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It's official - I'm ancient

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rockywilderness · 23/04/2024 13:05

Buying a bottle of cider in Lidl (the nice vintage one, I promise) and the checkout guy said to me, with a wink, "Well, young lady, I'm going to need to see some ID" and then laughed as he scanned it. I'm 45.

I'm now in the age category where it's hilarious to even suggest I might be under age.

Any other examples that I need to brace myself for?

OP posts:
JaffaCake70 · 23/04/2024 19:37

Gulbekian · 23/04/2024 13:59

Being offered a seat on a train/bus. Very sobering.

This happened to me for the first time a couple of weeks ago.. my Husband (who was with me at the time) thought it was hilarious!

I'm 53 and was grateful to the very polite young lady who offered me her seat.

Boozysoozy1 · 23/04/2024 19:44

I was at the hairdresser and they gave me a saga (as in holidays) magazine to read - I’m 37!

KnickerlessParsons · 23/04/2024 19:51

I actually laughed, and said of course I hadn't. And then asked at what point was it that doctors started calling it 'had a fall" rather than tripped, or twisted yourself, or simply fallen arse over tip. She couldn't answer.

This!

At what age do you move from "falling over" or just "falling" to "having a fall"?
🤷🏼‍♀️

Ncncncncc · 23/04/2024 19:53

clary · 23/04/2024 14:33

Hahaha @Moier so sorry but this properly made me LOL - I am slightly mortified for you tho

That’s a well known meme / internet joke except they use Tesco in it

DuckonaBike · 23/04/2024 20:07

I sometimes get adverts for a dating agency called Silver Singles. I’m only 51! (and I’m not single, so they clearly don’t know anything about me).

Another2Cats · 23/04/2024 20:08

FullFathomFyve · 23/04/2024 15:46

The same happened to me at the same age Another2Cats and I absolutely relate to your response of it shaking your preception of yourself. I was devastated! I am under no illusion that I look young, but I thought I did look like the healthy, fit, active, hiking, wild camping, yoga-practising middle-aged person I am - not like an elderly person who couldn't stand up on a train for a few minutes! It was a real shock. Of course I realise the seat offerer was being kind and polite, but the impact on my self perception was enormous.

What is also interesting to me about that interaction is what other people said to me when I mentioned it to them.

The young woman who spoke to me had an obvious American accent. We have several family members and friends who live in the States and so I mentioned this to a couple of them at the time.

A typical reaction was something like "Aww, that was incredibly kind of her to offer, someone raised her right."

but with the follow up "But yeah, I’d be internally mortified!"

Or "She's probably from the south or the mid west"

I don't really know how much US small town culture differs from the UK but I do remember the husband of my DH's niece (so nephew-in-law??) who is American and in his late 30s told me about one occasion when he went to a 7/11 near his old high school

"...and as I am walking to the door a group of like 10 high school kids from the rowing team from my old high school are walking out the door. I am polite and open and hold the door for them. They thanked me, and all called me sir, and were super polite and all of that.

Treated me how good kids treat an elder. That made me feel f***g old as dirt, especially since I was on that same team, albeit 20 years ago. And then I thought about it, and I could have gone to high school with their parents (assuming they had kids really young). That really made me feel old."

So maybe (and I'm hanging on to a thread here) just maybe, her offer was more to do with a sense of politeness for someone who was clearly older than her rather than thinking I really was in need of a seat..

Or, of course, that may just be me trying to rationalise what happened.

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:10

You know you're getting old, when people (usually much younger) start calling you 'young lady!' It's so patronising calling someone who is clearly at least 50 'young lady!' And don't even get me STARTED on 'Ethel is 90 years YOUNG today!' Urgh! Confused

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:11

Oh and yeah I also wondered what age you have to get to before falling over, becomes 'having a fall!' 😆

Weighnow · 23/04/2024 20:12

I've felt very old all of a sudden this week. My parents have suddenly, almost over night, both turned into fragile little old people, after being very sprightly until recently, and they're not actually that much older than me. It's scary, I've got maybe 20 years until it happens to me (although the alternative is worse!)

Weighnow · 23/04/2024 20:14

Another2Cats · 23/04/2024 20:08

What is also interesting to me about that interaction is what other people said to me when I mentioned it to them.

The young woman who spoke to me had an obvious American accent. We have several family members and friends who live in the States and so I mentioned this to a couple of them at the time.

A typical reaction was something like "Aww, that was incredibly kind of her to offer, someone raised her right."

but with the follow up "But yeah, I’d be internally mortified!"

Or "She's probably from the south or the mid west"

I don't really know how much US small town culture differs from the UK but I do remember the husband of my DH's niece (so nephew-in-law??) who is American and in his late 30s told me about one occasion when he went to a 7/11 near his old high school

"...and as I am walking to the door a group of like 10 high school kids from the rowing team from my old high school are walking out the door. I am polite and open and hold the door for them. They thanked me, and all called me sir, and were super polite and all of that.

Treated me how good kids treat an elder. That made me feel f***g old as dirt, especially since I was on that same team, albeit 20 years ago. And then I thought about it, and I could have gone to high school with their parents (assuming they had kids really young). That really made me feel old."

So maybe (and I'm hanging on to a thread here) just maybe, her offer was more to do with a sense of politeness for someone who was clearly older than her rather than thinking I really was in need of a seat..

Or, of course, that may just be me trying to rationalise what happened.

I was once offered a seat on the Tube 3 times in one day. I'm still not sure if they all thought I looked old, pregnant or ill 🤣

Singleandproud · 23/04/2024 20:17

@Weighnow I also always offer my seat to anyone who looks tired or has bags to manage so could be any of those.

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:17

@Moier · Today 14:14

I got a sandwich and bag of crisps from the chiller..
The guy on the till age about 35 said " would you like to go for a drink".
I said I'm very flattered but I'm 66 and you're far too young for me.
He said " l mean from the fridge... it's part of the meal deal"

@Ncncncncc

That's a well know internet meme Moier

Yeah true. I first heard this 'story' ... "would you like to go for a drink?" "Oh sorry no I'm taken/too old for you." "No I mean with your meal" around 5 years ago.

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:18

Weighnow · 23/04/2024 20:12

I've felt very old all of a sudden this week. My parents have suddenly, almost over night, both turned into fragile little old people, after being very sprightly until recently, and they're not actually that much older than me. It's scary, I've got maybe 20 years until it happens to me (although the alternative is worse!)

How old are they? (Your parents..)

Weighnow · 23/04/2024 20:19

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:18

How old are they? (Your parents..)

77 & 80

SabreIsMyFave · 23/04/2024 20:29

Weighnow · 23/04/2024 20:19

77 & 80

Just wondering how long I have got til I get a bit like that! 😬

IME, people (SOME people!) tend to start to appear a bit more 'old' (as you say your parents are,) by mid 70s. So I have another 20-ish years! (Probably!)

quizzys · 23/04/2024 20:30

Yep I get it. I was in a shop abroad with my younger by five years sister. She was trying on a dress, and the assistant said, oh that is a lovely dress, what does your Mamma think.......i.e. me!!

I wanted to kill that woman. We sisters were in our fifties both of us. I don't know who I hated more, my youthful looking sis or that damned shop lady. (lighthearted, I think!)

ArcticBells · 23/04/2024 20:33

Emmerald · 23/04/2024 19:15

During the first lockdown the Asda delivery man said it was a good thing that we had chosen delivery and not gone to the store as "it's ok for us young people but for old people like you, well..." then he did a long drawn in breath and shook his head sadly.

I was with my DD in Sainsbury's buying wine and the checkout lad asked for iD. I started fishing it out, feeling rather good, when he stopped me and said, "not you, I can see you're old. It's your friend I need to check is over 18"

He could have played along and made my day! 😩

That's hilarious too GrinGrin

OldHabitsDieScreaming · 23/04/2024 20:41

Ncncncncc · 23/04/2024 19:53

That’s a well known meme / internet joke except they use Tesco in it

Yep, was just about to say this. It is funny but it didn't happen...

https://twitter.com/DadJokeMan/status/1316347055149809665

https://twitter.com/DadJokeMan/status/1316347055149809665

superplumb · 23/04/2024 20:44

I get funeral care junk mail addressed to me. Began shortly after my 45th birthday.

IntermittentFarting · 23/04/2024 21:02

Had just laid hardwood floor throughout the house, hung some new doors and had a big clear out, so had taken a trip to the dump. Im 5' 9 and broad shouldered, was dressed in overalls, sturdy boots, gloves and sleeves rolled up, and was carrying piles of crap to the huge skips with nary a puff nor pause.
This skinny little man, several inches shorter and stones lighter than me came over and asked "Would you like a hand, love?"
He wasn't even much younger, if at all.

The next day, the Asda man asked, for the first time, if I wanted help bringing my shopping in.

Think I must have visibly aged overnight!

AhBiscuits · 23/04/2024 21:07

I went to my doctor about some wrist and hand pain. She was like
'You're a woman in your 40s, this sort of thing is really common for us'

Aria999 · 23/04/2024 21:13

When I was in my 30s pre kids DH and I showed up to a hotel in Germany and the receptionist thought he was my son.... I am a year younger than him!

It had been a hard day traveling and I wasn't looking my best but I have never forgiven her....

AmusedMaker · 23/04/2024 21:14

When your year of birth on any online forms goes back 7 or 8 scrolls.

ThomasinaLivesHere · 23/04/2024 21:17

For me, there’s been such a big difference between early thirties and late thirties. I’d be mistaken for a student at the start of my thirties. Now late thirties there’s no chance of that. Definitely more a middle age thing going on. And I’ve noticed a few grey hairs!

Aria999 · 23/04/2024 21:22

ThomasinaLivesHere · 23/04/2024 21:17

For me, there’s been such a big difference between early thirties and late thirties. I’d be mistaken for a student at the start of my thirties. Now late thirties there’s no chance of that. Definitely more a middle age thing going on. And I’ve noticed a few grey hairs!

I had the same.

Unfortunately I then found the difference from early to late 40s equally conspicuous.

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