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Is this a weird text to send?

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:33

Went out on a date with a guy last night, he messaged me good night, I have been so stupidly busy today so didn’t get the chance to say night. I was thinking of texting and saying “sorry fell asleep was knackered todays been non stop, hope you had a good day”

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HappiestSleeping · 05/04/2024 19:34

Text messages don't require an immediate response. You don't have to explain why you didn't respond instantaneously.

Aerin1999 · 05/04/2024 19:35

Send whatever you like - but he will be much more into you after having to wait! 😁

are you interested?

Sunquest · 05/04/2024 19:36

Yes, send the text if you like him. Most people do respond to texts if they like someone.

Fiddlerdragon · 05/04/2024 19:36

If this had happened the other way round, you’d already be on page 3 of he’s not interested, throw this one back. Do you want another date with him? If you do then I’d probably send an EXTREMELY over the top message of how keen you are to see him again, rather than just soz, fell asleep and couldn’t be arsed to find 4 seconds to send you a text for this entire date

CurlsLDN · 05/04/2024 19:37

I agree with pp, no need to apologise - and playing it cool is no bad thing in the early days!

if you enjoyed the date and you’d like to message him now, just a ‘hey, how was your day? Did you see they announced a new series of our favourite show today?’ Type message will be fine

CurlsLDN · 05/04/2024 19:39

Fiddlerdragon · 05/04/2024 19:36

If this had happened the other way round, you’d already be on page 3 of he’s not interested, throw this one back. Do you want another date with him? If you do then I’d probably send an EXTREMELY over the top message of how keen you are to see him again, rather than just soz, fell asleep and couldn’t be arsed to find 4 seconds to send you a text for this entire date

It’s been less than 24 hours!

kinkyredboots · 05/04/2024 19:40

It is a bit weird - move forward & keep it positive- start with a good evening, hope you had a good day. Apologise for not responding sooner. If you want another date maybe suggest something.

betterangels · 05/04/2024 19:40

couldn’t be arsed to find 4 seconds to send a text for this entire day

I agree that this is weird if you like him. 'If they wanted to, they would' applies to men and women.

Pantaloons99 · 05/04/2024 19:42

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:33

Went out on a date with a guy last night, he messaged me good night, I have been so stupidly busy today so didn’t get the chance to say night. I was thinking of texting and saying “sorry fell asleep was knackered todays been non stop, hope you had a good day”

It doesn't make sense that you were just too busy. Sounds like you aren't really interested. I absolutely would have replied by now if I liked someone.

Sunquest · 05/04/2024 19:45

Don't play games and play it cool. Just text him.

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:53

Sunquest · 05/04/2024 19:45

Don't play games and play it cool. Just text him.

No it’s really not a game I was out all day today and just really haven’t been near the phone

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Aerin1999 · 05/04/2024 19:54

Are you into him OP? Do you fancy him loads?

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:55

HappiestSleeping · 05/04/2024 19:34

Text messages don't require an immediate response. You don't have to explain why you didn't respond instantaneously.

I know I just feel like I should! I genuinely just have been non stop today.

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Linedbook · 05/04/2024 19:55

I wouldn't send an apology like that, but something interesting about your busy day and thanks for a good night.

Cheepcheepcheep · 05/04/2024 19:56

Honestly wouldn’t go with an apology.

My response would be: ‘Hey, happy Friday! Had a lovely time last night, thanks for the drink/dinner/whatever’. Any nice plans for the weekend?’ (Or if you know his plans, something like ‘Looking forward to scuba diving/park run/pub/ritual animal sacrifice?’) and maybe ‘xx’ if you’re so inclined 😂

ETA: assuming you want another date, ofc! If you’re not interested a ‘thanks for last night x’ message is the way to go I think

HappiestSleeping · 05/04/2024 20:02

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:55

I know I just feel like I should! I genuinely just have been non stop today.

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So just message with whatever else you want to say. You don't need to apologise for having a life.

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:05

HappiestSleeping · 05/04/2024 20:02

So just message with whatever else you want to say. You don't need to apologise for having a life.

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Went with “was asleep at that point was exhausted, hope your days been okay💜”

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saraahsmith · 05/04/2024 20:09

Sounds like you've got the 'busy bee' vibes going on! Don't worry, even bees need their beauty sleep. Just blame it on the productivity fairy and wish him have a good day with an extra sprinkle of apologies.

BusyCM · 05/04/2024 20:10

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:05

Went with “was asleep at that point was exhausted, hope your days been okay💜”

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That's a message that says you don't care if he replies or not. You probably aren't interested in him. It also makes you sound younger than your MN posting does with the lack of full sentences and punctuation.

Aerin1999 · 05/04/2024 20:11

BusyCM · 05/04/2024 20:10

That's a message that says you don't care if he replies or not. You probably aren't interested in him. It also makes you sound younger than your MN posting does with the lack of full sentences and punctuation.

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Agree entirely.

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:12

Aerin1999 · 05/04/2024 20:11

Agree entirely.

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Not at all😢I’d seen him before this so it’s not that I’m not interested at all. He knew I was genuinely rushed off my feet today too.

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Linedbook · 05/04/2024 20:13

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:05

Went with “was asleep at that point was exhausted, hope your days been okay💜”

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Gosh, even I'd take that as brush off and I'm master of hope over experience

Aerin1999 · 05/04/2024 20:14

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:12

Not at all😢I’d seen him before this so it’s not that I’m not interested at all. He knew I was genuinely rushed off my feet today too.

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Fair enough! If I liked him a lot I might have been a bit more enthusiastic - that’s all. If I received your text I might feel a bit flat.

however you can reply to texts whenever you like. Not replying all day is fine in my book.

betterangels · 05/04/2024 20:15

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:05

Went with “was asleep at that point was exhausted, hope your days been okay💜”

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I hope he knows your texting style because that reads really indifferent to me.

BusyCM · 05/04/2024 20:16

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:12

Not at all😢I’d seen him before this so it’s not that I’m not interested at all. He knew I was genuinely rushed off my feet today too.

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Yes but you aren't busy now. You have spent time posting and thinking about what to write and ended up going with a brush off. You don't sound excited, didn't thank him for a lovely night or suggest another date, didn't ask him about his day or tell him about yours. These things are what communicate your interest and feelings towards him.