirrors, etc.)

merrymelodies · 09/05/2024 22:06

Oh yes, defensive driving is a must. Assume everyone else is an unpredictable idiot.

Heartbreaktuna · 09/05/2024 22:14

When stopped in traffic always be sure to leave enough space between you and the next car that you can see their tyres completely. It means in the case of an ambulance needing through / break down etc. you will still be able to maneuver around the other car.

Nomoredamnmats · 09/05/2024 22:14

Everyone else is an idiot.
Only a fool breaks the two second rule.
Handbrake on, into neutral.

Jeannie88 · 09/05/2024 22:19

Anything done in haste at speed is wrong, always slow down.

Never cut corners when turning into a road. So this, the number of times people have cut me off when I'm about to turn right and I've had to brake sharply because they've gone I to my side of the road, it infuriates me!

Driving reflects personality and it's so sad and dangerous those who speed past, cut you up etc just to try and save a couple of minutes. Dangerous driving is the worst, trsrs are there to learn how to be respectful and safe!

Surgarblossom · 09/05/2024 22:28

Don't forget that you are driving.

HereBeFuckery · 10/05/2024 16:24

My amazing driving teacher stopped me always being flustered as a learner by saying in a very relaxed tone 'It's okay, I don't see any blue lights on that vehicle'. Helped me get over the feeling of needing to panic and rush at every junction.

Rebusmyfire · 10/05/2024 16:27

TnT - tyres 'n' tarmac (space between you and the car in front)

indicate like the driver behind you really it needs spelling out where you are going.

MrMotivatorsLeotard · 10/05/2024 16:28

Assume everyone else on the road is driving like an idiot.

Don't just watch to see what the car in front of you is doing, also observe the car in front of that one (not always possible if it’s a van or larger vehicle in front of you of course). If you see that car brake then more often than not the car directly in front of you will also brake moments later so it helps you to anticipate.

Lougle · 10/05/2024 16:30

'Indicators can lie but wheels don't.' Always look at what someone's wheels are doing at a junction, not their indicators.

TallulahBetty · 10/05/2024 16:32

Extra 'gas' when going uphill - I can STILL hear my instructor say "DRIVE the car up the hill" every time I go uphill, after 20 years 😆

flipent · 10/05/2024 16:35

Not exactly what you've asked, but I recently had to parallel park.
I was never a fan when learning and don't do it often.

I could hear my instructor in my head (20+ years later!) executed it flawlessly. And was unreasonably proud of myself!

Justbetweenus · 10/05/2024 16:35

If you’re being dazzled by the headlights of an oncoming car, watch the line at the side of the road rather than the line down the middle.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 10/05/2024 16:41

Look at the tyres not the indicators.

In snow, drive slow in as high a gear as possible.

Sgtmajormummy · 10/05/2024 17:04

Does anybody remember Eddy Marston as the demented driving instructor?
“Enrah ha!”

Anyway mine were “Think of a reversing car like a banana. You turn the steering wheel in one direction and the back wheels turn to meet it.”
Made sense at the time…

NorthernSoul55 · 10/05/2024 17:11

Never forget that you are in charge of a lethal weapon
Don't believe the indicators, watch the car
High gear, low revs (for driving in snow)

I passed 40 years ago and I still say all this to myself!

stealthsquirrelnutkin · 10/05/2024 17:12

Never drive so fast that you cannot bring the car to a safe stop in the clear section of road visible in front of you.

This bit of advice resonated when I woke to the news of the Almö bridge disaster in January 1980. A ship crashed into one of the support arches of tall bridge in the early hours of the morning, and a section of the bridge collapsed and fell into the river. It was foggy and visibility was poor.

On the mainland side of the bridge a lorry driver, sitting higher up and having a better view, noticed that the railing up ahead wasn't there, which struck him as strange, so he slowed down, and managed to stop in time. He closed the bridge from that side, but it took 40 minutes (in the days before mobile phones) before they were able to contact someone who lived on the other side of the bridge and they rushed down to set up barriers blocking access to the bridge on the other side.

I can still clearly remember the horror in the voices of the witnesses being interviewed on the news. They had stood in the freezing cold wind, and watched helplessly as headlights approached the bridge from the opposite side, and then plummeted down and vanished into the icy waters far below. It happened again and again. I don't remember how many cars they watched drop into the river, but 8 people died.

As a recently qualified driver, the thought of all those drivers, some perhaps with their families in the car with them, blithely driving across the bridge they drove across so often they could do it in their sleep, made a deep impression.

Since then I've driven through blizzards, bucketing rain and fog, but never at a speed that exceeded a safe stopping distance in the bit of road that I could see in front of me.

KnickerlessParsons · 10/05/2024 17:23

My father's wise words "I teach a lot of stupid boys. They all learned to drive and you can too"

buffyslayer · 10/05/2024 17:28

Tyres and tarmac

Pretend everyone else is driving like they're idiots and won't indicate, will pull out in front of you etc

Tyres and tarmac actually saved me when I was queuing on the motorway. I had left space in front and applied my handbrake
A white van rear ended me hard and I didn't hit the car in front of me
I rang my dad and the first thing he said was "did you get shunted?"
Yep but I didn't hit the car in front!

AHFaemale · 10/05/2024 17:29

Be able to stop in the area ahead you can see to be clear

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 10/05/2024 17:30

Being rural, the 'drive so you can stop in the area you can see' was 'drive like there's a sheep round every corner'.

Surprising how often there is, tbh.

SOxon · 10/05/2024 17:34

better in front than behind ( other driver agitating to pass/overtake )