People coming over not invited -would you be annoyed ?

[ohpityoirdecordson]

So me and partner never get a day off together.
Today we are both off
Had plans for a nice day just in pjs all day
Nice roast ,Easter eggs,films etc
Last night his niece (who is 12) said we are coming over tomorrow (niece ,his sister and her partner )
They don't just stay for 10 mins either ,they will be here hours.
Not even a "do you mind if we pop over "
We couldn't say we were out as everywhere is closed
We not gonna be getting a roast till after 6pm now

oh Jesus, just because some people don’t have family, doesn’t mean those of us who do have to be martyrs forever and always give up our time.

She and her partner are also each other’s family and she said they hardly have any time alone together. This was their time. But they should give it up and gratefully have a day with family just because you can’t? No. I’m sorry you don’t have family to turn to but that doesn’t mean we all have to constantly be grateful.

Why did you not tell them you had already made plans and it wasn't convenient? It's rude to call the day before and expect someone to see you, especially on a Bank Holiday weekend.

Unless you draw the line, they will continue to do this. You have no-one to blame but yourselves for this, no point bleating about it now. Maybe pre-empt it next time and advise them that you have plans.

You just say “Ah, sorry we’ve already got plans tomorrow! Maybe in a couple of weeks?” Add in some faff about something unrelated to move the conversation on.

I do not understand why you are both incapable are saying no?

So what happened, @ohpityoirdecordson ?

Sorry everyone for late reply
They came over ,only stayed a hour so it wasn't too bad
I'm taking all your suggestions on board tho for next time -
We go on holiday three weeks today and the Sunday we are staying in a hotel
The plan is to get there for 3pm and have a meal in hotel -partners sister suggest we go for a Sunday roast that day
It's a no from me -I want to enjoy our hotel and chill out before a 6am flight !

So you didn't grow a backbone then.

I really don’t understand people on here.

you’re old enough to live with a bloke but come here to ask for advice about a trivial thing like someone coming to your house.

its really simple.

So tell them they can’t. What’s the problem?

The roast is just a suggestion, if that doesn’t work just say so, I don’t see why you wouldn’t just have said that when she mentioned it?

You’re causing more confusion here, just because people suggest things doesn’t mean you have to do them if you don’t feel like it or have other plans, it’s not your partners sisters fault here, just speak up.

I’d have just said, ‘oh sorry we’re way that day because we’re going on holiday, let’s catch up when we’re back’. It would hardly cross my mind not to just instantly reply as soon as I realised the clash.