Really dislike our new midday lead how do I get past it

[Cruisem]

We've just got a new leader of the midday assistants at the school I work at. Ive known of her for 2 years doing other roles within in the school and I've never gelled with her she's miserable, boring, isn't fun and bubbly, has a resting bitch face and is very untalkable with.
How am I going to have to work with her and take orders from someone I just don't get a good feeling from and I've tried plenty of times to talk to her and get some form of communication.
She's pretty chatty with the other staff but I know there not keen either

[VestibuleVirgin]

She, conversely thinks you are the bees knees.
And if she is your manager, you are just going to have to 'take orders' from her, even if you don't 'get a good feeling from her'.
How immature

[ememem84]

You just get on with it and do your job.

[pimplebum]

Keep trying and eventually you will get on or leave

[Pollyannamex]

This is such an immature post. You do your job and get on with it. ‘Resting bitch face’ seriously…

[TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross]

she's miserable, boring, isn't fun and bubbly, has a resting bitch face and is very untalkable with.

Wow. I’m sure you, on the other hand, are an absolute delight to work with. You could perhaps just treat work like a place where you conduct yourself like a professional and do the job you’re there to do?

[HighLlamas]

It’s news to me that you can only be managed by the ‘fun and bubbly’.

[Katelynn88]

Fun and bubbly doesn't necessarily mean someone is a good person or is even great at their job. I'm sure she's not as awful as you think once you get to know her. I'm quite a quiet person and find some loud " bubbly" people really annoying.

[Saucery]

As long as the ‘orders’ she gives you are fair, proportionate and within safeguarding protocols you just do your job. I’ve worked with, for and managing people I didn’t get on with socially but you get on with it. More conflict of interest with the “fun, bubbly” people tbh at times, because it can be difficult to draw boundaries when things aren’t being done as they should be.

[Saucery]

Out of interest, did you apply for the position?

[Wilkolampshade]

'resting bitch face' is an immature and misogynistic slur.

Not every member of staff needs to behave like a children's TV presenter. Some children actually find this off putting.

When we work for people we don't like we have to behave professionally. Same as when we do like them.

She's not there to make you feel happy and be 'talkable with'.

[RichardsGear]

I've done that job in the past - IME you're only there for a very small part of the day and you're so busy with the children and doing the job you don't (or shouldn't!) interact much with other adults anyway. I'm sure you can tolerate it.

[Hillrunning]

You are at work, not making friends. You don't need to think she is fun to deliver your role and recognise that I'm her role she will sometimes have to tell you what to do. You don't sound particularly fun or kind but people presumably manage to work alongside you.

[HurricanesHardlyHeverHappen]

I agree with everyone else. It doesn't matter if you don't like her face. Get on with your job or resign.

[huileverte]

If she was a bloke would you expect her to be 'fun and bubbly' or describe him as having RBF? I suspect not....

There's a reason things like 'must be fun and bubbly and smile a lot' don't appear on job descriptions - they are not a prerequisite to being good at your job.

Maybe just do your job and leave her to do hers as unbubbly as she likes?

As a side I fucking hate bubbly as a description for women!

[Marblessolveeverything]

Are you 14? No? Then don't act it.

How dare you comment on a person's appearance like that. You should be very ashamed of yourself and to think you are responsible with children.

[NoWordForFluffy]

'Fun and bubbly' in a work context usually means 'irritating as fuck'. So it's probably a good thing she isn't really.

Get over yourself and just do the job you're paid to do.

[NoraLuka]

WTF does bubbly even mean anyway?

[Gazelda]

What sort of orders is she likely to give? Can you reframe it in your mind as 'direction' rather than order?

Go to the climbing frame and supervise the kids.
Move the cutlery trolley to the other side
Help Poppy with her lunchbox.

Does it matter how she gives these messages? Does it matter that you don't like her?

[CaptainMyCaptain]

@ememem84

You just get on with it and do your job.

This.

[loubd]

I remember someone at work
many moons ago describing me as not
bubbly and wanting the other colleague to get the promotion because other colleague was "bubbly"
She was a total cunt.
(the someone at work, not the bubbly one)

[rainbowunicorn]

OP, you have started several threads in the last few weeks complaining about your work and how other people are bitchy as you put it. Now here you are bitching online about a colleague because you don't like her natural facial expression and because she isn't bubbly. Have you considered that perhaps you are the problem rather than the rest of your colleagues.

[TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment]

Since when has being 'fun and bubbly' been a qualification for a leadership role?

[LightSwerve]

Bubbly? Resting bitch face?

FFS.

[hellsBells246]

@Wilkolampshade

'resting bitch face' is an immature and misogynistic slur.

Not every member of staff needs to behave like a children's TV presenter. Some children actually find this off putting.

When we work for people we don't like we have to behave professionally. Same as when we do like them.

She's not there to make you feel happy and be 'talkable with'.

This.

[SchadenfreudeIstMeinMittelname]

Has it occurred to you that you are there to work, rather than to have fun or make friends?