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It's official - I'm ancient

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rockywilderness · 23/04/2024 13:05

Buying a bottle of cider in Lidl (the nice vintage one, I promise) and the checkout guy said to me, with a wink, "Well, young lady, I'm going to need to see some ID" and then laughed as he scanned it. I'm 45.

I'm now in the age category where it's hilarious to even suggest I might be under age.

Any other examples that I need to brace myself for?

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Toddlerteaplease · 23/04/2024 14:36

Singleandproud · 23/04/2024 14:06

The day I explained 'Pogs' and the fact that we used to get toys in our cereal and 'tazos' in our crisps to a group of year 11s. "Isnt that a choking hazard Miss?" I felt about 100 and Pogs just sounds like tiddly winks they clearly didn't understand the excitement of winning a 'shiny'.

This made me laugh out loud.

fromaytobe · 23/04/2024 14:40

I went to the doctor a couple of years ago because I had backache that wouldn't go away.

The first question: "Have you had a fall?"😡😯

I actually laughed, and said of course I hadn't. And then asked at what point was it that doctors started calling it 'had a fall" rather than tripped, or twisted yourself, or simply fallen arse over tip. She couldn't answer.

Singleandproud · 23/04/2024 14:45

@SOBplus out of interest why do you have to put hair colour when renewing a passport? Surely people can just dye their hair whenever and not update it each time or are they asking for natural colour?

As another one I had a student ask me how I got the silver tinsel in my hair as it looked really nice, "age" wasn't quite the answer they were after

RosesAndHellebores · 23/04/2024 14:53

In A&E a doctor who looked about 12 said "I'll assume you're retired as you are over 60" and then launched into a frailty review in a tone that assumed I was decrepit and lacked capacity. I was about two weeks beyond my 60th birthday and like everyone nowadays the statutory retirement age is 66+. It was discriminatory as well as ageist. So much fkr equality in the NHS.

The car salesman who addressed me as "Miss" when I was about 57. He really needed to dry behind his ears.

When young colleagues in their 30s ask me if they can help with my rucksack. No thank you.

I think I'm a pretty youthful 63 and many people are shocked when I give my age.

WhereIsMyLight · 23/04/2024 14:54

I was on a night out with my friend. The first in absolutely ages. It was raining and so we both had our heads down and hair in front of our faces to protect makeup. The bouncer says “‘xcuse girls, I’ll need your ID”. We both look up and reach for our bags when he gets a proper look at our faces and says “oh never mind, in you go ladies”. We were 31!

I did buy a bottle of wine at Tesco a few months ago as part of a small top-up shop but still clearly a boring adult shop (think like washing up liquid, cheese, wholemeal bread, hummus and wine). The woman on self checkout gets the challenge 25 and has a look at my odd and boring shop, weighs up the toddler and my haggard look and I jokingly said if she needed to see my ID I’d be more than happy to provide it. She humoured me and asked for my ID but barely glanced at it and said I don’t need to read the full DOB as my year of birth started with a 19 and was so clearly over 18!

Sunshineandpinkclouds · 23/04/2024 15:06

I have been offered a seat on the tube twice and both times it was young guys. I'm 53 and like to think I reminded them of their Mum and they wouldn't want her standing up - rather than them thinking I'm old!

Both times I took the seat - not because I wanted to but they were so polite I felt like I was doing them the favour.

rockywilderness · 23/04/2024 15:15

Christ - it seems like 50 is the official turning point. It's all ahead of me still!

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SOBplus · 23/04/2024 15:26

Singleandproud · 23/04/2024 14:45

@SOBplus out of interest why do you have to put hair colour when renewing a passport? Surely people can just dye their hair whenever and not update it each time or are they asking for natural colour?

As another one I had a student ask me how I got the silver tinsel in my hair as it looked really nice, "age" wasn't quite the answer they were after

You can dye your hair, but mine is all grey and the form asks for current hair colour.

MrsClatterbuck · 23/04/2024 15:32

Gulbekian · 23/04/2024 13:59

Being offered a seat on a train/bus. Very sobering.

I had this and worse the person offering looked older than me in my eyes anyways. Also happened to DH in Austria though tbh at least in his case they were most definitely much younger.

BebbanburgIsMine · 23/04/2024 15:34

@WearyAuldWumman

I'm Scottish and I got my bowel testing kit in the post on my 50th birthday 😂

Walkinginthesand · 23/04/2024 15:39

I recently had to navigate two under 5s on their bikes on the pavement. Their mother apologised and I heard her say to them as I walked away "Guys, you must watch out for the old people."

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 23/04/2024 15:43

I saw William Morris tea cosies advertised on Instagram and thought how lovely they are. So I'm old, British and middle class.

FullFathomFyve · 23/04/2024 15:46

Another2Cats · 23/04/2024 14:20

I was on a really packed Northern line tube train one Saturday afternoon. It was so packed that people were standing right along the coach and it was rather a hot day last autumn.

So there I was, standing in the middle of a packed tube carriage, and what happens? A very polite young girl (I would say probably an undergrad or graduate student type) with an American accent who was sat in a seat adjacent to where I was standing looked up at me and enquired whether I would like to have her seat.

I was absolutely mortified. That she took me for some old person that she should give up her seat for really shook my perception of myself. I thanked her and politely declined and she then got off at the next station.

For context, I'm late 50s but clearly I must look much older than that.

The same happened to me at the same age Another2Cats and I absolutely relate to your response of it shaking your preception of yourself. I was devastated! I am under no illusion that I look young, but I thought I did look like the healthy, fit, active, hiking, wild camping, yoga-practising middle-aged person I am - not like an elderly person who couldn't stand up on a train for a few minutes! It was a real shock. Of course I realise the seat offerer was being kind and polite, but the impact on my self perception was enormous.

Spybot · 23/04/2024 15:56

I just bought a vintage Mercedes. That is termed an 'antique in the industry. It is from 1980 and I am older than it!

Zimunya · 23/04/2024 16:01

Moier · 23/04/2024 14:14

Sainsburys...
I got a sandwich and bag of crisps from the chiller..
The guy on the till age about 35 said " would you like to go for a drink".
I said I'm very flattered but I'm 66 and you're far too young for me.
He said " l mean from the fridge..it's part of the meal deal"

This is brilliant!

KittyCollar · 23/04/2024 16:02

Walkinginthesand · 23/04/2024 15:39

I recently had to navigate two under 5s on their bikes on the pavement. Their mother apologised and I heard her say to them as I walked away "Guys, you must watch out for the old people."

This made me laugh. How old are you?? I’d have been GUTTED

NasiDagang · 23/04/2024 16:02

It gets worse, I keep getting emails from Direct Cremations!

ComeOnThenFanny · 23/04/2024 16:03

I can remember my mum going to the cinema when she was early/mid 60s, and being asked if she wanted the senior citizen discount... She refused and rang me when she got back absolutely fuming 🤣
She's 73 now and I think she only started using it a couple of years ago!

With regards to the ID thing, I can remember being at the supermarket in the pandemic, and someone asking for my ID - I pulled my mask down, and she said "oh yeah, ok" I was LIVID 😂

TheDowdyQueen · 23/04/2024 16:03

Any other examples that I need to brace myself for?

The BIG one... when you look in the mirror and your mother stares back at you Grin

Zimunya · 23/04/2024 16:04

Sunshineandpinkclouds · 23/04/2024 15:06

I have been offered a seat on the tube twice and both times it was young guys. I'm 53 and like to think I reminded them of their Mum and they wouldn't want her standing up - rather than them thinking I'm old!

Both times I took the seat - not because I wanted to but they were so polite I felt like I was doing them the favour.

Good for those lads. Lovely to hear hat manners are not completely lost.,

ComeOnThenFanny · 23/04/2024 16:05

TheDowdyQueen · 23/04/2024 16:03

Any other examples that I need to brace myself for?

The BIG one... when you look in the mirror and your mother stares back at you Grin

Trust me @TheDowdyQueen, it's worse when it's your Dad! 🤣

NewWater · 23/04/2024 16:05

A friend of mine, who at the time was a 48 year old ultramarathoner, extremely fit and rather vain, was absolutely gutted when someone in Homebase or some other DIY store asked him if he was aware of the OAP discount on Thursdays.

fromaytobe · 23/04/2024 16:06

Spybot · 23/04/2024 15:56

I just bought a vintage Mercedes. That is termed an 'antique in the industry. It is from 1980 and I am older than it!

No - not vintage - classic 😂😎

IAmGrey · 23/04/2024 16:09

HRTFT - When they don't ask you if there's any chance you might be pregnant before an x-ray...

Aria999 · 23/04/2024 16:09

TheDowdyQueen · 23/04/2024 16:03

Any other examples that I need to brace myself for?

The BIG one... when you look in the mirror and your mother stares back at you Grin

I actually like seeing my mum in the mirror, she died when I was 30 and I miss her. (I am 46).