Feeling somebody sit down on my bed at night..

[Tigress941]

It has happened three or four times now over the past couple of months. I'll be laying in bed trying to drift off (which takes a while sometimes, so I'm still awake when it happens) and I can feel, as clear as day, somebody sitting down on the bed either next to me or at the bottom.

Suffice to say it does nothing for helping me drift off! Obviously when I look, there's nobody there.

Has anybody else experienced this? Is it some sort of sleep paralysis? I'm generally not a believer of anything 'woo' but I'd be lying if i said it hadn't crossed my mind.

NC incase I sound like a nutcase 🙃

cat?

Lot's of times I've thought the cat's got on the bed or someone's put their weight on the bed near me.

It's happened when I've been awake reading too.

If it's a sleep thing, meh, if it's a spirit thing - well that opens up a WHOLE can of existential worms I'm too scientific to entertain for a second.

Oddly, when DM died stuff like cutlery would fall on the floor when I KNEW I'd put it on the kitchen top - as if someone had picked up to put it away and then dropped it - so I'd say 'thanks for helping, mum.' It still happens occasionally and I say the same thing.

It has happened again tonight, this time it felt like somebody full on kicked the bed. I've scared myself now and am too anxious to lay down and close my eyes again.

Seeing the logical explanation explained here definitely made me feel better earlier on but my brain can't seem to compute it at night time when I'm on my own 😞

Up until your last update I was going to suggest you just considered it was your Guardian Angel watching over you while you slept. Kicking the bed though is just rude! I'd be tempted to tell them that.
Would a (very low wattage) night light help?

That's even freaked me out a bit OP, and I'm not even there!

I get this: usually during stressful times. A few years ago the voice told me to kill myself

I think/hope a light would help, ill get one tomorrow. I wanted to sleep with the main light on but it's faulty at the minute so doesn't work and sods law would have it that none of the bulbs I have fit into the lamp I bought for the bedroom 😑

I'm glad I name changed for this thread as I feel so ridiculous but I'm really quite upset about it. I have 3 little ones so need as much sleep as I can get.

Gosh that's horrible, I'm sorry. Did you realise at the time that it was all from stress?

I'm quite an anxious person when given cause, so I'm even questioning whether I'm losing the plot 😐

repeats to self, its just sleep paralysis!

I used to get sleep paralysis a lot before I knew what it was, it was genuinely terrifying, my “visitor” was a man in a grey suit standing beside my bed and I couldn’t move or speak no matter how hard I tried it was very distressing, when I found out what it was from a magazine (this is pre internet) I was so relieved as I thought there really was a ghost of a man in my house. I do still get it every so often, I have to admit it still does unsettle me despite knowing what it is. Recently I’ve been having the cat jumping on the bed sensation, but I like to think it’s my deceased little dog who died a year ago coming for a cuddle in her usual spot between DH and me.

Look up hypnogogic/hypnopompic hallucinations.

(You could also look up incubus/succubus myths, but that might be less calming.)

This happens to me, or I feel the bed shaking or like someone is right there and about to whisper in my ear. It's not sleep paralysis, they are hypnagogic hallucinations which happen when you're falling asleep. Totally normal

This happened to me the night my Nana died and never again since. It woke me and my body and head rolled into the depression that was made. It was like she'd sat down on the edge of my mattress. I felt completely calm though, not frightened at all.

Yes. Mine started after bereavement. It hasn't gone away but is harmless. I hope you're OK now.

That will be the ghost in your bedroom sitting down

I'm a believer so I'd say (out loud) "your scaring me, can you give me your message in a dream and go please." 'They' almost always go 🤷

Less calming, but (sometimes) way sexier…?😀

It’s your brain being in the weird moments before switching states.
I often feel the whole bed ‘shake’ when i’m falling asleep that jolts me awake. Also have ‘heard’ footsteps running on the stairs and banging on the door. Felt a vibrating buzzing on my head. None of these things have actually physically happened. It’s interesting though!

It’s normal. It’s something that happens in between sleep and waking. Feels very real, but it isn’t.

After my dog died, I used to hear his collar jangle as he ran into my room and then feel him jump onto my bed and curl up by my legs.

Also, when my newborn was asleep in his cot I used to feel him in my arms wriggling around.

None of it’s real. Just our minds playing tricks. Quite nice tricks, sometimes 🙂

The times when I have that it is in, fact, a cat (our cat...).

I did have a weird thing the other night though, in a hotel bed. In the middle of the night I kicked my legs out a bit to try and untuck the sheet at the bottom as I was hot and felt myself kick something solid, like a person. Nothing there. Freaked me out for quite a while and I had to get out of bed and check around (I was in a room with my husband and child, but they were both soundly asleep).
I suspect it was just the sheets were so tightly tucked in that I kicked against a very taut sheet, but it felt so solid - I genuinely thought I'd just kicked my poor child when it first happened.

I have several times had the sensation of someone getting into bed and putting their arms around me... when I lived alone!! So, so freaky.

I seem to be very sensitive to sleep paralysis. Seeing spiders, hearing my name called, etc.

It's a form of sleep paralysis.

When I was a teen I used to wake up with a man sat on my chest (not really but it felt real to me!). I'd have gladly swapped for someone just on the end of my bed!

It's not nuts, normal for some depending on your sleep cycle. It's because you're more conscious than you should be at the boundaries of sleep. I grew out-of it.

I used to get this when I was sleeping on my nans sofa. I would feel the blanket pull down and the bottom cushion sink down as it someone had sat down where my feet were. The scary thing was that's the seat my uncle died in of a heart attack 😱

Yes this has happened to me a few times and I put it down to tiredness. Doesn't explain hearing someone walking round above me when I'm home alone. Semi detached so nobody lives on the side it happens on. Totally scaring myself now 😱