Not wanting to go on a girls weekend if sharing a hotel room?

[pinkgirls]

I've been invited on a 3 night long weekend break.
With a friend and 2 of her friends.
Thing is it's all of us in one room with bunkbeds.
They want cheap and cheerful and this is where they picked.
Room looks tiny
I like my own space and for 3 nights it seems like hell.
Would anyone else be put off too ?

I would have been like the rest of you once, but 3 years ago, after DH died, I decided to start staying yes. I have been on some brilliant trips where we all just bunked in together. Wouldn't miss it for the world now..

The OP is happy to say yes to everything else on the trip though, just not to sleeping with people she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing a room/bunk bed with. Those few hours can be spent round the corner in a hotel once everyone is getting ready for bed and she can meet them first thing in the morning for breakfast - that seems perfectly reasonable to me.

I’d do it on a retreat - that’s generally a very calm, respectful environment with zero alcohol and I’ve never had a problem.

But with friends on a social weekend? Nope. I need my own space for down time.

Doesn't sound like this will work you, op. Stand your ground or you’ll end up dreading/resenting the weekend which should be fun!

As Im getting older I’m struggling to even have a twin room with friends. No thanks to a room for 4 unless it’s my children and partner!

Give it a miss x

Yes, I would have agreed, but actually the chats in bed and the actual living together have been the best bits of our trips and she's decided not to go. IME you rarely regret just going for it.

It is perfectly fine for them to want to do this.

I'd rather chew off my left arm with my own teeth.

I learnt a long time ago that there are people who you can be amazing friends with but who you cannot go on holiday with. It sounds to me like this group may well be such a group for you.

that is brilliant for you and I'm so pleased you've found a system that works for you.

But it is totally fine for OP NOT to feel that way. It's possible that if DH wasn't around I might be more open to it, but I already share my space routinely with other people and I certainly wouldn't want to do it on a holiday.

If you’d like to go apart from the room share, book your own room and go!

Tell her someone’s choice of hotel room isn’t worth any kind of song and dance. Tell her you’d rather stick pins in titration eyes than have a sleepover in bunks in adulthood.

Of course it's OK for OP to do exactly as she chooses, I'm just giving my experience. I would have been the same once, and missed out. I've found going with the flow has added to my life immeasurably, even though it doesn't come naturally to me.

I actually don't mind sharing a room, as long as its my close friends and has an ensuite and is NOT bunk beds. I don't love it. But I will tolerate it if its the only thing budget allows.
However, what you are describing sounds unpleasant for one night, never mind three, and at my age anything involving bunk beds is a no-go, especially if you don't really know the others.

Wouldn't bother me but I still stay in dorms in hostels with strangers. I can sleep anywhere. Don't go if you don't want to, but consider that's what your friends find affordable. You can't force them to go somewhere pricier.

I am going away with friends soon to Disney and we have 2 double beds for 4 of us. Really nice rooms, massive and the beds are big. We do it all the time.

In the past I have done the hostel type rooms without en suite, I don't think I'd do that now really unless it's the only way I could go.

Ugh - not for me !

A hostel?? Jesus no. I'm not 9.

I'm going away on a mini break with my lovely sisters soon and we are all having our own rooms in the same hotel. Love them to bits, but the combination of my snoring, early morning flatulence and the fact I look like Rod Stewart (as he is now!) until I get my hair washed and brushed each morning, is enough to ensure I will never share a room with anyone but dh.

This is bloody genius. I'm like you, @Arraminta and desperately need quiet and space to have a chance of sleeping. DH and I have separate rooms at home because he snores and I'm such a bad sleeper - and I feel really ill on no sleep.

I always tend to book separate rooms if we're at any type of social event because I invariably want to go to bed much earlier than DH. It's a win win.

Sounds like a school trip not a weekend break. I would have been fine with this at 12 but it's a no from me as an adult

I was in my late 30s when I could no longer share a room. I like my privacy and I don't sleep well. Nothing would possess me to share with 3 others.

I wouldn't even consider it.

I like my own space but I went away for a week with 4 friends, 3 in one room 2 in another and an adjoining door and it was fine. We all did some things together, spent some time alone. Personally the week was just too long for me but it would have been too long anyway the room sharing wasn't an issue.
It's a personal thing though if you wouldn't enjoy it then there's no point.

yanbu

Personally I'd stretch to one one night, with close friends, in a bunk room.

But 3 nights. Nope.

I’d be fine with this. I’d not proactively choose it. But if the others wanted I’d happily go along with it and have done in the past.

I’m not precious about these things so it wouldn’t bother me. I’m more interested in the fun social aspect than the beds.

My idea of hell.