So me and my fiance are having a small wedding this autumn.
he fell out with his brother but has recently made up. The fallout was over a comment his sibling made about me, but we now think it was their wite who was steering it all.
Im happy my fiance is back speaking to his brother. I know his brother and wife dislike me they have from when they met me and I’m not sure why
no matter how hard I tried with them and their kids they just made funny remarks and then last year I’m not sure what the purpose was but it highlighted to my fiance how I’m not deluded and they actually dislike me!
we’ve sent invites out and he’s said he wants to invite his brother now , which I understand.
I did say could we just invite his brother, I mean I’m not comfortable around him but it’s his brother and I get it. But my fiance is scared of awkwardness so doesn’t want to just invite his brother but understands why I wouldn’t want his brothers wife there as she makes me uncomfortable
is there any way around this or compromise? Do I have to have people who dislike me at my wedding lol??? I have to invite his brother I get this but I thought meeting in the middle would be the brother invited alone (so then it’s only 1 person who dislikes me there haha)
Join the discussion and meet other Mumsnetters on our free online chat forum.
Chat
Wedding guest awkwardness
pinkiepurpl · 27/03/2024 15:26
pinkiepurpl · 27/03/2024 15:52
I’ll give some context of the comments I’ve had over the years
i met My fiance when I was 20, he was 7 years older. I preferred someone older and more mature. His brother constantly made comments about our age gap, me being ‘too young’ and even went as far to say their divorce parents had the same age gap and to ‘watch out’ lol.
when we got our house he said “I can’t wait to see how you two cope with the stress of bills and owning a house”. We’ve had our house 5 years now :) and it’s going well
said similar when we announced our pregnancy years ago.
he s made comments about money in the past as my fiance earns a good wage but has worked bloody hard to. He constantly makes ‘jokes’ about how my fiance can afford anything and is ‘rich’ (he’s a good saver too)
he made comment about my age the first time I met him so before I even got to make an impression
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.