Miss my ex friend

[Nicetobenice67]

I had a friend for 20 years we told each other all our secrets we spoke everyday we fell out 8 years ago but I miss her I know there is no chance we can be friends again......we fell out because she spoke about my relationship being happy my parang I had split he got wind of it and called her brother asking for her husbands number ...she found out and called me saying don't ever call me again ...why you may think ...well she slept around and she thought I had told my partner (I hadnt) and that he was going to tell her husband .....she probably didn't handle things well and maybe I didn't either I was so angry after as my ex didn't ring her husband and when I saw her I said secrets and lies are going to bite you on the arse ....she made up some lies to her husband as to why we had fallen out

Your message isn't very clear.

Sounds like a rant about your ex-friend. You sound resentful. Zero chance of a friendship when you still feel like this.. with any person never mind your ex-friend.

It doesn't sound like either of you treated each other well so not bring friends is probably for the best

I have no idea what's happened but you're probably best off out of it.

For your information I haven't been very clear probably haven't put this across very well as I do have some issues I'm a good person so your last sentence was totally uncalled for I have good friends and I don't like the fact you are taking a personal swipe at me !!! Kindly leave me alone and that's being polite !!!

It's ok for friendships to be over

I dont like your personal attack on me I didn't ask you for a comment on how I sound

Thank you for your reply ...I know but I have to be honest I miss her we used to be so close

It was just an observation. What are you wanting to get from this thread?

It's just a discussion I was interested to see if other people thought I should just let it go ...I suffer from GAD which also causes me to over think amongst other things you comment wasn't needed or helpful I guess you take pleasure in causing upset which isn't what I came on here for please stay off my thread I don't appreciate comments like yours

I think you just need to put some punctuation/full stops in your posts so that we can understand what's happened

Sorry about that I do have some issues

we fell out because she spoke about my relationship being happy my parang I had split he got wind of it and called her brother asking for her husbands number would you mind explaining this bit?

Sorry should have read before I posted ....we fell out because she was telling ppl she was happy my ex and I had split ...she didn't think he was good for me !....my ex found out called her brother and asked for her husbands number ...she actually thought he was going to tell her husband she had been sleeping around that's why she wanted nothing to do with me ...but I actually hadn't told him anything

Was it a good thing you split from your ex? Because it sounds like she was looking out for you back then. You could always reach out to say you miss her but it’s unlikely after all this time that you’d ever be friends like you were.

Thankyou ....no he wasn't good for me tbh I think my bestie should have talked to me first before calling me and saying don't ever call me again ...she should have trusted me and should have known I wouldn't have talked bad about her ...I think your right about after all this time it wouldn't be the same

Are you absolutely sure you never told your DH anything though? Why would he have wanted her DH’s number to call her out - why not complain to her directly?

I've definitely been glad that my friends have split up with partners I didn't llike. I don't get it.

It's not about that it's about her calling me up and saying don't ever call me again

I'm absolutely sure I didn't....he knew things about her past before I got with him so NO I didn't say anything if I did I could have understood it and I wouldn't have done this thread ?

Why did your ex want her DH’s number instead of calling her directly though? I can see why she said don’t call me again if you had in fact blabbed to him.

I hadn't blabbed as you put it did you read my reply

There’s no need to be so prickly!

Again, why are you being so defensive? We’re just asking questions to fully understand the background.

I'm not ....its just you questioned are you absolutely sure ?