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I find April Fools day distressing

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Username947531 · 01/04/2024 15:35

Does anyone else hate it? I've got CPTSD and find it very hard to trust people. It's caused ASD type behaviours where i like things to be clear and often take things at face value. April Fools is hideous for me as I hate pranks at the best of times. Laughing at someone's distress and confusion is a horrible thing to do.

I do an activity that I love. It was a gorgeous day today so I went to said activity and the people running it had pranked everyone by displaying some information that would make the activity much harder. When I asked if it was a prank they promised me it wasn't. Of course it turned out to be one. It ruined the experience for me and now I can't trust the organisers. I feel irrationally upset about it and don't know how to get over that.

Why do people think this stuff is funny?

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saraclara · 01/04/2024 23:46

BeachedOff · 01/04/2024 23:00

I totally understand feeling that way and sorry that it has been a tricky day for you.

I am ND myself and I often wonder what the world might look like if it was set up in a way that would make me comfortable and content. It would be amazing for me but honestly pretty shyte and joyless for the majority of other people who are not neurodivergent. I don't mean that in a rude way but I suppose what I'm saying is that it probably makes sense that people don't always cater for neurodivergence - because it sometimes means stripping away some joy for a wider majority of people. I think I see it as my job to cater for my needs and adapt where I need to, it feels shit and I really struggle but accepting that the world won't and probably shouldn't bend for me has been helpful.

I don't think they should have lied when you asked though. Hope you're okay 💐.

That's so thoughtful and empathetic of you. Thinking of the wider population, being realistic, and recognising and caring that they would have a lot to lose, is really unselfish of you.

That is a very impressive post from someone who must have to struggle with a lot of things and who must wish sometimes that the rest of us were able to make life easier for you.

penjil · 02/04/2024 00:37

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cerisepanther73 · 02/04/2024 04:41

I know @penjil i get understand your latest post totally,

People who are not autustic themselves, can also get bit confused too or distressed too.

"How do you cope with normal life"

Now that's a big question 🤔 to ask,

like one of those very deep meaning of life questions..

rileyy · 02/04/2024 05:02

Username947531 · 01/04/2024 15:35

Does anyone else hate it? I've got CPTSD and find it very hard to trust people. It's caused ASD type behaviours where i like things to be clear and often take things at face value. April Fools is hideous for me as I hate pranks at the best of times. Laughing at someone's distress and confusion is a horrible thing to do.

I do an activity that I love. It was a gorgeous day today so I went to said activity and the people running it had pranked everyone by displaying some information that would make the activity much harder. When I asked if it was a prank they promised me it wasn't. Of course it turned out to be one. It ruined the experience for me and now I can't trust the organisers. I feel irrationally upset about it and don't know how to get over that.

Why do people think this stuff is funny?

I don’t know if you’re still here op, but I think many posters are being deliberately obtuse. I have ADHD Inattentive Type and CPTSD and I find these things mentally excruciating too. I think putting your foot down in these situations beneficial. Did you speak with the organisers after the activity about how this had made you feel and to make them aware of the damage it can do. Request that transparency is required for you next time and that if people are asking for clarification it is inappropriate to lie. They may think you “can’t take a joke” or are being “over sensitive” but, quite frankly that isn’t your problem. They don’t know what they don’t know.

PeppermintParty · 03/04/2024 13:25

StrawberryJellyBelly · 01/04/2024 19:54

So that was an April Fool joke? I didn’t realise. I was completely stumped by it and cancelled my subscription fees because I disliked it so much.

Oh well.

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It is back to the usual today. I don't have a subscription, I just play for free. I'm guessing it was just for an April fool though.

PeppermintParty · 03/04/2024 13:25

Bluetrews25 · 01/04/2024 19:14

I still can't figure out what the one that looked a bit like bacon was!

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No - me neither!

Meridean · 03/04/2024 13:31

I'm neurotypical but I do take things at face value and I find it very difficult to work out when people are "just kidding".
Me too. If it’s just fake news or something harmless like the “bee” joke a pp mentioned, that’s fine. But if it’s something that could be upsetting or problematic that’s where I draw the line. It does however piss me off when people post April Fools on social media and I’m reading fake news a week later without realising.

Hesterbester · 03/04/2024 13:38

Everyone is different and everyone finds different things funny, sad, traumatic, upsetting, exhilarating, exciting, comforting etc.

Acceptance of that and not taking things personally or expecting the world to know our preferences is part of growth and being human.

My ideal world would be hell for a lot of people and vice versa. Letting go of wanting to impose our preferences or desires on other people or the world is the way forward.

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