I have generalised anxiety disorder. I also have a late diagnosis of inattentive adhd which often has co-morbidities such as anxiety and depression. It maybe worth looking into female neurodiverse conditions to see if any fits with you.
So I am unmedicated for both. I was once medicated for anxiety but I was only on it short term. I manage myself through mindfulness and learning to listen to my body and mind when I'm at my peak. I used to have the worst panic attacks, like literal screaming attacks. Utterly embarrassing but terrifying at the time.
Before I knew anything about my adhd, I heard about a girl who had anxiety. She had loads of different medications and like 6 goes of cbt. Nothing worked for her until she discovered act (acceptance and commitment therapy) so I decided to go for it too. Wow it literally changed my life.
Once I understood how my brain worked and that I could regain control of it again, it helped so much. It's like a much more emotions based cbt. I got mine through the nhs after a years wait. I dread to think what waiting lists are like now. If you do sign up, tell them it's severely impacting your life, don't minimise it like I did. I ended up being put on the high intensity therapy list and was offered 21 sessions. If you can afford to go private then I would.
The basics are this.
Our brains use the fight or flight system as an alarm system to alert us of danger. This worked great in our cave man days. Not so much these days.
Although your brain is trying to protect you, it is actually misinterpreting stressful life events as dangerous. Therefore it is literally making your body scream at itself to avoid the stressful events or anything you percieve as stressful which is why you get symptoms. Your body is gearing up to deal with the threat or run away. But because there is no actual danger to life, it hasn't anywhere to go and results in said panic attack which is horrendous and can feel like a heart attack. My joints ache, my throat constricts, my chest hurts. I get numbness, dizziness, you name it.
So as my counsellor told me, the reptilian part of our brains the Amygdala, doesn't listen to it's more mordern counterparts, the cerebellum. It doesn't listen to reason. It only remembers how you feel.
So we ended up working on facing my fears. Using mindfulness techniques. One of the best ones was the five senses.
Apparently it used to be an old buddhist technique. It designed to bring your mind back to the present. It took me a while to get my mind to work with it but practise makes perfect. I also used the free version of the headspace. I also listened to meditation videos on youtube. My favourite is pura rasa. I can't stand awful voices and hers is magnetic. I can listen to it anytime and it soothes me.
I hope this information has helped you as I have really been to hell and back to keep my mental health good. It's not perfect but I am in peaceful, unmedicated place.
I also manage my adhd symptoms through music and using other practical methods such as a phone calendar etc.
Good luck to you!