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to the person shouting at me in the street

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allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 01:04

I left my wallet in the chemist.

That was why I turned around abruptly and went the other way.

Nothing to do with you or your wife's dress, skin colour, ethnic origin, accent, language or anything.

I didn't even see you until you started following me and shouting at me.

OP posts:
Kimmeridge · 02/05/2024 01:36

You seriously expect them to see this??

PlanetDog · 02/05/2024 01:38

Kimmeridge · 02/05/2024 01:36

You seriously expect them to see this??

🤣

DrJoanAllenby · 02/05/2024 01:44

Why don't you go on your Facebook group for your area/town and post your message?

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allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 05:09

Kimmeridge · 02/05/2024 01:36

You seriously expect them to see this??

you never know, they might, and I have no other way of trying to respond to them, have I

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vodkaredbullgirl · 02/05/2024 05:11

You what 😆

K0OLA1D · 02/05/2024 05:12

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 05:09

you never know, they might, and I have no other way of trying to respond to them, have I

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I dunno. Did you say it to them?

sanityisamyth · 02/05/2024 05:25

WTF?!

LBFseBrom · 02/05/2024 06:06

Was she shouting at you, trying to get your attention, or was she shouting in your direction? I suppose you will never know but if someone was shouting at me, or I thought they were, I would want to know what they had to say.

I don't normally shout in the street, or at all come to that. However, the other day I went to the door after I heard some knocking, didn't get there in time and saw an Amazon delivery van going away up the road (they usually leave packages in my 'safe place' but nothing was left on this occasion). I went up the drive waving and saw the van turning around and parking outside another house over the road. The driver got out and went into the back, piling things up. I called and waved but he didn't look in my direction. A neighbour a couple of doors up came out with her shopping bag and saw me. She started calling to me but I couldn't hear what she said, I just pointed at the van over the road. This went on a very short while, then I saw and half heard her say, "Can I help you?"; I laughed, saying "No thank you@, and went in. She probably thought I was shouting at her (or that I was mad). It happens.

Freakinfraser · 02/05/2024 06:24

This isn’t odd at all.

Mrsphilmiller · 02/05/2024 06:32

Heyyy
yes it’s me, so happy to see this message. I was beginning to think it was the reasons you stated in OP. Glad it wasn’t.
Reason for the following/shouting - you look the spit of a famous Egyptian actress we know. Was hoping for an autograph. So if you are her, could we meet again? Same time, same place?
Hope you found your wallet!

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 02/05/2024 08:24

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 01:04

I left my wallet in the chemist.

That was why I turned around abruptly and went the other way.

Nothing to do with you or your wife's dress, skin colour, ethnic origin, accent, language or anything.

I didn't even see you until you started following me and shouting at me.

By "person" you mean "man", judging by the aggressive behaviour you describe?

Yourethebeerthief · 02/05/2024 08:29

Freakinfraser · 02/05/2024 06:24

This isn’t odd at all.

I'm sure it's just cathartic for the OP. She's shaken up.

It's not difficult to understand.

OP I hate these situations too. You're left at a loose end because you're churned up by being accosted by some idiot in the street but you don't have the closure of giving them a piece of your mind.

PoppyCherryDog · 02/05/2024 08:39

Kimmeridge · 02/05/2024 01:36

You seriously expect them to see this??

😂

Trulyme · 02/05/2024 09:40

Why post on here in the slim hope that they might see it, instead of saying it to them at the time of the incident knowing they would definitely get the message.

You posted at 1am.
I assume you hadn’t just returned from the chemist and most posters would not have seen your thread at 1am.

Kimmeridge · 02/05/2024 11:28

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 05:09

you never know, they might, and I have no other way of trying to respond to them, have I

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Why even bother responding though. Or if you do absolutely feel the need post on your local fb page. Posting something so vague on a forum like this is just daft 😂😂😂

ssd · 02/05/2024 11:37

Och dont be so mean to the op. Of course whoever it was shouting at her wont see this ,he'll be busy shouting at someone else. The op wants to get it off her chest and mn is perfect for this.

Freakinfraser · 02/05/2024 11:39

ssd · 02/05/2024 11:37

Och dont be so mean to the op. Of course whoever it was shouting at her wont see this ,he'll be busy shouting at someone else. The op wants to get it off her chest and mn is perfect for this.

So then instead of something like this, why not write something like I’m annoyed someone shouted at me, I was just doing x.

WarshipRocinante · 02/05/2024 11:41

Why didn’t you turn around and say, “I just realised that I’ve left my wallet in the chemist; that’s why I’ve turned and I’m hurrying back.”

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 02/05/2024 14:53

WarshipRocinante · 02/05/2024 11:41

Why didn’t you turn around and say, “I just realised that I’ve left my wallet in the chemist; that’s why I’ve turned and I’m hurrying back.”

Because when you are faced with an angry man shouting at you, especially if he is insinuating that you are racist, leaving the situation safely is your first concern? And the fight/flight reflex doesn't allow for much in the way of rational thinking in the moment.

LBFseBrom · 04/05/2024 17:01

If someone was shouting in my direction I would ask what was the matter, it wouldn't occur to me that he would think I was racist. I don't know where that idea came from. He might not have been shouting at her.

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 04/05/2024 20:00

I've inferred from the third paragraph of OP's post that he accused her of trying to avoid him and his wife because of their race.

LBFseBrom · 04/05/2024 21:19

The op obviously thought so but we don't know that. I would think it unlikely. However, I wasn't there so who knows?

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allgroyellow · 04/05/2024 21:21

Yes he did, and he followed me down the street shouting abuse at me. I still feel upset and intimidated about it now,

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LBFseBrom · 04/05/2024 21:24

What exactly did he shout?

whoneedssixteen · 05/05/2024 08:08

It's clear what the OP means. She was walking along towards a couple. She suddenly remembered she'd left her wallet in the chemist so stopped, turned around and walked back the other way. The couple she'd been walking towards jumped to the conclusion that she was racist and had turned her back on them having come face to face with people who were Not Like Her. They then continued to walk in the direction they were going - now behind OP - and followed her shouting abuse, ( that she was a racist ***).

OP was upset by this. And this is her way of expressing that upset.

It speaks to the "jumping to conclusions" and bandwaggonish attitudes of the day.

(I had similar once OP with a woman who assumed I was criticising her because I "tutted". I "tutted" - to myself - because I'd just remembered I'd forgotten to do something and it was now too late. Nothing to do with her and her children whom I hadn't even noticed)

(Although of course I might be completely wrong and have jumped to conclusions myself! 😂)