Would you tell your mum if your sister was pregnant?

[juneisintheair]

And 17

Planning to keep it

She said her and her boyfriend (partner as she likes to call him), are looking to stay in her room with the baby. She has a small section of the house to herself with an en suite

Her BF is 19 and doing an electrician apprenticeship training so not ideal. He does PT work with his dad as a floor fitter so again, not ideal

My sister has decided she's too unwell to work or continue A Levels at all right now due to anxiety

I feel really sad she has made all of these plans and won't tell our mum until the 20 week scan. Particularly because they want to use her house as their home

My mum is very likely to be super supportive and agree to all of this, but the way, knowing her

So I'm not sure why she's so insistent on holding back

I won't be telling her, for what it's worth. But feel so bloody awful for knowing and saying 0

I think your mum needs to know. Presumably your sister is going to expect her to support her and the baby? Then only fair to give her the heads up. A 17 year old is still a child, imo, legally and mentally. Your mum needs to be prepared.

Your sister needs your support. She will tell you mum in her own time. How blessed that she shared it with you. Having children young can be really hard and perhaps with gentle guidance and love she can do her very best x

This thread was started 5 months ago so I'm pretty sure it will have come out by now!

Yes you absolutely should tell your mum. She and her boyfriend cannot support themselves never mind a baby. Your Mum will ultimately have to deal with three people who cannot support themselves financially. Not to warn her would be awful. But you could ask your Mum to say she guessed.

It's not your place to tell, she should however be telling your mother.
We fell pregnant with our first at 17. I'm now 33 we are still together and have 3 kids. We have a very comfortable life and have just built our new home. Kids at a young age doesn't hold you back or ruin your life. It can ground you and make you focus on setting yourselves up for a good life.

It's just a few weeks. Let her tell your mum herself.

Then they can work out some plans with your mum if shes ok with it.

She probably won't forgive you if you tell and it could mess up your relationship with her.

Why do you think her BF training and working isn't ideal? Sounds to me like he has his head screwed on and wants to improve himself for the future.

Of course it won't be easy but they can work through it with a bit of support.

Oops! Just saw this.

Hope it worked out well for all of them!