Would you stay home if money was no issues?

[Nexla]

If money was no issue and you could just stay home and do your hobbies, read, work out, see friends and then keep the house ticking over would you or would you rather work?

No I would be bored out of my mind.

I wouldn't mind volunteering instead of paid work if I had loads of money, but I would have to do something purposeful.

Just hanging around the house and socialising a bit sounds like a bit of a waste of a life to me. What would be the point?

No way you’d get me to work if I didn’t have to. What a bore the expectation is. I actually like my job but still would rather not.

Christ yes. I wouldn't be remotely bored. Jeez, I can think of a million things that would keep me occupied!

I hate working, I always have.

Is your OH happy with that? I wouldn't be.

Mine would have been if I'd wanted to. Out earns me 10 times over. I only work (part time) to keep one foot in the industry as it were.

I'm a sahm. Over the years I've volunteered to keep my CV active and I've kept on with what I enjoy doing (tutoring lovely young adults). I went back to work for a bit (retraining) but we couldn't cope. DH works very long hours and we have no help and can't afford to outsource. We did have wrap around but the kids hated it on top of us flailing. One of the worst times of my life. We are back to me being sah. I do want to go back to work but right now I'm needed at home and we can manage better money wise that way. We invest and have put a load of money into the mortgage so we try to make it work. I get looked down on massively by family but ignore it best I can.
Edit. We are married and my name is on mortgage. It's a joint account just in case I sound controlled or abused 🙄

No way. I would rather sit on a cactus.
We have children to set an example to and a brain to use.

@WithACatLikeTread my circumstances actually mean that I can't work (paid job) at the moment (child with a disability) but he also understands that mental health is very important.
The job I used to have gave me depression and almost caused a breakdown and he was very supportive.
We would rather live on a small income than have mental health suffer.

@HcbSS why do you believe someone can only use their brain if they are in paid employment?

This is such a boring argument. When I was a SAHM I used my brain every day. I wrote, I made art, I read books, I watched the news, I volunteered. Frankly my corporate job saps more of my braincells than staying at home ever did.

Might have been better to mention that. Personally if it weren't for those circumstances as your OH I would resentful of your leisure time whilst I slogged away.

Good thing you're not the OP's OH then, isn't it.

No i'd work part time, i like my job/bosses/teams.

@WithACatLikeTread no actually the time he supported me quitting my job was before our child was even born.

I’ve just returned to work after a month off (trauma/ burn out)
It was needed, I’ve been in the same workplace for 14 years. I did enjoy the time off but there are only so many rooms to paint, cupboards to arrange and friends and family to see. When the DC were preschool I was at home and busy but work is more fulfilling and less tiring than toddler wrangling.

I don’t think anyone would choose to just sit around the house being bored would they? Vast vast vast majority of the ‘I’d stay home’ answers are saying they’d do lots of stuff! There are countless purposes outside of work, don’t you agree?

I'd definitely do some sort of work without a doubt.
Part time or whatever.

Well, I've already said that volunteering/community work would be a good alternative, so clearly I don't think paid work is the only option.

And if you're writing or painting a masterpiece etc, then that is also worthwhile.

But a life just pottering around and pursuing my own personal hobbies without really giving anything back to the world? No, I can't really see the point in that.

To be fair, I can't see the point in a lot of paid jobs either.

This is my life currently. I have a 3 year-old who has just started doing 5 sessions of preschool a week before his new sibling arrives in Sept/Oct. Overall I’m hugely grateful to be able to do this but honestly it does get boring at times.

Again it is quite possible to use your brain and be a productive and inspiring person without working a job.

Well, find a more meaningful job, then. It’s not like your only options are being a mildly arty SAHM who watches the news (!) or a corporate drone.

No, OP, I wouldn’t, and neither would anyone of either sex with two brain cells to rub together.

I think some people must need to be told what to do or at least be given a structure by someone else in order to feel like they have a purpose. Others perhaps find there whole identity is tied up in their job and that they are afraid to let go of that because they feel like a nobody without that role and title.

Yawn, you show a serious lack of imagination. Still society needs someone to do all the grunt work!

No because all my friends work full time and I would be so lonely. I don't live near family.
I thrive off working and the company of others.
I enjoy the personal satisfaction my role brings me and love the Friday feeling of a week done well.
I struggle with boredom eating and would definitely gain a lot of weight.
I enjoy having a separate identity to wife and mother.

Like what? Shall I go and retrain to be a doctor or a social worker?

I personally think it displays a spectacular lack of intelligence to assume that anyone who would admit to preferring not to work must be thick.