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My 8month old came from nursery with a bruised knee

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Tiredofbeingtired85 · 25/04/2024 11:49

Hi! I am the mum of a 8month old baby. He is my first child and he goes to a nursery 2 days a week. It's rated "outstanding" and he seems to really like the staff. However, on Tuesday he came home with a big bruise on his knee. Nobody mentioned any issues when I picked him up. I want to raise this with them, but I am not sure how to. I am not British and have no clue what should be done. Any help?

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mindutopia · 25/04/2024 11:54

I would just mention it to them so they know and say he seemed to come home with it the other day. Honestly, this is completely normal. Babies who are starting to be mobile bang themselves on things. A bruise on the back or the head or the stomach would be more of a cause for concern. But a bruise on the knee would be pretty normal. I would mention it to them so they are aware - otherwise, they may question you about it - but I'd assume it happened after he was last changed, maybe he pulled up on something and slipped and landed on a toy. Yes, you'd hope they would have seen it, but they don't have their eyes on them all all the time and sometimes these things do get missed. But they should record any injuries and I would just mention it next time so they know that you've seen it and don't ring you to query it. I wouldn't do anything more than that because it's just one of those things.

PuttingDownRoots · 25/04/2024 11:54

Just ask.

But if he's mobile, starting to crawl or pull up... he will fall, pull things over onto himself, knock into things. He will get minor bruises or scrapes. He will get them at home too.

CucumberBagel · 25/04/2024 11:55

What do you think happened?

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Icanseethebeach · 25/04/2024 11:55

Assuming he can roll around and probably crawl based on his age then nothing. It’s perfectly normal, he has probably just crawled onto a toy.

Pennyandolive · 25/04/2024 11:56

I would just casually ask if they know how it happened. If he is crawling and moving around he may well just have done it and nobody has realised. I often find bruises on my body and have no idea how I got them. Similarly with my children - they are covered in them when they come home from school but rarely even realise they’ve done anything.

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Tiredofbeingtired85 · 25/04/2024 14:03

Thank you. He is my first nd I panic about every little thing. He has two marks on the same knee, one on either side of the right knee. To me it looks like either he had something around the knee or someone held his leg quite hard. If he hit something, it would be just one bruise. They are quite large as well. I will send them an email and ask.

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Pennyandolive · 25/04/2024 14:34

In your original post you say “a big bruise on his knee.” Why the change?
it still seems a bit over the top to email and ask…just ask next time you take him or pick him up. Kids get bruises.

twoandcooplease · 25/04/2024 15:05

Did the nursery explain their accident or incident record policy? My ds has just started nursery last week and I had meetings before starting so know at ours they daily record everything they see happen from nappy changes, drinks/food to injuries or falls and their mood

How big are 'big' bruises?

Do you feel trust in the nursery looking after your dc?

Poostickers · 25/04/2024 15:10

That sounds like an unusual bruise. I would photograph it. Its one of those things that if you didn't and wished you had it would be really frustrating. People may insinuate you are being silly or pfb but on what planet do we start telling mums not to have an instinct to protect their baby. Go with your gut and keep an eye, it's likely nothing but what if everyone rolled their eyes at every person who ever asked a safeguarding question?

upinclouds · 25/04/2024 15:12

Is he crawling? Sounds like the shape of the bruise could be caused by crawling on a hard toy.

Peonies12 · 25/04/2024 15:25

Assuming he was wearing trousers, possible they didn’t notice. Babies and kids get bruised all the time, especially legs and arms, I really wouldn’t worry.

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Tiredofbeingtired85 · 25/04/2024 18:11

Thank you. I photographed one side, where the bruise is bigger, but I will photograph the whole knee.

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Tiredofbeingtired85 · 25/04/2024 18:14

One of them is bigger than a £2 coin. The other is smaller and not well defined. He crawls a bit, mostly he grabs things and stands. And then falls...

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PrincessOfPreschool · 25/04/2024 18:22

He could have fallen or tried to push himself between a table and a wall, table leg and chair. I wouldn't worry. I assume he didn't cry or he did but had already removed himself from where he was.

Where I work the other day, a 3yo had a bump on her head. She was old enough to ask how she got it (tripped and banged her head). She didn't e even cry out so we weren't aware! Luckily she's old enough to ask what happened.

idontlikealdi · 25/04/2024 18:24

I think you're extrapolating somewhat.

burnttoad · 25/04/2024 18:24

Can you post the images for us to see?

Oblomov24 · 25/04/2024 18:24

This is completely normal.

kiwiane · 25/04/2024 18:26

You need to be open and honest with the nursery as they’ll surely ask you about it if they see it. It’s perfectly normal for children to get bumps and scrapes and best they know that they’ve missed this one.

ZipZapZoom · 25/04/2024 18:27

Honestly I get he's your baby and you don't want him to be hurt but it's just a bruise. You really need to stop with the over analysis and second guessing. Chances are he hurt it and made no fuss so no one noticed. It's equally as likely he banged it at home before you even left for the day and the bruise progressed whilst he was at nursery.

The simple fact is kids get millions of bruises and if you make a fuss at every one, you'll end up exhausted and burnt out from stress.

Singleandproud · 25/04/2024 18:29

Honestly I wouldn't be concerned about bruises to knees, elbows or any other 'sticky out' body parts, that's normal for children learning to move, roll, pull up to stand etc it happens and it doesn't always get noticed by home or nursery and is unlikely to lead to any serious damage.
Injurys and bruises to cheeks, eyes, general head area are different of course.

Let's hope he doesn't want to play rugby when older 'cos then you'll see some big bruises.

InTheRainOnATrain · 25/04/2024 18:32

Get used to it! Once they get mobile their little legs become a sea of bruises. Probably just crawled over a hard toy or maybe pulled to stand and tipped forward into whatever he was pulling on, and if he was wearing trousers and didn’t cry staff weren’t to know. I wouldn’t even mention it to the staff, it’s just such a none thing.

HideTheCroissants · 25/04/2024 19:00

To be honest, I’m an adult and come home from work with bruises that I’ve no idea how I got them!

My children usually came home from preschool with bruises, paint stains, sand in their hair…. I just saw it as evidence they’d had a fantastic time but I probably would have seen it a bit differently if they hadn’t been old enough to speak to me.

As others have said, just ask the nursery. It’s probably just normal infant bumps but if you have any concerns I’m sure they will be happy to discuss it with you.

WhereIsMyLight · 25/04/2024 19:09

It’s a bruise, so it could have happened with you and didn’t develop straight away. They might not have mentioned it, thinking it happened with you. If it’s happened at nursery, you should get an incident form but you’re only going to get one if it’s witnessed or he cries at the time of it happening. If it happens with you, you might need to fill in an existing injury form.

pimplebum · 26/04/2024 22:04

I often have bruises that I have no clue about

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 26/04/2024 22:11

I wousknt worry about a bruise on kneee or somewhere else can be easily knocked. If on eg neck or face then worry