I know this won't apply to everyone but (millennials and grandparents)

[Mamananny]

I saw something online about my generation being raised by their grandparents almost, or spending alot of time with loving grandparents.

Which I did. My nan was so special to me, I was there all the time, sleepovers and she took me away on trips etc.

My parents retired early and dont really see my kids. They drive and only live 15 mins away but they just don't bother with them (only see them when we visit)

And I saw something online that said 'Millennials who were raised by their loving grandparents wonder why their parents aren't like that with their own kids.
Well they didn't to be around you (thats why you were at your nanas so much) so why would they want to be around their grandkids?!)

😂😂

It really made me laugh and it's true for me at least.

We were always sent to my nanas, after school, weekends.

And my mum didn't get a job till the youngest left high school so it wasn't for childcare.

This is supposed to be light hearted and I'm not looking for the 'it's no one's responsibility to raise your kids'! thing.

I'm not looking for anyone to raise my kids.

I just expected my kids to have the same bond I had with my nana, with my mum.

But she's just not interested and I realised she wasn't that interested in me growing up either.

I showed this to DH and he laughed. His mum is exactly the same.

I didn't spend a lot of time with my grandparents. My dc had one set full on grandparents and one distant set.
I fully intend to be a hands on granny!!

All of my grandparents were hundreds of miles away and dead by the time I was about 7. I never felt like I missed out, I certainly don’t remember my friends going to their grandparents all the time, I think most of them didn’t live in the same city either. Maybe this is why I never had expectations of having my child taken off my hands.

My grandparents died before I was born, so threads like this make me feel a bit jealous! As I was when friends at school would go and see theirs.

I'm a millenial and had a great relationship with my grandparents but nearest was 45 mins away so certainly wasn't brought up by them.
My parents live an hour and a half from me but we see them quite often and they help me with babysitting every few weeks.

Quiet reminder for those with No Care GPs - No Eldercare.

Bullet dodged, ladies. Big, big bullet.

Personally I spent a lot of time with my maternal nan, often with my mum present as well as they were very close.

With my own children I can see my mum is following in my nans footsteps and is very active in their lives.

My nan has sadly just died. I think me talking to my mum about all my fond memories of us together has brought a light to her at this sad time and I know she wants the bond with her grandchildren to continue to grow and flourish.

It was never about passing the buck, it was and is to this day about wanting to be a family I suppose.

I don't know any hands off grandparents. My parents and DH's grandparents are very loving. All my friends have very involved grandparents with their kids.

I don't recognise this to be honest. That's not to say it doesn't exist. Of course there will always be people who aren't involved or bothered with their Grandkids but I don't see it as a generational trend. I see it more as there are all types of people.

On Mumsnet you're only ever going to hear about the challenges and problems face. Having a loving supportive family doesn't provoke the start of a AIBU/relationship/Chat/ Parent thread - so it feels one sided. Kinda like the News - you hardly ever hear any of the billion acts of kindness that are committed every day, you only here about the crimes.