Be honest - am I just being lazy?!

[LazyDaysy]

I’m nearly 10 weeks pregnant and I have zero energy. Nada. Not sleeping great. Morning sickness is also quite bad although I have only vomited a few times. Smells turn my stomach, even perfume, and drinking water makes me gag.

I have a couple of in-person meetings on Monday and so said I’d go to the office. I really don’t want to. I haven’t been for weeks, since before my symptoms kicked in. It’s a long commute which involves driving and busy trains. I have no idea what to wear. I’m at that awkward end of first trimester stage where none of my clothes fit well as I am really bloated. In many outfits I think it’s obvious I’m pregnant. My manager and one colleague knows but I don’t want the whole office finding out just yet, nor to be self conscious of my outfit all day.

What should I do? I feel like if I’m honest, I will just look like I can’t be bothered which isn’t a great image. The meetings can and have previously been done over teams as it’s just conversational. I’m in a tizz over it and don’t know if I need to just get on with it.

Office one day (really long commute)

Community x3 days

Home one day

Ok @LazyDaysy, I get it but I still don’t see how working in the community three days is an argument against a commute (even a long one) for one day in a number of weeks.

ultimately it’s up to you, only you know how you genuinely feel and what your commute and following day in the office is likely to consist of but you asked for honest opinions and mine is that, from what you’ve posted here, is that you mostly, if not completely, just don’t want to.

if you’re just looking for supportive comments that bolster your inclination then that’s up to you, there’s plenty here. Unless you’re holding back on other information I don’t see any reason to change my opinion though.

I’m struggling to see why you can do three days in the community (are you driving to your base and then onto your community calls?) but can’t do one single longer commute - it really does sound like you just don’t want to do it. Regardless, MN can’t give you permission not to go - as you manager has already said you need to take a sick day if you can’t do one day in the office then either do that or ask for an Occ Health assessment and take it from there.

Reckon that women fought for the right not to be overlooked even if they do take some time off, whether pregnant or not.

Floaty top and black leggings to be comfy in the office, I have severe endometriosis and get awful bloating so this is what I wear. I do think if it's just a day you might feel better for just getting up and going in unless you're really ill. I was a care assistant in a dementia home throughout my pregnancy and it was fucking hellish tbh but I dragged myself in because life can't stop just because you're pregnant. Saying that, it's no harm in speaking to your manager and asking about if you're able to wfh during pregnancy if you don't feel well.

You're showing already? Seems unlikely.

Just do it on teams

That's what it's for

I sympathise its shit but you need to go in its almost using it as an excuse normal life continues.

I was like this when pregnant - sooo tired. I was allowed to work from home as it was deemed dangerous for me to drive 1 hour home on dual carriageways. Your manager needs to realise pregnancy is different and that you can either work from home do no commute or you can be signed off sick until tiredness subsides ( mine didn’t and working from home meant I could have a snooze st lunchtime to help me get through to end of day!)