Do you ever tell someone how great they are to their face?

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Inspired by something that happened today - I overheard 2 people talking about my work colleague, they were full of praise and admiration for her, basically saying how brilliant she is, and what a lovely person as well.

She is a close friend of mine and I know for a fact that she is plagued by self doubt and imposter syndrome, and when I told her what I heard she was absolutely stunned. She honestly had no idea these people felt so positively about her, they have never said anything directly to her to give that impression.

It got me thinking that culturally (in Britain anyway!) we really don’t tend to give positive feedback to people’s faces - it feels awkward/a bit cringey. I just assume the people I think highly of know how great they are - but it’s suddenly occurred to me that maybe they don’t?!

Yes - And everyone should do this more - it makes a massive difference!

Yes. I believe that when an action/behaviour/word is spot on it should be acknowledged.

Me too. And if someone tells me something complimentary about someone else, I always pass it on because I love it when people do that for me.

Yes I always thank my work colleagues and tell them they have worked hard even if some of them have been bloody lazy Its the way forward for them to feel appreciated and come to work the next day .
As for my friends we all tell each other how brilliant we are ….definitely need to feel boosted.

I do, yes, but never used to because I used to think it was cringe.

As I got older I began to see things differently and make a point of telling people they're amazing and why, if indeed, they are amazing 😂

Yes I do. I work in a difficult job, for lousy pay yet with wonderful people...and we all make an effort to keep eachother upbeat... so saying ' thanks, you are doing a great job and I love working with you' comes pretty naturally.

I was away for a couple of weeks visiting my son in Oz, and I must say hearing
' thank God you are back, we missed you so much!' made me feel happy to know I am valued.

I try to say nice things to people as often as I can. Not necessarily about how great they are... It might be to say I really like what they are wearing, or to say how helpful they have been, even to say that I like their handwriting and, of course, to say what a great job they are doing etc.

I know what a difference it makes to me, so I assume that it will have a positive effect on others.

Of course I do. Why ever not?

Yeah. One of my friends is into crafts and stuff - making clothes, decorating things, painting and is good on computers . I loved the stuff she recently made on her sewing machine.

Also a porter at work is great with phones so always comes to my rescue!!!

I do, more to my mum friends than any other people cos the first few years are hard, and can be really isolating.

I do, often! I stop people to tell them I like their clothes, or that they have a lovely smile. Though I'm becoming more concerned doing stuff like this, shouldn't be all about looks and clothes and I'd hate to be called out for being shallow or something inadvertent like that. I also say thank you to people litter picking, or doing things for the good of the community (even if it's their job) like the bin collectors etc. I often tell my sons teacher what a gem she is, and recently wrote a letter to the Head singing her praises as people are so quick to complain but not as quick to compliment. I tell my friends how much I appreciate them, I tell them how amazing their kids are and how lucky we are to know them.

What I love about it, is it's rubbing off on my kids. My son stopped someone at the park the other day and said 'wow your coat is so bright and lovely, just seeing it makes me smile!' and the owner of said coat lit up. Loving these little acts of kindness! Wish there were more of them <3

I'm so sorry about your brother. Really glad you had a good friend supporting you through it xx

Yes, I tell work colleagues how good they are at their job ( I work with some really great people) and I tell my daughter, sons and sisters how fab they are too.