Was I stupid for reporting this?

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I had an incident happen to me on Friday, I left my house and a car was parked up outside my house but on the other side of the road as me and my son crossed the road the car pulled out and drove towards us really fast (to the point my son ran across and we had to hurry as it was driving towards us and usually cars would either wait to you're crossed if parked up or slow down) anyway when we got across the man shouted out the window "do you live in that house" pointing to my house, I said yes as he had just seen me leave it, he started shouting that I had been "slagging him off on Facebook" I haven't and I don't know who he is, I've never seen him before in my life anyway he continued to scream the same thing and said "next time I won't stop" the sped off down the road. This really scared me as I didn't know how he could get my address then turn up to my property to intimidate me but I haven't done what he is claiming and this just hasn't happened. Anyway I told a few people and everyone said I should report it to the police just in case anything else happens. So I did, I wasn't expecting they would do anything just keep a record incase anything more happens as he obviously has his wires crossed and I was worried he could come back. Well the police wanted to come to take a statement so they came today and all I can say is I really regret reporting it, the officer was so rude to me, told me none of it was threatening or intimidating and that he wasn't driving towards us he was "just driving past" I know when someone is driving in a threatening manner and trying to scare you but he implied he was just passing. He made out like the whole thing was in my head and made me feel incredibly stupid. The fact someone had found my address online (I don't even see how) and had come to my address had really scared me but he said there must be other things going on as I can't be scared about this or worried about this and it must be something else I am not mentioning, I asked him to leave but he wouldn't and it took several attempts of me asking before he actually left as he just kept repeating that it wasn't a threatening. Was I an idiot to report this as I feel like one? I shouldn't have reported it but everyone told me to. I feel so stupid now and that's the last time I bother to report anything. I honestly thought they would just put a record of it incase anything else happened how I feel like a complete idiot.

I’d complain about the police officer and ask them to take your report seriously.

Hmmm or he knows the person you’re reporting and was trying to stop you?!

Last time I bother to report anything he made me sound insane and that "there must be more going on/ something else going on"
I would have thought anyone would have felt unsettled in this situation if someone has managed to get their address online and drive to their house and wait outside.

You need to file a complaint against that cop. How he treated you was appalling.

Make a complaint to the police. He should have had his body cam on. You have done the right thing reporting it especially if you don’t know this person and what he could do

The man driving was a fellow police officer.

I’d put money on it.

He’s protecting his mate.

Wouldn't surprise me at all.

😂😂😂

Yeah that'll be it 🙄

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon very likely.
Report the police officer.

Agree. Technically he threatened your life.
he sought you out, waited outside your home then drove his car towards you in a threatening way designed to scare you then. He told you next time I won’t stop talking about driving a car towards you and your son.
all because of an apparent Facebook post! One that you say wasn’t even anything to do with you

call again complain about the police officer and re report.

have you got the number or the officer?
the license of the car?

I would report the police officer too. They are public servants and a re meant to protect us.
You probably shouldn't have confirmed to.the driver which house was yours but its done now, you probably should, however, have a ring doorbell installed if you haven't already, just in case this throbber decides to come back

Thanks but I’m just going to let it go, definitely shouldn’t have told him I live there but I didn’t think it was anything like that at the time I didn’t really know what it was about thought he was just going to complain about something and he literally seen me come out and it the morning I was taking my kids to school. I’m just going to let it go I shouldn’t have reported it and won’t report anything again in future. Silly me!

Sadly, facebook again
OP - report it to the police - give all the details you can and tell them your fears.

I'm not sure if they will tell you to go to the police station or report it online
Good luck

About knowing which internet user lives at which address is impossible unless the user is posting pictures/addresses etc

I shouldn’t have reported it I only reported it in case something else happened I wanted to have it on record that there had been more than once incident, I didn’t expect anything to come of it I thought it would just go down on file but the police called me within half an hour of reporting it online (said I would hear back in 48 hours) and then wanted to take a statement I thought wow they must be taking this very seriously perhaps he is known to them! I wish they had just told me on the phone it wasn’t a crime rather than coming and making me feel stupid as I gave them the exact info I gave online, they really should have just told me it wasn’t worth reporting and saved the trip to my house. Now I’ve calmed down I realise I was stupid for reporting it it’s mainly other people who told me I needed to report it. My kids were scared to go to school after it happened but I guess there “must be something else going on” 🤷🏻‍♀️

Someone threatened to run you and your kids over. Of course you should have reported it!!

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Of course you did the right thing reporting it, how was reporting it stupid? He threatened you. If a different police officer came it probably would have been a different outcome. You should report the police officer.

No the police said he must have meant he wouldn't stop and talk to me again.

Well PC clever clogs wasn't there so couldn't possibly know what he meant!

Seriously OP you should report this individual.

Police officers are supposed to make note of what people actually say, not interpret the meaning.

Do you have a local neighbourhood watch team? I'd contact them and ask for someone to come round and talk to you. Tell them what happened, and then tell them what the police officer was like.

Bullshit. Everyone else reading your post knew exactly what he meant!!

I've just remembered something he kept saying "are..... you...... ok" very slowly in a patronising tone to me when I asked him to leave and he kept repeating it

What a knob.

Seriously OP, he needs reporting. You'd think police officers would be going out of their way to prove themselves to as deserving of their badge to women these days.

Previously worked on police complaints. You were right to report the incident and if the visit from the officer was as you say, you should absolutely log a complaint with the force and ask for another officer to speak to you about the incident you've reported. This isn't a trifling matter and could have very real consequences if you've been misidentified as doing something by this driver.

The officer who came needs pulling up on this - there's the immediate issue of your report but also if this officer treats everyone like this then there's potentially a lot of shoddy work on his cases. Or, if this is completely out of character they need to work out why he chose to be so unhelpful with you. Others have suggested the officer may know the person involved and that's not as much of a stretch as other posters think it is. And the comments he made to you afterwards as you asked him to leave are abhorrent - like he's implying you're mentally unwell or something. If he actually speaks to people in mental health crisis like that then he sounds awful.

Please go back to the police, you and the rest of your community deserve much better.

I've just had a call back as I did complain and they did watch the footage and it's all there in black and white so I've took the complaint to the highest possible. I know nothing will come of it but it's all on file anyway if he has any history of this behaviour or does it to anyone else.