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Do you both have a weekend lie in?

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Thefaceofboe · 12/03/2024 20:41

If you live with your partner, husband, wife, whatever, and have children, do you both take turns having a lie in on the weekend?

Since I went back to work 9 months PP, I’ve always had a lie in on a Saturday and my partner on a Sunday.

A friend of mine was just saying how run down and sleep deprived they are, but then said they both get up with their toddler everyday?! So 5/6am every morning! I suggested they take turns having a lie in and she said they like to support each other (fair enough!)

Intrigued on what others do now as I couldn’t cope without my weekend lie in 😅

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TruthorDie · 12/03/2024 21:32

Yep. No point in being a martyr. It’s not a super lie in but it’s not 645-700am ish which is what time our children wake at

Isitbedtimeyet3 · 12/03/2024 21:33

I very rarely have a layin (much to my DHs delight). I have ADHD and am fortunate enough to be an absolute ball of energy in the mornings so I’m normally from 5-6. However if I asked for a layin he would happily do the morning routine with the dc

linziere · 12/03/2024 21:44

I work every Saturday and DH gives me a lift to work so he has the car to do things with DD while I'm at work. On a Sunday, we get woken up between 7 and half past when DD wakes up. She comes in bed with us until she gets bored and asked to go downstairs. One up, all up.

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Autienotnaughtie · 12/03/2024 22:03

Yes unless we have something on. Usually till around 9/930.

Wenttomowameadow · 12/03/2024 22:04

No, DC wakes me up regardless and dh always has a lie in. Dh has tried repeatedly to allow me a lie in but once I've been woken or stirred I'm up for the day. This means if DC wake me at 3 then they go back to sleep and I'm wide awake so have to get up

IggOrEgg · 12/03/2024 22:07

No. DH doesn’t always get weekends off or any days off at all so if he’s around, neither of us feel like we want to waste our precious family time by lying in bed. Having said that, our child is, and has always been, a good sleeper, so while we’ve had short spells of sleep deprivation, it never really poses a problem long term.

caringcarer · 12/03/2024 22:25

Foster son is older now so we both have a lie in on Sunday morning and FS let's dogs into the garden when he gets up at 7.

Mielbee · 12/03/2024 22:33

Our deal is that I do the nights and DH does mornings. In reality that means that 4 nights of the week I get less sleep than him, and 3 nights I get a lie-in of varying degrees. He never gets a lie-in but usually sleeps through. I rarely sleep through but do get lie-ins. Some days I feel like I have a good deal and some days he does, so overall we're both pretty happy with it. It also plays to our strengths as I am a night owl and he is a lark.

In the future, when there aren't any night wakes any more, we may change to taking it in turns to lie in as that seems reasonable.

GG1986 · 12/03/2024 22:35

Yup both days! He takes kids downstairs, I sleep a little longer, then we swap and he goes back to bed for a bit.

Songbird54321 · 12/03/2024 22:38

I get a lie in every other Saturday and most Sundays as my partner is happier on 6-7 hours sleep and I need a lot more. I'm up before him Mon-Fri though and tend to get the kids ready and fed as he leaves for work before me.
If he's particularly shattered and wants a lie in I'll leave him in bed and take the kids down.
I can't think there's a lot of sense in both parents being shattered. Surely it's more supportive to let each other rest?

TheChosenTwo · 12/03/2024 22:44

To be fair to dh he has always been a morning person and an early riser, he used to just get up with them and take them downstairs so I could sleep in. It doesn’t take 2 adults to watch 3 kids, I used to do it every day!
I didn’t lay in bed til midday, would usually be down by 9:30 but I always really appreciated the extra sleep.
Now they’re all older and I’m normally up
and about at the weekends long before them, have usually gone for a swim and home and had breakfast and they’re still asleep or at least still in bed.

SneakySnakeEx · 12/03/2024 23:19

No. Just me. Dh always gets up with dcs

LBOCS2 · 12/03/2024 23:57

When we had young DC we arranged it so we had a weekend morning and a weekday evening to do what we wanted with - he would play football with both, I'd socialise during the week and sleep in at the weekend.

Nowadays our DC are older - so 16 and 12yo don't surface before 11.30, and our 7yo gets up and potters about until about 9 when she gets bored. So it's a bit of a moot point - DH is up and out early on a Saturday but I don't need to be around in such a supervisory manner so he gives her breakfast and I surface about an hour later (or she comes in for morning cuddles and to put her cold feet on me). On Sunday DH tends to get up earlier but they all sleep through and no one is up at 5am so we're all much better rested nowadays!

Jeannne92 · 13/03/2024 00:04

DC are 11 and 12 so can get their own breakfast and occupy themselves on a weekend morning. I tend to be an early riser but I go out for a run and also like to lie in bed reading, but once in a while I'm exhausted on a Saturday and need to sleep in until 9am ish so I do. On Sundays I go to play sport at 8.30am and DS comes if he is up and ready (usually is). DD tends to sleep in until 9.30am/10am, occasionally a bit later on Saturdays if she has had church group on a Friday as then she gets home late. DH will mostly sleep/lie in but is always happy to get up if needed.

coxesorangepippin · 13/03/2024 01:08

DH gets up every morning

I lie in till about 8 at weekend, 7.30am during the week

RainbowRedPanda · 13/03/2024 02:28

I get up with DS every morning. Saturday DH sleeps in with DD, on Sunday we go out for breakfast so I wake him up. DS still naps so if I'm tired I'll have a nap with him while DH plays with DD (she is not a factor in lie ins as she's always the last one awake in the morning!).

WandaWonder · 13/03/2024 02:55

TheBeanBeanie · 12/03/2024 20:43

Tried to. It doesn't work when they are older and bouncing on the bed

Yeah I think we tried it but didn't really work but we just helped each other with whatever needed doing

DrRichardWebber · 13/03/2024 07:30

We absolutely do. I get Saturday, DH gets Sunday. We also give each other a little bit of time each weekend to do something for ourselves. So gym/run etc. It keeps us sane.

ScouseOfCards · 13/03/2024 07:46

Yes, we both have a lie in on alternate weekend days. Normally til around 9am. DH goes back to sleep and that's the time he tends to wake up again. I struggle to go back to sleep so I normally read a book or have a cup of tea in bed.

We normally give each other a bit of time at the weekend. So if DH wants to go to the garage and do whatever he does in there for an hour or two I'll look after DDs but similarly if I want to go to the gym or upstairs for a long bath he will watch them.

wpfklaur · 13/03/2024 07:54

Abso-fucking-lutely, alternated until the day we decided they were old enough for us both to stay in bed. That was like winning the parental lottery.

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