Parents evening - pronouns

[Chillyboots]

To put this into context a little, I work in secondary school and generally we have a good idea of the students who prefer to use the pronouns 'they/them' and their preferred pronouns are on their file. I don't actually work directly with any of our students who prefer these pronouns but I do know there are a few students in school who use them.

I went to my daughter's parents evening tonight (another school) and one of the teachers started talking to me and kept saying 'they'. I was pretty tired after work and assumed he was talking about my daughter and her friends but then as it carried on realised he was referring to her as 'they/them'. He was actually a trainee teacher who'd been teaching her for a few months (so he does know her).
All the other teachers referred to her as 'she/her'.

I know this might sound petty but just as students who prefer being called 'they/them' like to be addressed accordingly, I feel that her/she/he/his should also be used for those who choose it.

I wonder if all students will, in the near future, be referred to as 'they/them' if teachers become afraid to use gendered pronouns.

I'm not fuming about this by any means but wondered what other people's thoughts were. I am also interested to know if this is what is being advised in TT nowadays.

I could be wrong but the wealth of evidence on human biology and human experience tells me I’m not.

This.

It's coercive and has massive implications to everyone else.

It's not a neutral act.

It's amazing the nerve people who say

Or perhaps you're wrong. Did that ever cross your mind?

have when it comes to sex/gender.

It's never those who observe sex who are saying this. It's always the genderists. And they don't seem to consider the reverse that it's then who are wrong.

That's some astonishing level of arrogance.

I've noticed my kid doing this once or twice and the only place he's picked it up from is YouTube. Entirely possible that it's come from social media of some kind, he might not even be aware he's made the shift. (I correct my kid when it doesn't make grammatical sense: sometimes 'they' does make sense, sometimes it doesn't. This stuff makes me wish I could go back to English language at uni and pay more attention during Analysing Sentences so I could figure out precisely why it sometimes works and other times doesn't.)

I saw my friend in town. They was heading into Primark

None of this nonsense should be going on in schools. The kids who are demanding personalised pronouns are just pushing to see what they can get away with as kids have always done but for some unfathomable reason adults aren't acting like adults towards them. They're being massively let down by the pandering as is anyone who will have the misfortune to deal with them in the future - it's the school's job to provide healthy boundaries and discipline.

I fear for the future of the English language.