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Is this a weird text to send?

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 19:33

Went out on a date with a guy last night, he messaged me good night, I have been so stupidly busy today so didn’t get the chance to say night. I was thinking of texting and saying “sorry fell asleep was knackered todays been non stop, hope you had a good day”

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 20:18

BusyCM · 05/04/2024 20:16

Yes but you aren't busy now. You have spent time posting and thinking about what to write and ended up going with a brush off. You don't sound excited, didn't thank him for a lovely night or suggest another date, didn't ask him about his day or tell him about yours. These things are what communicate your interest and feelings towards him.

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No I thanked him straight after the date all that was already said I promise! It’s just I’ve been stupid busy today.

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BusyCM · 05/04/2024 20:20

I've just seen you have two threads on this and you have similar replies there.

So not entirely sure what you're wanting... you asked for opinions, got them and then disagree with everyone.

Harassedmum123 · 05/04/2024 20:20

You have said how busy you have been today… but right now you are not, and have sent a very brush off text which took all of two seconds to compose!

Pinkpinkpink15 · 05/04/2024 22:58

@Lilllypad11

has he replied?

another saying I'd take that as a brush off, so if he hadn't replied & you're interested in seeing him again you'll need to text something more interested/enthusuastic!

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Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 23:30

Pinkpinkpink15 · 05/04/2024 22:58

@Lilllypad11

has he replied?

another saying I'd take that as a brush off, so if he hadn't replied & you're interested in seeing him again you'll need to text something more interested/enthusuastic!

i was probably vague in the post. I paid for dinner and he texted last night to say thank you, my response was “don’t mention it I enjoy spending time with you so it’s no bother to me” he put a heart emoji and said “good night 💜” I fell asleep and spent all day working away and not on my phone for anything other than work calls, so then I checked in later and sent that message. Tbh, I got anxious and dabbled over sending anything. So I sent it really late. I just kinda figured his “good night💜” ended the convo for me so I was like hmm don’t know where to go from here haha

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HappiestSleeping · 06/04/2024 03:34

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 23:30

i was probably vague in the post. I paid for dinner and he texted last night to say thank you, my response was “don’t mention it I enjoy spending time with you so it’s no bother to me” he put a heart emoji and said “good night 💜” I fell asleep and spent all day working away and not on my phone for anything other than work calls, so then I checked in later and sent that message. Tbh, I got anxious and dabbled over sending anything. So I sent it really late. I just kinda figured his “good night💜” ended the convo for me so I was like hmm don’t know where to go from here haha

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I disagree with the others in thinking that's a brush off, although I am of the opinion that people place far too much emphasis on text messages and agonise over them way too much.

Then again, I come from the era where people phoned each other, and when SMS messages were introduced, they were limited to a certain length. They do not have to be war and peace.

What you've sent is fine, especially if you don't want to set yourself up for a whole future of communicating via messages as opposed to actually speaking. As we have seen in this thread, they can be misinterpreted very easily.

I'm so glad I don't have to worry about such things anymore. Spending hours poring over what to write is so tedious.

Pinkpinkpink15 · 06/04/2024 20:30

Lilllypad11 · 05/04/2024 23:30

i was probably vague in the post. I paid for dinner and he texted last night to say thank you, my response was “don’t mention it I enjoy spending time with you so it’s no bother to me” he put a heart emoji and said “good night 💜” I fell asleep and spent all day working away and not on my phone for anything other than work calls, so then I checked in later and sent that message. Tbh, I got anxious and dabbled over sending anything. So I sent it really late. I just kinda figured his “good night💜” ended the convo for me so I was like hmm don’t know where to go from here haha

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@Lilllypad11

Keep us updated!!

Crunchymum · 06/04/2024 20:39

So neither of you have mentioned another date?

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