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Myself and My colleague will meet with you....

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OnHerSolidFoundations · 10/04/2024 08:21

FFS please stop using "myself " in emails!

Just remove your colleague's name from the sentence and see how stupid you sound...

"Myself will meet with you"

There see! It's not hard. The word you are looking for is "I"

I WILL MEET WITH YOU

Ffs. You work in communications
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MrsJellybee · 11/04/2024 09:46

’Please return the questionnaire to myself’.

Unless you are talking to yourself, it’s ME!

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 09:51

Lougle · 10/04/2024 08:23

I think it's the insistence that 'I' is a dirty word at secondary school that does it. 'No writing in the first person'. If you're talking about yourself, then first person is appropriate.

Except when the word "and" comes before it, then it's "me" that is the dirty word.

Given the prevalence of sentences like "she gave that to dh and I" or "she came with dh and I", misuse of "I" is much more prevalent than misuse of "myself"

DianaTaverner · 11/04/2024 09:51

CelesteCunningham · 11/04/2024 08:58

@ASighMadeOfStone discussed this upthread and I'm with her on this one - meet and meet with are subtly different for me.

I'd meet a friend for coffee, but meet with a colleague to work on a project.

I agree. "Meet with" has a mood of purpose, it's almost a contraction of "have a meeting with" with an unspoken side order of "in order to".
"Meet" is more accidental or incidental, or something you'd use to describe a rendezvous before you go onto together to the main event.

The fine distinction adds to the depth of the language.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 09:58

CelesteCunningham · 10/04/2024 12:57

The best bit about Traitors was the promotion of "amn't".

I haven't seen traitors but amn't is much more logical than aren't when referring to yourself. Are the characters using "amn't" Irish or of Irish descent as amn't is normal in Hiberno-English?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 10:00

MrsScrubbingbrush · 10/04/2024 15:32

Totally agree. My DP is getting fed up with me shouting at the TV when John Torode says " You'll be cooking for Gregg and I"

I shout at the TV too whenever anyone misuses someone and I.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 10:01

CelesteCunningham · 10/04/2024 13:51

It really grates along with 'gotten' when you're not an American.

It's not just Americans who use gotten.

Yes, gotten is standard in Hiberno-English. It's a perfectly sensible word.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 10:06

BathshebaEverdene1 · 10/04/2024 13:52

" gotten" is perfectly fine grammatically.
Forget/forgot/forgotten
Get/got/ gotten
plenty of English speakers from the UK say it. From the West Counrty of England 0for example.
It cannot be compared to the misuse of the reflexive pronoun.
That's not even an "Americanism" it's just ....dreadful.

Not necessarily. The reflexive pronoun also has its place in Hiberno-English. It's not used willy nilly as a substitute for I or me but would be appropriate in certain sentence structures in place of I or me. It would be less formal than I or me, rather than more formal.

Hiberno-English gives rise to wonderful sentences such as "Is it yourself that's in it?" which basically means hello when you're surprised to see someone.

Konfetka · 11/04/2024 10:10

KimberleyClark · 11/04/2024 09:04

You obviously don’t know what “pertaining” means. That word makes no sense in the context of your sentence.

Yes ok we know she meant purporting

CelesteCunningham · 11/04/2024 10:10

OchonAgusOchonOh · 11/04/2024 09:58

I haven't seen traitors but amn't is much more logical than aren't when referring to yourself. Are the characters using "amn't" Irish or of Irish descent as amn't is normal in Hiberno-English?

I can't remember now! He may have been Scottish but there were some Irish/Irish descent contestants too.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 11/04/2024 10:56

@OnHerSolidFoundations sorry but what is all this shite about! I have never heard of reflexive pronouns but I do know grammar. with lots of love from me, myself and I!!! ps i do remember the days of inst and ult though!!! why are people starting to push for this garbage? the problem with would've and could've is that people have never been taught which letters have been replaced by the apostrophe! that used to be drilled into us at school. why is "I" classed as a dirty word nowadays??

Atichen · 11/04/2024 11:10

Really sorry, just check and I did this in a work email yesterday (I'm dyslexic/have terrible grammar &didn't realise this was incorrect)

CelesteCunningham · 11/04/2024 11:11

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 11/04/2024 10:56

@OnHerSolidFoundations sorry but what is all this shite about! I have never heard of reflexive pronouns but I do know grammar. with lots of love from me, myself and I!!! ps i do remember the days of inst and ult though!!! why are people starting to push for this garbage? the problem with would've and could've is that people have never been taught which letters have been replaced by the apostrophe! that used to be drilled into us at school. why is "I" classed as a dirty word nowadays??

Edited

Satire or just an absolute classic of the genre?

OnHerSolidFoundations · 11/04/2024 17:52

MrsJellybee · 11/04/2024 09:46

’Please return the questionnaire to myself’.

Unless you are talking to yourself, it’s ME!

Exactly!

I find it particularly irritating when the colleague in question, creates content for public consumption. It's the main purpose of their role!

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OnHerSolidFoundations · 11/04/2024 17:53

Atichen · 11/04/2024 11:10

Really sorry, just check and I did this in a work email yesterday (I'm dyslexic/have terrible grammar &didn't realise this was incorrect)

If you're dyslexic then fair enough!

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Musicteacher89 · 12/04/2024 06:52

Sealtheenvelope · 10/04/2024 08:45

I'm glad it wasn't just me Grin

Myself too!! Joke 🙄 It became one of my pet peeves after that and I began noticing it everywhere. Loved Harry, but he started them all off! As others have said, take the other person out of the sentence and select, 'I', 'me' or 'you'. I think people believe it sounds more formal. It doesn't! 😂

NotTonightDeidre · 12/04/2024 10:50

I know this was 2 days ago, and I absolutely HAVE NOT rtft, but I needed to comment and agree.

The misuse of "myself" is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to grammar.

cocavino · 12/04/2024 12:26

Update: my bf just wrote an email saying, "we sent payment to yourselves..."

Should I break up with him?

CheapThrillsMeanNothing · 12/04/2024 16:06

cocavino · 12/04/2024 12:26

Update: my bf just wrote an email saying, "we sent payment to yourselves..."

Should I break up with him?

Definitely a LTB

DilemmaDelilah · 12/04/2024 19:32

I raise you 'please may you'. As used by a colleague asking the rest of the team to do something. 'Please may you complete your time sheets' or 'please may you send me agenda items'. NO NO NO!

Josienpaul · 13/04/2024 12:30

TheChippendenSpook · 10/04/2024 08:51

In that context, surely it should be 'me and my colleague...?'

Me will meet you there…. Nope

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