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to the person shouting at me in the street

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allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 01:04

I left my wallet in the chemist.

That was why I turned around abruptly and went the other way.

Nothing to do with you or your wife's dress, skin colour, ethnic origin, accent, language or anything.

I didn't even see you until you started following me and shouting at me.

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allgroyellow · 05/05/2024 08:09

whoneedssixteen · 05/05/2024 08:08

It's clear what the OP means. She was walking along towards a couple. She suddenly remembered she'd left her wallet in the chemist so stopped, turned around and walked back the other way. The couple she'd been walking towards jumped to the conclusion that she was racist and had turned her back on them having come face to face with people who were Not Like Her. They then continued to walk in the direction they were going - now behind OP - and followed her shouting abuse, ( that she was a racist ***).

OP was upset by this. And this is her way of expressing that upset.

It speaks to the "jumping to conclusions" and bandwaggonish attitudes of the day.

(I had similar once OP with a woman who assumed I was criticising her because I "tutted". I "tutted" - to myself - because I'd just remembered I'd forgotten to do something and it was now too late. Nothing to do with her and her children whom I hadn't even noticed)

(Although of course I might be completely wrong and have jumped to conclusions myself! 😂)

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yes, thank you

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VerasChips · 05/05/2024 08:44

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 02/05/2024 14:53

Because when you are faced with an angry man shouting at you, especially if he is insinuating that you are racist, leaving the situation safely is your first concern? And the fight/flight reflex doesn't allow for much in the way of rational thinking in the moment.

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Yes.

Ive been followed and shouted at a lot in the street- it really isn’t a good idea to take on people like this.

They clearly aren’t normal, rational people and you can’t know how they will react or how it will escalate. It often ends in violence.

Ignoring as far as possible and removing yourself is the safest course of action.

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