How old were your kids when you stopped enforcing a bed time?

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9 and 11 year old still have a bed time. It’s 9pm on a weekday, and 10pm(can be a bit later if I go to bed later) on weekend or holiday.

Electronics downstairs from about 8.30 for my 14 year old but we don’t enforce a bedtime after that. Generally she is sensible but sometimes will still be reading after I’ve gone to bed.

I don’t enforce a bedtime on my almost 13 year old but since I stopped she actually goes to bed earlier . She normally goes up by 10 latest on a weekday and doesn’t like to be downstairs without me at a weekend so goes to bed when I do .

My youngest goes to bed at about 9.
Eldest is 16 and we still tell him to go up to bed about 10.30/ 11.
Basically before we go up..he wouldn't come up to bed nor turn any lights off if we didn't.

DD(12) has been putting herself to bed around 9pm for a couple of years. She's not very good at staying up late and knows it.

Ds(15) needs reminding to go to bed at 11pm sometimes.

Thank you my mind was working through cultures. Fully appreciate that ND and NT would impact on what works for each family.

Ds13 has to be reminded at 9:30 to go to bed. He was allowed to be awake until 10 but when we were waking him up he was complaining that he is tired so we put the bed time half an hour earlier. Seems to work well.

Me too.

I tell my 14 and 11 year old to go to bed otherwise they just wouldn't!! It's around 9/9.30pm including weekends unless we're out with friends or on holiday. Younger one has to be woken for school quite often so clearly needs his sleep. Older one enjoys his sleep so not such a problem: he's often asleep before younger one.

Devices stay downstairs.

I've always been strict with bedtime but it's definitely evolved. I'm not having live at home children going to bed after me.

Devices with me at 10pm on a school night, and she gets a nudge at 11 to turn out lights. Less bothered on weekends and holidays but she does still get told by midnight. 14. If we didn't, she would stay up mucking about all night and needs her sleep. School suffers and so do I, with moods and emotions. She knows all this, but suffers major fomo.

Probably yr 8 ish so about 13. We were never the strictest of parents though. They are 15 and 16 now and up later than us most nights. 15 year old can cope and gets up for a school, 16 year old struggles. We have put restrictions on the wifi to try and get them to bed earlier!

My 9 and 11 year old are 8pm for bedroom and 9pm lights out.

I never enforced a bed time, we all went to bed - and slept well - when we were tired.

14 year olds go to bed at 9.30 here, but they are often still chatting / bickering at 11.

Our 14 10-10-30 tho will usually be in bed doing PS4 or reading long before that

My 12 year old has a bed time (plus consequences if she doesn't stick to it) ranging between 830 and 915 depending on when she gets home. She's a pain to get up in the morning, never gets up when her alarm goes off, especially if she's in bed after 9.
14 year old we tried to let him decide and it was an absolute disaster, so he has an official bed time between 845 and 915 but we let him decide when to turn lights off.
We have a no device in the bedroom after 7pm.