Are you a nosey neighbour?

[Littleoldme12]

Inspired by the "Is it too late to go to the shop at 9.30pm thread..

I wouldn't consider myself nosey as such, I certainly don't keep regular tabs on any of my neighbours. However, I do find myself wondering what certain neighbours are getting up to on occasions. I lead a relatively busy life but I find myself gravitating to my favourite chair by the window when I have a spare 5 minutes or more and I'll read/have a cuppa (or glass of wine on a friday eve)/watch the world go by. It's here I start to ponder.

An example.. neighbour opposite us is a teacher, married with 3 kids and a dog. I've noticed her car hasn't left the drive what seems like at all for the last few weeks during the day. My head: "I wonder if she's going to work", "she must be off work", "is she off sick", " I hope she's ok". I mean, she seems to be OK from what I have seen as she's often out with the dog, smiling etc.

So, is it just me? 😆

I’m not nosey as such, but since Covid, DH WFH in our bedroom, so I lost my chest of drawers for his desk. I have no dressing table, so I do my makeup in the bedroom window as that’s where I have my mirror and stuff.
I’m sure my neighbours think I’m constantly watching their comings and goings 🤣

My next door neighbours are feral and we use them for light entertainment(it's either that or crack up over their shite). Just this evening 2 of them had a loud argument over wine gums. We notice if they disappear for a day because its so queit without them, I fantasise that they have just upped sticks and changed identities to escape debt. Sadly they always come back ☹️ The rest of the street I pay no attention to at all.

Only on the one who creeps about at night,he could be back n forth half a dozen times in the early hours.no dog smokes weed in his flat so it's not going out for a smoke.i just wonder , where the fuck does he go.

No. I don't give a shit.
My husband's up and down at the windows looking like a bloody meerkat. I honestly don't get it.
He says he likes to know the road's still out there. I think that's a joke but I don't get it.

A little bit. I'm not judgey, it is just idle time wasting.

This street is a lot more boring than our last one, there was always something kicking off there.

Not really. I check their house if their burglar alarm goes off, and keep an eye on their house in passing because they are having work done, but otherwise, no not really.

But there is a bank of trees between me & them so it would require real effort to be very nosy..

I don't think that I am, but I got a bit annoyed at a neighbour's boyfriend.

The entire neighbourhood was out because of a disturbance in the street. (Everyone was out, but only I phoned the police - someone had grabbed a 'For sale' sign and was using it to hit property - cars, and fences on one side.)

Before we all went back in, the BF - whom I didn't know - turned to me, pointed to my rusty camper van [converted MPV]* (in the bay in front of my driveway) and said "That thing never leaves the house." Pointed to my car [5 yrs old and in good nick] in the driveway "And neither does that."

His manner was quite accusatory. I just said, "It does. You've just never seen it," and left.

The thing is, he doesn't actually live in our street - he's only here outside working hours. I was widowed during lockdown and extremely depressed as a result. I'm retired, so only left the house when I had to for food runs - and that wasn't very often, and not when he was in the neighbourhood.

I'm still a bit pissed off about his comments. A month later, a child from the household made the same comment to me when I was taking in my bin, so I guess the adults must have have been discussing it at home. [It's not the only van parked in the street - there are several work vans which are much larger. Mine is in the bay directly in front of my own driveway, so not blocking anyone.]

My bereavement isn't quite as raw now. If I get another comment from an adult, I'll not hold back.

*It's passed its MOT and I've had the wings replaced.

Yes I'm quite nosy

But I WFH so can't help but notice what people are up to really

No not really. As long as they’re not too loud I don’t care what they get up to/

That's definitely us ...pair o nosey bastards.

Do you live next door but one to me?! We're constantly getting excited when male neighbour storms out and leaves but then he comes back again and we're very sad lol. The thought of both of them going would be too much excitement for me to take 😂

I never thought I would be that person, but it turns out I am. There has been a removal van at our neighbours' a couple of times, but it was a small van so clearly not big enough to pack up an entire house. Last week it was there all morning, then came back another two times and brought a second van! Ever since, there have been no cars parked outside the house, so they're definitely gone. I can see into their conservatory from my bedroom (sort of) and it's empty. No sign of anyone moving in yet, though there has been a workman coming and doing things inside.

I'm definitely becoming my mother 🤦‍♀️

Me! I used to live on a rough council
estate opposite a pub and a row of shops and there was ALWAYS something going on! My living room was at the back of the house so I used to have to look outside the upstairs window which so such an inconvenience 😅

We’ve recently moved to a new build in a much ‘posher’ area and it’s sooo boring. Nothing happens at all. The Facebook group page for the estate is constantly ‘saw a man in a hoodie walking down a street at 1pm in broad daylight, reported it to 111 just in case it’s something??’. These people haven’t lived 😅

Nope. All I want is quiet neighbours, if I have to have any. I don't care what they do if I can't hear it (in a retirement village, where I'm the youngest resident, they're not generally up to much). People can be away for weeks and I won't notice.

I live in a mixed housing neighborhood with a lot of elderly neighbours so notice when an ambulance turns up. Or when there is an argument going on and the police get called 😂😂 remember in lockdown neighbours had a absolutely screaming row over who hadn't put the recycling bin out. As it was lockdown it was really loud and we were all peeking through the curtains 😂😂

Kind of. We moved from a busy terrace street to a suburban semi with a drive. It’s generally much quieter and hardly know anyone despite being here 5 years. Most are pretty unfriendly and the ones that do speak aren’t up for a conversation so it is usually unremarkable here.

our NDN’s are more interesting but not in a good way. Their garden is a mess so their trees block all our light. Their clapped out campervan blocks my view at the front.their cats shit in my garden, so we have had words quite a few times. Now and again they have a huge row which we can hear whether we want to or not.

I would prefer no neighbours if I’m honest!

I'm not a nosey neighbour but I had a nosey neighbour. She made my life a misery for years. I moved in the end. I hadn't planned to move but I was left with no choice. We were just sitting in the house with the curtains shut all the time.

She was class obsessed, possibly a mumsnetter 😂, and would openly ask why I had a posh accent but a cheap car.

Any visitors we had would be questioned. If a van belonging to a tradesman was outside she would walk into the house, ask what they were doing and how much it cost, making out she was going to have the same work done.

I couldn't do a big shop, only what I could carry from my cheap car to the house in one go. If I left shopping in the boot she would be poking through my bags to see what I had bought.

She once reported me to my husband because she found an empty fish finger box in my recycling.

She would intercept any parcels by telling the driver I was not in and that she would take them in for me.

It all sounds very trivial but it was relentless and not normal. When I moved I didn't tell her where I was going. She could see the house was being marketed online but I did a moonlight flit. She had often complained that various neighbours didn't say goodbye when they left. Can't think why.

Yes. I wfh one day a week and overlook the area from my window.

I've reported a handful to the police (drugs, 1am music, motorbikes on pavements). But I'm also the one who spotted the burglars as they broke in, reported the sewage leaks, burst pipes and slipped roof tiles. Although I rarely get to talk to a neighbour (maybe once a month) as it's a badly designed ex council estate. So I just judge and report.

Never know what any of my neighbours are up to at all.

Didn't realise one across the road had died at home, until the house was on the market a few months later.

Haven't spoken to next door for months, as I've hardly seen them.

😂😂

This is mental. Glad you made it away safely 😊

I did WhatsApp my next door neighbour the other day if she knew who the Police van, ambulance and fast responder car was for as my cctv only covers my front door and not that part of the street.

I am 🤣 I wfh a lot and can't help it!! Not a great deal goes on but No 20 have been vacuuming their drive again, 27 have workmen in and the baby across the road is walking now!!

I can't help but keep an eye on what's going on outside as I WFH and my desk is by an upstairs window. We live on a curved street so it is a good spot for seeing in both directions.

Recently I've noticed some neighbours are getting territorial over parking. Terraced street that's pretty much a free for all. I've noticed some of them will park in the middle of two spaces and shift along when their partner or relative pulls up to free up the other space. Bit shit isn't it.

I'm not nosey to the point I'll interfere or go out saying things to people. More of a casual observer. 😂

I think we need to divide this into types. Type 1 just discussed the neighbours with one's partner. Type 2 interferes with neighbours by sharing their thoughts.

We're type 1, discussing whether the new roof clashes with their brick work, why do they park like that? Etc. Since wfh my desk is at a front window so I see one neighbour in particular coming and going all the time but i kind of duck, which is silly, they know I'm working, we're friendly with half the street.