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Was I stupid for reporting this?

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Whatssthepointtt · 29/04/2024 13:20

I had an incident happen to me on Friday, I left my house and a car was parked up outside my house but on the other side of the road as me and my son crossed the road the car pulled out and drove towards us really fast (to the point my son ran across and we had to hurry as it was driving towards us and usually cars would either wait to you're crossed if parked up or slow down) anyway when we got across the man shouted out the window "do you live in that house" pointing to my house, I said yes as he had just seen me leave it, he started shouting that I had been "slagging him off on Facebook" I haven't and I don't know who he is, I've never seen him before in my life anyway he continued to scream the same thing and said "next time I won't stop" the sped off down the road. This really scared me as I didn't know how he could get my address then turn up to my property to intimidate me but I haven't done what he is claiming and this just hasn't happened. Anyway I told a few people and everyone said I should report it to the police just in case anything else happens. So I did, I wasn't expecting they would do anything just keep a record incase anything more happens as he obviously has his wires crossed and I was worried he could come back. Well the police wanted to come to take a statement so they came today and all I can say is I really regret reporting it, the officer was so rude to me, told me none of it was threatening or intimidating and that he wasn't driving towards us he was "just driving past" I know when someone is driving in a threatening manner and trying to scare you but he implied he was just passing. He made out like the whole thing was in my head and made me feel incredibly stupid. The fact someone had found my address online (I don't even see how) and had come to my address had really scared me but he said there must be other things going on as I can't be scared about this or worried about this and it must be something else I am not mentioning, I asked him to leave but he wouldn't and it took several attempts of me asking before he actually left as he just kept repeating that it wasn't a threatening. Was I an idiot to report this as I feel like one? I shouldn't have reported it but everyone told me to. I feel so stupid now and that's the last time I bother to report anything. I honestly thought they would just put a record of it incase anything else happened how I feel like a complete idiot.

OP posts:
Needanewnamebeingwatched · 29/04/2024 19:05

Whatssthepointtt · 29/04/2024 19:00

I've just had a call back as I did complain and they did watch the footage and it's all there in black and white so I've took the complaint to the highest possible. I know nothing will come of it but it's all on file anyway if he has any history of this behaviour or does it to anyone else.

Good I'm so pleased, both men sound like wankers.

Let us know how you get on

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 29/04/2024 19:21

Good stuff OP X

Reugny · 29/04/2024 19:26

Well done OP.

While that man threatened you more importantly they threatened your child and the police officer dismissed it.

To threaten a child is unhinged, and then to dismiss that threat is despicable.

TonTonMacoute · 29/04/2024 19:35

Ah yes, our wonderful police, thank goodness we have to protect us and keep us safe - not.

I honestly don't know what it is they do with their time, but it doesn't actually seem to involve what I would call 'policing'.

Drapion · 29/04/2024 19:51

You should have complained, it is a serious threat, this maniac does know where you live, it was calculated. Do not dismiss it. I'm not saying for a second that the police officer was right in his judgment (he needs serious training) but if you decided half way through the statement that it wasn't what you wanted to do, his response might of been due to your dismissive reaction to the event.

I had issues with some people in my neighbourhood, the police were not going to take it seriously- I absolutely wore them down until they would! There was no way I was going to let anyone threaten me when I have young children at home and am often alone. They acted swiftly after that. It should never take you to convince them but sometimes they lack empathy probably because it's what they witness day in day out, they become numb to it. Which in itself is not acceptable.

likepebblesonabeach · 29/04/2024 20:02

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 29/04/2024 13:32

The man driving was a fellow police officer.

I’d put money on it.

He’s protecting his mate.

This wouldn't surprise me

DrJoanAllenby · 29/04/2024 20:34

If someone had 'slagged' the man off on Facebook he would have a name.

Why would he just ask if you lived at that address rather than say, 'Are you Doreen Smith'?

unsurebut · 30/04/2024 18:41

Good on you for complaining about the police officer.

Motnight · 30/04/2024 18:58

Whatssthepointtt · 29/04/2024 19:00

I've just had a call back as I did complain and they did watch the footage and it's all there in black and white so I've took the complaint to the highest possible. I know nothing will come of it but it's all on file anyway if he has any history of this behaviour or does it to anyone else.

Well done, Op.

Houseinawood · 30/04/2024 18:59

travellinglighter · 29/04/2024 13:21

I’d complain about the police officer and ask them to take your report seriously.

This complain and complain about the officer

MrsVeryTired · 01/05/2024 15:34

Good to hear OP, you've done the right thing

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