Do you think dating a bad texter in this generation is an issue?

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As per the title really. If someone tells you off the bat I’m just a bad texter how would you feel? Is it believable anymore?

I'm a bad texter, so I would believe it.

Its totally up to you if it's something you can deal with in a relationship or not though.

cant imagine why it would matter in th slightest?

I’m not texty. I’d get rid of WhatsApp, Email, etc…
I don’t bother with SM, apart from MN.

What's a bad texter?

I think it's still quite common that people don't like texting

I'm more annoyed with voice noters
I hate voice notes

Taking more than a few hours to reply

I feel it generates anxiety tbh

I think the phrase "bad texter" is itself slightly evasive. There's nothing wrong with not liking texting, as long as you take ownership of it rather than trying to have it both ways.

If I were dating nowadays I think I'd just be honest and say upfront "I don't like to text constantly throughout the day, or text 'good morning' or 'chat' over text. I'd like us to see each other regularly and have great in-person conversations but texting is gonna be pretty limited apart from for functional reasons ". Any potential partner could then decide whether they thought I was worth continuing with or not.

I think it depends. Taking more than a few hours to reply to "what time will you be back?" would be more annoying than taking a few hours to reply to general chat.

Some would find it annoying to be with someone that expected them to reply straight away every time.

Ah that'll be me then! Plus you'd only get one reply, I wouldn't want to conduct a long conversation via text.

If it generates anxiety to not receive a text in a few hours, then that very much sounds like a you problem tbh.

I couldn't be with someone who need instant responses. Would send me fucking insane.

Nothing wrong with being a bad texter the same as there's nothing wrong with being a responsive texter. But if it doesn't work for you and causes you anxiety then there's your answer.

Think the anxiety response sounds unhealthy - what would you be anxious about?

I would expect someone to converse with me on text if we were trying to organise something that way, but if I need to speak to someone urgently I phone them and if I don't need to speak to someone urgently, why would I need a rapid reply?

What generation is this? I don't think the generation Zs are texting these days don't they have some cool app I've never heard of or something.

I thought this was about spelling
Consistently bad spelling or txt spk - hard no

Waiting a couple of hours to reply is fine.
Several days, they aren’t interested

If a bloke said to me that me that not replying to his texts promptly made him feel anxious, I would run a mile from him OP.

This is a definite you problem. You need to work on your confidence before getting into a relationship.

No ofc it’s my problem. I know this for a fact. But I’m just saying. If someone takes more than a day to be responsive and claim they’re a terrible texter, is that really believable or?

I think you just accept some people usually reply quickly and others don’t if they are busy.
As long as he doesn’t secretly mean he is busy with another woman it’s ok.

Depends what the text is about. If it’s a specific question that needs an answer “Will you be back for tea?” Then it’s a pain in the arse if they don’t answer immediately. If it’s just chat then I don’t answer straight away otherwise it ends up being a conversation via text and I don’t like that.

So being a bad texter isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it depends on what the other person wants. If one person is expecting texts throughout the day and the other cba they’ll probably have to talk it over and find an approach they’re both happy with.

The length of time taken wouldn’t necessarily bother me at all, unless I needed a reply, but if you use emojis, and/or don’t spell, punctuate and capitalise correctly AND write an interesting, articulate text, you are not the one for me, regardless of your other virtues.

Well I use texting to make plans/confirm plans etc, pass on info or answer my managers texts.

It would depend on whether I needed an answer or not. I don't use it for general chit chat.

Whereas I have a family and friendship circle full of dyslexic people so don't mind any of this at all.

I feel it generates anxiety tbh

It only generates anxiety if you're the kind of person who can't go a few hours or a day without messages.

Tbh I don't really understand what you mean by 'Is it believable?' Well, yes. Why would he say he's a person who doesn't send really regular texts if that's not true? Are you implying that it's impossible to be a non-regulat texter if you are under a certain age?

Yes it is believable.