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Household chores for an 11 year old

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splatmouse · 26/04/2024 08:53

I'm trying to compile a reasonable list of age appropriate household chores for 11 year old DD. What's typical to expect someone of this age to be responsible for? I might have to scale back a little, an 11 year old who has been doing bits from a young age will be different from someone starting now.

A couple of things to consider;
We don't have a dishwasher - so 'loading the dishwasher' would be extremely difficult!

We don't have any pets at the moment

She's the elder of two, younger child is 8 and has ASD. This brings up some issues like 'how come [brother] doesn't have to do chores and, also, I don't want to create a dynamic where the girls/women do housework while the boys/men are exempt. So I would be happy to also assign DS some age appropriate and ASD appropriate chores.

The plan was to type this and print it out. Make it as clear as possible. She could even maybe earn some pocket money by completing all the weekly chores (or would that complicate things?) I'd love to hear some ideas/ advice from others.

OP posts:
MJCadman · 03/05/2024 06:56

My teens don't even make their bed, take their plate to the kitchen, hang up their coat, put dirty washing in the basket, open their blinds etc!!

Justcallmelucy · 03/05/2024 07:23

Tidy her room
Make her bed
Wash the dishes

Those are probably the basics at that age. If she wants to earn some extra pocket money now she is approaching secondary school age maybe a good time to start teaching her some new basic chores she will need in life. I seem to remember at that age I started to do things like putting my own washing in the machine, cleaning the bathroom etc. maybe show her how to separate clothes for washing. Next time you clean the bathroom maybe get her to watch how you clean.

suki1964 · 03/05/2024 22:36

Theblondemum · 01/05/2024 22:39

Let them be a child! Some people here treating their kids like slaves!
Keeping their room tidy should be enough. And help out when needed around the house, clear their plates etc but not having them clean the house etc do the washing, hoover and mop the floors, this is bordering on abuse!

ABUSE? Seriously what planet are you on?

You know we are living in 2024 and we SHOULD be accepting of everyone?

If this is the case, we should accept that everyone who lives under a roof is responsible in keeping that space clean and tidy

Now if you want to be a martyr go on ahead, you cook, clean and everything in between, but in the real world, we get all the help we can get

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/05/2024 22:40

Theblondemum · 01/05/2024 22:39

Let them be a child! Some people here treating their kids like slaves!
Keeping their room tidy should be enough. And help out when needed around the house, clear their plates etc but not having them clean the house etc do the washing, hoover and mop the floors, this is bordering on abuse!

My god. Get a grip. It's teaching them life skills, not sending them down into the mines.

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