what still gives you nightmares from school?

[BrickPoet]

bullying

Couldn’t agree more, being bullied before the internet was bad enough , but now with social media kids can’t get away from it. To think of all the warped things people put on the internet is freely open for children to watch is very frightening.

If you are talking about actual dreaming type nightmares, it's long corridors with lots of doors. The long corridors at my primary school have given me a slight phobia - really don't like big hotels with long lonely corridors and I loathe the film "The Shining" so much that I can't even watch the opening credits.

I still have dreams that I have to re sit my finals. At school though, mainly just having to be around so many people that I couldn't stand. I absolutely couldn't wait to get home to be alone.

PE class. I was crap at everything and so self conscious about my body. I seemed to sweat more than everyone else even with normal or strong deodorant so I was constantly trying to hide my sweat patches. I’m also hairy so I was worried about hairy legs. A popular boy once threw a basketball at my head and I got concussed but I was just glad I got to sit out the rest of the class.

Swimming was the worst. Again hairiness meant that my bikini line was a source of absolute shame due to pubes sticking out. I went once and then begged my mum to give me notes to get out of it. Even though I actually loved swimming 😔

O-Level Maths.
PE.

Dreaming I'm back at the school I had to leave but loved. I still don't fit. Left out of everything and ignored. Chased by demons. Belittled and mocked. I adored the building and it's grounds but not so much the education aspect. Or the bullying. No thanks.

Sports day, bullies, and the panic when the teacher asked you a question in class 😱 ahhhhhh, no, please.......not me!!!! Knew the answer sometimes, but hated talking in front of the others out loud.

When I was in infant school, I marched into the headmistress's office with a bundle of that toilet paper and demanded to know why us kids were expected to use it.

They didn't change it, but my mum sent me in with little packs of regular tissues after that so I wouldn't have to use it.

My entire school experience gives me nightmares... and then I feel guilty about it because I wasn't as viciously, physically bullied as others.

You could literally see it in my expression between early childhood pics and pictures when I've been to school a couple of years - my eyes went from happy to dead and empty. As an adult, I've realized we don't talk much about school being a big (negative) influence on some children's happiness and confidence much - when we talk about childhood affecting you in adulthood, it's usually only the relationship between children and parents (which is very important, to be fair.)

Bullies, Bullies and more Bullies. I failed all my exams partly because I couldn't cope with high school. I was the sad little loser that everyone laughed at, picked on. I was the class joke. After a while I'd start to skip certain lessons cause I was too anxious to go in to then. Worst days of my life and 30 years later, I still haven't fully got over it.

Miss. Also living with hormones

Bullying and being picked last for PE and the communal showers. All disgusting.

Gym skirts and gym knickers.
Doing PE in knickers and vests in first school.
Sex education where the boys were hurried out during our period discussion.
The horrific bullying issues.
Teachers on power trips.
Safeguarding issues.
Kids who had severe MH issues who later committed suicide and school claiming nothing could've been done.
A parent grabbing my friend by her hair in first school and dragging her to the headteacher with no consequence.
A female pupil bullying everyone and us being forced to buddy with her and her later becoming a proflic pedophile in our area.

So basically lots of things.

PE, 100%. Put me off fitness for a very long time and I still don't feel like it's my "thing" even though my athletic capabilities are perfectly good. We didn't have to take showers at least.

Communal showers after PE & teacher watching to make sure you went in & yanking towel off you & pushing you in if you were too slow.

Being left out of parties - I was never bullied but a small group of us just weren't included/ignored. This changed in 6th form when groups changed round.

The number of people saying bullying is concerning. I was lucky to go to an all girls school & don't recall any physical incidents. It seems bullying has always been around. Sad really that people want to be nasty like that.

We used izal when there was a shortage of tracing paper for art class at primary

That doesn't surprise me! It really was outrageous giving that to young kids.

PE lessons. Especially athletics in the summer when we had to run 800 metres. As a slightly overweight teenager,I absolutely hated it.

Teacher didn't believe I had showered so made me strip and do it alone again in front of everyone

One teacher was a real bully.

Reading out loud and generally everything else to do with school.
I found it so boring and such a long day.
I still remember that feeling of pure relief breaking up for the summer holidays, alongside the feeling of absolute dread when having to go back in September.
I am an outdoors person, being trapped for hours on end within four walls was my idea of hell.
My youngest is HE, he is thriving and l envy him his freedom.

Your description of bullying really resonated. That's just what it was like for me. Indeed, I suspect it's like that for most young people. Adults forget how downright vile young people often are to one another. Even relatively nice teenagers, who are polite to their neighbours, and affectionate with grandparents, can be pretty brutal to their peers. School was very much like prison – the sense of confinement, the constant threat of violence. Looking back, I mostly remember fear: fear of teachers, fear of bullying, fear of humiliation, fear of exclusion.

Actual dream- we had big tower blocks, my tutor room was top floor. I occasionally dream I'm in there and the tower starts swaying, I panic, but usually wake up before it falls.

Otherwise-speaking out loud.
not doing as good as I could have due to not wanting to stand out.

I wasn't bullied much tbf, but I hated, hated seeing other kids bullied, but I was too timid/scared to stand up for them. If I ever saw them alone I'd always smile at them in a "hope you're ok" way (too shy to talk).
Pe wasn't too bad most of the time as we could choose and I'd just choose badminton.

Reading these posts is unbelievably sad 😞

I homeschool my children and I think part of the reason is because of my own awful experiences at school. How toxic it is to group so many children (particularly teens) of the exact same age in such a competitive environment. (It’s also because i am an ex teacher and saw the light go out in too many kids’ eyes upon the first couple of years of primary school).

When people say that home educated children are not going to be able to socialise, I say that in my opinion school is the most unhealthy form of socialisation you could have!

being autistic and hating certain lessons. Every week the PE teacher would scream at me and make fun of me. She used to force me to sign a contract that I’d do PE the following week but I was stupid enough to say I had a 14 day cooling off period and the signature wasn’t witnessed so she made my life hell.