Is it really strange for a mum to share a bed with her adult sons once in a while?

[Amiaweirdos]

It's not an everyday thing, but once in a while.
Usually the youngest (23 years old)
This week said mum and 27 year old son shared a bed as they were travelling to see family and there weren't enough beds for everyone. It would have been the sofa for one of them otherwise.

Is it really weird ?

My 14 year old has a.magor morning glory issue, so no thanks.

I think it’s inappropriate and I’m pretty sure my ds 16 would rather sleep in the car.

No not weird. I have done it loads. My son complains so much about my snoring that he can’t be in the same room anymore. I miss the sharing bed days though.

Not weird. I’ve gone on overnight / events where I’ve shared with either mum or dad, as it was a double bed room. No
big deal.

I wouldn’t want to share a bed with either of my parents tbf. Maybe that’s just my own personal space preferences. The only person I’m happy to share a bed with is my DH.

I shared a bed with my Dad when I was a young adult when we went travelling. It didn't cross my mind it was weird. We booked separate beds when we could but a couple of times we had to share a bed. We built a barrier down the middle of the bed and didn't give it a moments thought. It wasn't my first choice but we preferred to save money than have separate rooms. I was actually pregnant at the time too and it was our last holiday before my firstborn was born i have wonderful memories of the holiday.

I wouldn't share with my adult kids unless I had to but it wouldn't really bother me and I don't think it would bother them.

If it was regular it would be unusual, but when there’s no where else to sleep of course it’s ok. As long as everyone is dressed appropriately!

Weird af, most men get morning erections

I can't see an issue with it if both are comfortable. It makes sense if there aren't enough beds...sofas are never good to sleep on!

Are people saying it's weird because they're opposite sexes, or would it be equally weird with a daughter. I don't have a son, so can only base my response on how I would feel about sharing a bed with my adult daughter, and I wouldn't bat an eyelid at that. (Though I don't think I would want to share with either of my own parents, personally!) My dd is fine sharing with me, and I think she would probably be fine sharing with her dad too, if the need ever arose.

I don't really get why a son would be any different from a daughter - we're talking about parents and children, here, so there is nothing inappropriate about it.

Hmm this is a bit weird, yes. Mainly because let’s be honest, young men generally get hard ons in the night which is beyond their control and that is just bleurgghhh to be sharing a bed with a female who isn’t a partner, let alone your mum!

13 year old DS, yes I’d share a bed with him as he showers before bed and is still a child but he wouldn’t want to as he says he can hear me snoring from his room! With my young adult DSs, no way, they’d probably knock me out during the night if the smell in their rooms in the morning is anything to go by!

Adult DD and I had to share a bed on a trip to NY last year as we thought the room had twin beds. Never again! Cold feet all over me, duvet nicked, murmuring and dribbling. Don’t know how her bf copes! She used to get in with us until she was about 14 if she’d watched something scary. After that she used to bring her mattress in in the middle of the night and plonk it on the floor in our room! DSs stopped getting in our bed at about 8-9.

That is very weird to me, yes. Imagine a father and his adult daughter sharing a bed!

Weird

Yes, weird imo.

Is there seriously nowhere else the mother or her sons could have slept?

A friend of mine does. Not out of necessity, but for bonding & snuggles. I find it weird.

Intellectually, I suppose it's quite sweet and not at all sinister but I feel 🤨 about it. It feels ... enmeshed? Is that the right word?

In cases where there's a temporary shortage of beds, I'll share with almost anybody. I'm a really disruptive sleeper, though, so they may regret it!

not weird

Exactly! I (female) shared with my mum infrequently out of necessity until in my 30s, when I got married.

One time at a motel in France there was a mix up on our booking and mum and I decided to share because neither of us wanted to sleep on the floor.

No, I wouldn’t. I’m pretty sure both my DS and I would find it weird.
I’m a very restless sleeper who snores so I wouldn’t inflict that on him or my DD!

@flashspeed
Just because ‘most men get Morning erections’ doesn’t mean they will have an uncontrollable urge to stuff it in their parent!!

I have in the past - don’t see anything wrong with it occasionally

Twenty-something men are a bit rank, so there’s that. Also, I do find it a bit odd. But maybe that’s my issue, not theirs.

I wish you hadn’t written that 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

If it was an accommodation emergency and two distant sides of a bed then fine. But no, I would not routinely share a bed with my strapping 23 year old son. Because yes, it’s weird.

I think it's fine in the situation you describe. There were not enough beds for everyone so it's done out of necessity. I'd have no issue with sharing with any family member in that situation. Needs must.

Choosing to do so does seem a bit strange and enmeshed IMO.

That made me feel a bit sick!! Out of necessity is one thing but for ‘bonding’ is another🤢

Ugh I'd hate this.
Very odd in my world.