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Do you both have a weekend lie in?

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Thefaceofboe · 12/03/2024 20:41

If you live with your partner, husband, wife, whatever, and have children, do you both take turns having a lie in on the weekend?

Since I went back to work 9 months PP, I’ve always had a lie in on a Saturday and my partner on a Sunday.

A friend of mine was just saying how run down and sleep deprived they are, but then said they both get up with their toddler everyday?! So 5/6am every morning! I suggested they take turns having a lie in and she said they like to support each other (fair enough!)

Intrigued on what others do now as I couldn’t cope without my weekend lie in 😅

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Alwaystired2023 · 12/03/2024 20:42

Yes, and sometimes I have lie ins on both days 🤣 my partner likes to get up once he's awake, I don't have that issue!

TheBeanBeanie · 12/03/2024 20:43

Tried to. It doesn't work when they are older and bouncing on the bed

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/03/2024 20:48

God yes. It’s not pre agreed, it just works out by itself. Our DC aren’t usually up that early and the baby is in with us by the morning but we still take turns to lie in for sleep or coffee and listening to the radio or whatever.

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NeedtostopusingMNsomuch · 12/03/2024 20:49

No, he does but I’m an early riser and SAHM and get a few hours in the week to myself so feel like he needs this more than me at the mo

KThnxBye · 12/03/2024 20:51

No, we get up and go to work at the weekend.

mumofthemonsters808 · 12/03/2024 20:52

I’m up early walking my dog everyday and I adore my Saturday lie in.My DH takes over for 1 day only and I get up about 8Ish.When my kids were young we took turns I don’t see the point of two people bring up at the crack of dawn.

DappledThings · 12/03/2024 20:53

Yep. Saturday's lie-in is shorter than Sunday's due to regular commitments so not only do we get one lie-in each we alternate who gets Saturday or Sunday.

Both of us have no problems going back to sleep so even if one or both DC have come in and jumped on us one of gets up and takes them downstairs and the other nods off again.

Tulipvase · 12/03/2024 20:53

Our children are older now but we have a dog we need to get up for. We take it in turns. However, my husband is more likely to get up early and will let me have an extra lie in. Not every week though.

SquishyElbows · 12/03/2024 20:53

Yes one lie in each

MumChp · 12/03/2024 20:54

No.
For years I was working most weekends.

DD has a dance class early Saturday morning and we go to church at Sunday morning. So we are up at 7 am both days.

mynameiscalypso · 12/03/2024 20:55

In theory yes but I'm not very good at staying asleep. But I get up on a Saturday and DH gets up on a Sunday as they go off to church together. Even if I don't sleep in, I tend to laze about in bed. I will say though that we have a fairly lazy 4 year old and it's rare he's up before 8 at the weekend.

Quornflakegirl · 12/03/2024 20:55

We used to take Sundays in turn (he works Saturdays). Now we get to sleep in and the dc wake later than us.

hernitt · 12/03/2024 20:56

On Saturdays DH takes DC1 for swimming lesson, he gets up at 6.30 to get himself ready and they leave the house at 7.30am. I breastfeed DC2 so I'm awake from 6.30 but then lounge in bed with her for a bit before getting up. On Sundays we get up at 6.30am as I breastfeed DC2 and we all get ready to leave the house at 8am for a family swim together. So not much of a lie in for any of us, although I have a sort of lie in but with a toddler to deal with. We don't really do lazy weekends, if they don't have swimming on then we usually plan a full day out which means leaving to travel somewhere from 8am at least.

mindutopia · 12/03/2024 20:57

With small children, yes, we did both get lie ins, not like each of us had a pre determined day, but we both did as needed.

Ours are primary age now and I’m not someone who can really lie in anymore. I usually sleep til 7am, maybe 7:30 on a weekend but then I’m up even if the kids aren’t. I just can’t really lie in bed once awake anymore. Not the least because I’m getting old and my bloody back hurts by then. 😂

Winnipeggy · 12/03/2024 20:58

My partner has our DD on weekend mornings because I do all nights. He never gets a lie in but he also always has uninterrupted sleep which I have had about 5 nights of in 2 years so I think it's a fair swap.

SpongeBob2022 · 12/03/2024 21:14

Definitely took it in turns for a lie in when DS was a baby. Can't relate to your friend at all!

I found sleepless nights so hard but now that's a distant memory (DS is 10) I don't feel the need for a lie in anymore so I get up both days when DS wakes at 7. DH lies in. I prefer to get some time to myself later in the day.

Revelatio · 12/03/2024 21:16

Yes, and sometimes we take it in turns to have an afternoon nap!!

ZekeZeke · 12/03/2024 21:20

When ours were small (boys, 18 months apart) we always took it in turns for a lie in.

Yearendjoy · 12/03/2024 21:22

Ds is older now but neither of us had a lie in when he was younger. Neither of us like lie ins though, both naturally awake at 6am ish.

TuliLily · 12/03/2024 21:22

I’m a lone parent and have a lie in every weekend. Thankfully mine are older now though and were never up that early anyway. I look forward to my weekend lie ins!

AstralSpace · 12/03/2024 21:23

Teens so we both get a lie in, if we want. My dcs always got up at 8 so it was never an issue for us and neither of us are the type that would lie in later than 8.
Midnight to 7.30 is my normal sleeping routine.

TinyTeachr · 12/03/2024 21:23

We did after we had our eldest and she was on solids as anyone could give her breakfast. However with 4DC these days, most mornings are all hands on deck 😂hhowever, I tend to get the kids relatively ready while DH has a slow start as he's never been great at leaping into action in the mornings. Then be supervises breakfast to the 3 eldest while I take a cup of 're uostiats and get the babybsettled for nap, and I'll often lie next to her for a 30minitedoze. If I don't do that, I'll definitely have a snooze during her evening nap and leave DH in charge of keeping the 3yos out of trouble between dinner and bath time.

FramerArthur · 12/03/2024 21:24

Dh used to have a Saturday morning lie in and I would have until the same time on a Sunday. I think it used to be until 10.30am and the children would be up from 6am. He worked FT and I was a sahm. Shift pattern sleeps including any afternoon naps are the way to go when children are young.

Ds2 was very poorly as a baby so we would also do shifts on baby duty overnight, one of us was 10-2 and the other 2-6 meaning a solid 4 hours off duty.

reluctantbrit · 12/03/2024 21:24

We both got up with DD. when she was small She was an early riser 6-6.30am and wouldn't go to sleep whatever we tried.

And if DH and I are awake, we are up, no way we go back to sleep and when I am awake I want my tea and breakfast.

I don't think we were overtired, we just adjusted the evenings and if really it was too much, we had a nap when DD had one (she napped until she was 5 on the weekends).

Now she is a teen and we have breakfast before DD graces us with her presence.

It all depends how the family dynamics works, nothing is right or wrong.

ICanandIBloodyWill · 12/03/2024 21:30

Yep. I get up Saturdays although DS is now 7 so he's allowed downstairs to watch a film with breakfast while I go back to bed til 9am. Then I get up, we do homework and playing then out to football lessons at 10.30am until lunch. Sunday is my turn and DH takes him to his 10am swimming lesson and they don't come back til 12pm. So we both get a good stretch of downtime in the morning. I don't tend to go back to sleep when it's my lie in, I'll either read or fanny around on my phone but after hectic weeks, it's nice just to have a few hours to be off the clock.