Sleeping in bed with Dad aged 10?

[Mangococktail]

My friend is dating a guy and I have red flags everywhere.

She is extraordinary defensive of him.

The latest is that his 10 year old daughter sleeps in his bed with him.

I'm not a parent. Child is not an only child.

Am I completely wrong to think this is not normal?

Is it really?!?

Only in the weird world of MN. In the real world, preteens/teens don't like sleeping with adults of the opposite sex. That's so not normal. As I say, I have a teen daughter and she would be disgusted at the idea of sharing a bed with a grown hairy man. She doesn't even like to share with me on the off occasion she had to (at hotels). It's totally weird to want to do that.

Only in the weird world of MN. In the real world, preteens/teens don't like sleeping with adults of the opposite sex. That's so not normal.

10 is year 5 or 6. It making it sound like it's a teenager with a boyfriend and job who's ready to fly the nest.

When my parents divorced, I was very anxious and upset. Not beyond the realms of reason that a 10yo would want to be close to her dad. And what child doesn't like getting to sleep in their parents big bed?

As long as she has her own bed and is choosing where she wants to go - no issue.

What do think is happening here, if not the above?

@XelaM i'd suggest it's your family that's not normal and seem cold. I have a 16 year old daughter who still snuggles up with me to watch a film or when she's upset. no after 11/12 they wouldn't have slept in same bed as dad but before there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

The ‘real world’ as you put it, includes a lot more people than the small demographic of a uk based forum. In the real world there are huge populations where the whole family sleep together. All across large parts of Asia, Africa, Nordic countries etc it’s totally normal for families to share beds. Just because in your culture you think it’s ‘disgusting’, it doesnt make it so. And it’s not disgusting for the people in your culture to bed share either

It's a really difficult situation to be in. DS only started sleeping in his own room when he was 8, now at 10 I still have to get in bed with him for him to fall asleep - in our case DS is autistic. But a distressed child who won't sleep on their own is not easy to deal with, and you have no idea when it starts whether it's something they'll grow out of on their own within a few months, or if it will become indefinite, or indeed what you should do about it.

She snuggles up to me to watch a film on the sofa but doesn't want to share a bed with me and certainly not with her dad or grandfather or uncle or any adult man. That's totally weird for a teenager to want to do.

And women have never been known to sexually abuse children.

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Nice. Classy.

How is there anything wrong with that post? Are in quite alright, op?

Nevermind that the other poster called it weird and disgusting. That's perfectly nice and classy to you. Using the word cold is apparently 'not classy'.