What’s the word for when more is expected of you than what you do

[BigMandyHarris]

….. but you’ve accepted that what you do is enough, and you’re happy with that.

”Self …….. ??”

That feels like separate questions

Do you feel fulfilled? content?

Are others more ambitious for you?

You're content or self confident with who you are.

Self-acceptance

If it's work related, do you mean quiet quitting?

Not work related, almost always personal.

example: you take a child to visit a grandparent twice a week. GP complains it’s not enough but you know that if you went 3 times they would still think it wasn’t enough. You’re satisfied that you visit often enough and are comfortable with that decision no matter how much they complain. So you’re self ……

Self Acceptance doesn’t really cover it as that’s a more general acceptance of your character, faults and all.

I feel like there should be a specific word but I don’t think there is

Satisfied?

Self assured?

Confident... and tell grandparent (or whoever it is) to stop being entitled.

I’d call that having good, healthy boundaries.

This

Or good self-esteem.

Self Satisfied indicates smugness I think
Self Assured - maybe!

I have a few friends/family at the moment who seem to keep giving into the demands of others, and yet it’s still not enough. I want them to understand that so long as they’re happy with what they’re doing then they should feel ok about it, and not permanently quilty

I think self assured or self satisfied or maybe self confident.

Self-validating

Also self-determining

Sounds also like self preservation to me!

I'm not sure about it starting with self, I would say comfortable with your own decisions

Yes self preservation- if you know extra visits per your example would not be enough, then you are saving yourself stress by not trying to chase a rainbow that has no end

I think assertive covers it

But assertive is the action rather than the feeling.

Self assured
satisfied

Do you mean something like resolute or steadfast?

I don't think one word is going to do it, but I've had a great time looking at German words!

Depends whose POV you take. Your POV = smart. Your employer's POV = idle. The question is, whose POV matters most to you 😂

Self-preservation

OP you said it yourself already - an unrealistic expectation